If my boyfriend forgets the plans we’ve made, does it mean he doesn’t care or he just forgot?

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t care

He forgot

Other (explain)

[Xoxocutekitty]

If it's a routine problem, he doesn't care.

When your boss says you have a presentation sometime next week, even if you forget which day, you take 2 seconds to ask them.

Or if you're a 'forgetful' person, you put it in your calendar like a high functioning adult so you don't break promises. Trash goes out every Thursday, this party is on the 19th, your mother is visiting on this day. Life has consequences, when you say yes and then don't show up, people get mad.

It's normal to forget a plan once or twice, but also if you're not apologetic about breaking your word, then you're not acting as a person of character.

If someone denies responsibility for making promises (its your fault for not reminding me) then they're not the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with. If they want to hang out with you, they will do what they need to on their end to remember it.

[Poppykate]

I think some of the guys on here are being sarcastic. Is he your age? Is he trying to establish his career? You need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. If he is working hard at work, trying to establish himself in his career, trying to make a solid future for him (and perhaps you)…. Then a party is going to be way down on his list of priorities! If you want to be apart of his future, you need to get on board. Support him. Encourage him. Be the strong woman behind her man.

[NicoletteXO]

Mmm if he's paying her bills then sure. Otherwise, why are you making excuses for bum behaviour? I bet she is trying to make something of herself too, and she can still remember when they have plans.

[Adam1978]

It tells you that it's plans he hasn't been looking forward to or been excited about. It doesn't mean he doesn't care. He simply didn't have the plan in his head when he made new ones.

[spartan55]

The plans "we've" made, or the plans YOU made and he went along with?
What were the plans, and how long ago were they made?

[NicoletteXO]

If he agreed to them, then it's his responsibility to keep those plans or reschedule. Just like in business. Even if a client really wants to see you and you are finding it difficult to fit them into your schedule, if you agree to do so then flake, that's your bum move, not theirs.

[jillybeanns]

Unless it’s due to a medical condition, or a side effect of a medication he is taking, then he might not care as much as you think. From experience, a man will not forget anything about a woman he is totally into.

[spartan55]

Not true at all.

[NicoletteXO]

You are totally right. Men who are really into me never forget a damn thing.

[spartan55]

One has nothing to do with the other.

[NicoletteXO]

@spartan55 So wrong. If you value a client, you will show up to your appointment with them. If you value your child, you will show up to their soccer game. If you forget regularly, you don't value them. You don't care.

[spartan55]

Who said anything about regularly?

[NicoletteXO]

@spartan55 In the comments, the OP said it happens regularly - every few weeks.

[jillybeanns]

Just speaking in terms of my experience. I’ve never personally encountered a guy that was not proactive about me or the plans that we mutually agreed to. So it’s hard for me to fathom a guy who is (regularly) forgetting about plans we both agreed to, no matter who made the initial plan first. I wouldn’t think that he genuinely cared for me.

[NicoletteXO]

And you'd be totally right!

[NicoletteXO]

If this only ever happens once in a blue moon (I'm talking maybe once in every 20 times), then yeah, maybe he just forgot.

Much more than this, and he doesn't care.

At least, he doesn't care enough to make you a priority in any way.

[TwistedSukuna]

As someone who ended up doing this a lot in my last relationship of 3 years, he likely just forgot. Though if he ends up forgetting huge plans or dates like birthdays or anniversaries there may be an issue you need to talk about with him.

[Anonymous]

i recently made plans with my S. O. to go see a movie with them and I forgot I made plans. I been busy with business meetings and business stuff it completely slipped my mind. I'd rather not say what type of business stuff as I don't want to jinx it until it's done

[Opinion Owner]

between that and me trying to find a new primary health care physician after the blowouts I had with my previous one it's been a lot going on. besides I got them a 14k gold butterfly pin for their birthday and gave them a song I wrote for their upcoming birthday and got them a birthday card and a birthday cake and sung happy birthday to them so :P

[Bjornasey]

I tend to forget things that isn't important quite a bit, work, studying and improving oneself is more important then say going to the zoo every couple of months.

[NicoletteXO]

So you're saying keeping your word with your girlfriend isn't important? Wow.

[PinkMichae]

It could be his day was so hectic he had tunnel vision getting home to relax. If he did it several time then I'd question it.

[Alyssa11]

People forget but the problem is when it happens consistently.

