My boyfriend has female coworker's numbers in his phone , Is this a red flag?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years. We have always been upfront with each other on certain things we are not okay with. Recently my boyfriend transferred his job to a different location. He failed to tell me that has was working closely with 4 other girls at this place and had two of their numbers in his phone. When i confronted him about this (our contacts are synchronized through google) he said he didn't need to tell me that he had their numbers and that it wasn't my business. He also said that he had everyone's numbers at work in his phone but when I looked for other numbers they weren't there. I've had issues with him in the past getting too friendly with other girls and at the first sign of us having an issue he went to sleep with one of them saying before hand that we couldn't sleep with other people in the break... Sometimes when I go to pick him up from work I see him talking with them and when he tells me about his day fails to ever mention that he was with them all day. At this point my trust level with this man is very low and he just can't stop keeping things from me. I'm currently carrying his child and at this point I'm feeling very unsure of our future.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't necessarily "mean" anything. I think at just about every job I've had I have co-workers in my phone, male and female. Means nothing. Rarely text, and if we do, usually work related, but sometimes it's just a friendly "how are you" thing as well. Some I like to think of as friends to some degree. I've never slept with any of them ever.

In your situation though it sounds like some trust issues for sure. Do you have reason not to trust him (anything besides this?). I'm sorry you're carrying his child if there's no trust in your relationship.

[DumBear]

I have a lot of my coworkers numbers in my phone. Guys and girls. We often text anout things like lunch, covering shifts, someomes birthday. Things like that.
I dont think its a red flag. A red flag would be him coming home late, going out with said coworkers, or texting them all night long or after you're asleep often.
I think you're possibly being a bit overbearing, but i can understand why your trust is low if during a break he hooked up w someone when you both agreed not to.

[neeeeeeeko]

You can't police someone who's going to cheat. They know it's wrong, and they know how you feel about it. It's inevitable regardless of what you do to try to stop him.
The only thing you can do is trust him and keep an eye out for any evidence that he has cheated. Figure out what you want to do if you find anything. There's no reason to have such a high guard, that's just stressing both of you guys out for no good reason.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for your boyfriend he can’t control who his coworkers are & if those coworkers happen to be girls there is nothing he can do about it. As for having girls phone numbers he doesn’t have to tell you because your contacts are already synchronized so he already disclosed it to you & when it comes to having trust issues it’s a two way street now.

[spartan55]

You don't trust him yet you let him knock you up. Brilliant.

[Bklynbadboy12]

that depends on what he does for a living some jobs require you have your coworkers number

[Sam_The_Savage]

God blessed your boyfriend from you.

[IncognitoBandito]

Depends on the kind of work he does.

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

What's your socioeconomic background?

[In_Trance]

it's not a green flag, that's for sure

[Anonymous]

I think you should just get over it