What do I do now?

[Geeeneyesssss]

After chatted to a guy on Facebook we met for the fest time last night , after chatted he asked if I would like to have a few drinks at his home , I said yes and I felt safe because we have lots of mutual friends on Facebook and he works near me. So we went to his and chatted and drank he was becoming more tipsy than I and he kissed me , we kissed and he became more intense and I told him I don’t sleep with a guy on the first date he said that’s ok we are just kissing but he became more intense again and taking my clothes off I said no then he sat back panicking like he was going to cry he looked scared and kept on saying sorry sorry I’m sorry , I was a little shocked. The night went on and yes I ended up sleeping with him. He wanted me to stay in the morning but I wanted to leave because I had things to do , I told me to text him when I get home and I did he then texted saying just realised we didn’t use protection I know it’s a big thing we had done and I have been single for over two years and no sex and I’m clean because I had a test. I told him this and he said I didn’t mean that , obviously he meant pregnancy which I’m on the pill. At the moment I’m feeling upset with myself. What should I do now

[JustinTimberlegs]

I think you're both looking for different things, if you want something serious I don't think this is the guy. He didn't respect your boundaries even when you clearly stated you don't have sex on the first date, and was more worried about making sure you were on the pill than about how you were feeling and what happened.

Maybe it was just because he was drunk but I wouldn't take the risk.

I'm sorry it wasn't an ideal situation to be in and that you don't feel too great about yourself right now, but try not to blame yourself. You wanted it to work and you clearly cared about his feelings. He was the one who abused this and used it to his advantage.

You seem kind and I believe you deserve a better person. I hope you find him and I hope you manage to be kind to yourself too. Best wishes!

[molonski2]

I dont think you have to do anything , its a reasonable outcome , just take it easy on yourself , keep in touch with him , maybe go gently and see how things pan out.

All will okey , no harm done.

[Geeeneyesssss]

After what he said I did text him to say that we can remain friends but I think we are both looking for different things , I did not think I would hear from him but he messaged today and I did say I wasn’t expecting to hear from you and he replied you said we can be friends? This is awkward and he’s very short with messages what do I do

[molonski2]

Id just keep talking , keep it nice , and just see how things progress ,
Make it ( indirectly ) clear that you will not be a friends with benefits , thats not what you want.

[Geeeneyesssss]

Yes he messages but very short messages , he messages first , I kept it nice and told him I will stay friends but not with benefits and I’ll never be that with anyone ! He replied yes friends is good , no benefits thanks , have a nice day.
Now I’m reading into his message lol

[Geeeneyesssss]

That was meant to say I’ll never be anyone’s friends with benefits

[molonski2]

Yeah , after that conversation , Id drop it for a bit , and just leave him there , with all that in mind , he really did set about to pressure you which , well , was questionable. If he's worth it , he will come back , if not , it was never going to be any good anyhow.

[Geeeneyesssss]

Thank you for your advice you have really helped me 😊

[stevef73]

Ill be blunt and to the point. Why feel upset with yourself? Drink doesn't make you do something you don't want to do. If your feeling upset about what has happened its because you know you have let yourself down. Then again you have to ask yourself have you let yourself down and did you really want this to happen but it didn't happen they way you had pictured in your mind?

[No_biryani]

I think you should block this guy, he is bad bad bad company. Plus you should also avoid going back to a guys place on a first date and drink

[Wise4myage]

See if you're pregnant and never go to a guys house so soon after meeting him.

[Sketti2021]

Do what you want to do