How do you deal with a guy who is hot and cold?

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Bram852OOO · Accepted Answer

I have the same with my best friend (that i like) i get a lot of mixed signals from her but i do know the reason for it.
Last year she lost her ex-best friend the same way and had z realy hard time with it and a month ago, another guy she was liking suddenly cut all contact with her.

So tonme it seems like she does like me but is afraid that something will go wrong and that she then loses her best friend again.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

To be honest with you I don't know about guys but I have friends that are girls that are that way and that's just too Moody for me I told him if he can't just be one person then forget it I don't like the up and down hot and cold stuff

aqua0101 · Accepted Answer

The cold and hot situation , gives me a headache, just thinking about it. He's not serious about you and he's playing mind games. Sounds like he's insecure , so he's projecting onto you , in his behavior.. Move on. So there won't be any heartache for you.

mamasan · Accepted Answer

You don't. Hot and cold is a red flag, or at the very least, a lack of interest on his part. Anyone who can't be a consistent and reliable part of your life isn't worth the energy and heartache... in my opinion, anyway.

SwedishTwizz · Answer

He is surely dealing with something. I think he is still in love with someone else. I have some friends that can't get over their exes and they try to be with someone else but they can't fully love the new partner. Is like its hard for some to get over it.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

It could just be that he can't do anything about it just now.
I mean, he can have strong emotions for you but if he's a principled guy then he might not allow himself to cross a line.
He could be taken, not ready or trying to keep it proffesional.
Still he might seem flirty because in the moment he might not be able to help it.
Besides, being flirty and forward does not always mean they are interested romantically.

Pj1981 · Answer

You can try to talk to him about it but it's likely just something he is dealing with in his head that comes out on you. If he doesn't want to talk about it ditch him and find someone with emotional stability.

proNutro · Answer

You don’t. You leave. Nah I’d never settle for that haha. I’d have been gone the second I figured out his behaviour pattern.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

You either deal with it or leave. You can only control your actions in life. If you dont trust him to lead you, leave.

natured · Answer

Usually not giving out any reaction back helps a lot, they will notice that they are being pricks and stop the nonsense lol.

dillbill561 · Answer

Don’t give him any reason to doubt your affections. Be understanding and supportive of any medical/psychological or other health excuses that could be getting him upset.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Don't react and thats it , once they know it doesn't bother you anyway they are and you are just same and invariant of there behaviour. They become normal

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Dump him. I don't have time for his silly games or narcissism.

bolverk · Answer

Try asking him why. But try not being accusatory when you ask, if he sees it as an accusation then he’ll be gone.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Find a different guy! Not dealing with mind games I like the blunt guys that say it as it is

Likes2drive · Answer

Those type of people seem to be either bipolar or probably someone drinks often to have different mood swings like that so I usually don’t talk to people during their bad moments Who are like that

loveslongnails · Answer

You dump him. Inconsistency is a HUUUUUUUGE red flag.

Mr_should_i · Answer

Is he cold with everyone or just with you?
If just with you he is either very shy to talk to you or he doesn't even want to talk to you , and if he is cold with everyone that's just who he is you can't change it.

Jlegacy · Answer

Love him when he is hot, spew him when he cold or just find another guy.

the_sinner · Answer

You gotta stay constantly in between hot and cold. If you try matching with his mood swings each time then within a short period you will feel too exhausted and frustrated being with him.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Walk away. Life is too short to be pulling teeth with someone.

Quiet-Ness · Answer

Take step back. If he can't make up his mind, he's got options. Therefore make sure you have yours.

SilverRain92 · Answer

He is a player. Look for another guy who would be more serious and sincere with you

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Just like how you deal with a girl who is hot and cold

Nazgol · Answer

Dont play his game. Either tell him to stop doing that or end it if it drives you insane. Guys like that barley change and get a thrill out of it

Account · Answer

I mimic them. Entirely.

crazy8000 · Answer

Indifferent. And keep them in a certain distance

LeoElias · Answer

I wouldn't mess with a guy you don't understand. A disaster waiting to happen

Clarke498 · Answer

Why deal with him at all? If he's cold he's not interested.

iammaria · Answer

Dont deal with him. Find another person that qctually cares for u

Nikki_02 · Answer

I don’t deal with hot and cold people I cut them out.

SleepyFlower · Answer

Easy you be hot and cold right back

Sue_Free · Answer

I turn ice cold and look for a different guy.

Somegirl408 · Answer

try and figure him out

Ninjazzed · Answer

You don’t. Unpredictability is a bad sign.

Sia_nee · Answer

Be Hot and Cold to them too

sullyk1234 · Answer

move on find anthor date a lot of men at once

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s not worth it MoveOn

Protein_mate · Answer

Call him out on it and ask wtf is up

Sketti2021 · Answer

I don't. That's not good

princeofromance · Answer

You get rid of him for somebody who is stable.

Smegskull · Answer

I don't know what that even means.

Titanya · Answer

You don't.

isabellahudson08 · Answer

I'll slap his ass

jimmy2 · Answer

Stay away he is confused

Jetman121 · Answer

Is he in and out Up or down?

safespace · Answer

I don’t.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

you don't

AkshiJanjua · Answer

Cut him loose✂️

Sabretooth · Answer

Cut him loose.

Slim57 · Answer

You dont

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