[Anonymous]

Time flies. My own fiance once in awhile will forget that we have plans. I think though he gets mad at me and makes this an excuse. How about your guy? hahaha

[exitseven]

If it is a big enough deal to him he will not forget it unless something really earth shattering happened to him.

[Birdlegs]

He just forgot I’m forgetful myself and I need to be reminded of things

[Aakash_Hangargi]

May be he changed his mind about party.

Or he got busy and forgot

[JennBITx]

I have a very good memory, but work will sometimes overload me and I will forget things.

[FilmGuy93]

Depends on how often it happens, but usually he genuinely just forget.

[scooogy]

In junior high school I once forgot to meet with my girlfriend because, looking back, my mother stressed me out too much.

[Anonymous]

He may doesn't care or he may even forgot. You can't actually know unless you see if he repeats the same mistake again or not

[RawIronhide]

Hard to say, sometimes it's just stress or depression, if it becomes a patter it may indicate a disregard for your feelings.

[rienna888]

It depends, it could be he didn't want to do the plans or pay (sometimes my boyfriend can be cheap)

[Anonymous]

prob either forgot or hoped u would, maybe isn't into what u want to do.

[bulletbob555]

Most likely he just forgot. Don't try reading more into it than it was. Probably be happier as well

[NicoletteXO]

If you just 'forgot' to show up to a meeting with a client, you'd be fired. Bet the boss wouldn't just be like "oh well, I won't read into it!". Guy needs to get his act together.

[coupleofquestions]

Based on these results. Guys admit we forgot but woman are convinced we don't care

[Browneye57]

What plans exactly? He was supposed to take you shopping or what?

[Asker]

We’re going to a party

[Browneye57]

And how long ago were these plans made?
And then a few days before you mentioned it again... plans for the party... and he commented, but then completely forgot he committed to go?

I think this is on you. If you want your man to understand something, you need to keep it in his forefront, remind him. ESPECIALLY if it's important to YOU. Keep in mind it is probably not nearly as important to HIM. If he's worth his salt he's busy chasing his life goals and aspirations, actually trying to go somewhere and be someone.

But you're focused on a silly social event.

[Asker]

About a month ago. But we’ve had several conversations about it and it’s in his calendar on his phone. I don’t know why you’re trying to blame me.

[Browneye57]

Because YOU are the one making it an issue.
What makes you think he forgot? Maybe he just doesn't want to go, or doesn't care. That you are confused is the problem, not the 'plans you've made'. You're focused on the wrong thing, which is typical. You're not connecting with your man, and you want to blame him. FAIL

[Asker]

Whatever you’re too old to really relate anyway

[Browneye57]

You're a moron. I have three grown children, all older than you, and an entire lifetime of knowledge and experience. You? Pretty much nothing. You didn't come here to learn anything, you came for attention and validation. You're relationship is gonna go down the tubes, and it will be YEARS before you figure it out. Good luck. Dumbass.

[Asker]

Stop crying

[Browneye57]

Eat shit.

[Browneye57]

by the way, now we know why your boyfriend forgets or ignores your shit. Cuz you're a cunt to him. You will fail every guy you get until you change your attitude. It just sucks. Good luck with that, you lose.

[Asker]

Lol whatever

[NicoletteXO]

Are you fucking kidding? So he agrees to plans with her, and you expect her to nag him constantly so he can remember the plans he made? He is a grown adult, not a child. What a warped view you have.

[NicoletteXO]

I feel sorry for your children, having an emotionally obtunded father like you would suck balls. Don't listen to this douchebag, OP. Your attitude is just fine, he's a loser. And an old, bitter, stupid one too. Bet he's not getting any pussy these days with that stank attitude.

[Browneye57]

@NicoletteXO - Quit being so cunty. This isn't your question, bugger off.

[Asker]

You’re the cunt

[Browneye57]

Truth and reality comes hard for you bimbos. Here you are whining about your man on a public forum, and more bimbos join you for validation. LOSERS!!!

[Asker]

Cry about it x

[Browneye57]

Good idea. You can cry all you want about it. Maybe you can implode your relationship at the same time. Guys get tired of all that whining and fussing. You'll see.
I would adopt a NEW word if I were you... GRATEFUL. Yeah, you've never heard of that one, we know.

[Asker]

Lol why are you so triggered

[Browneye57]

Why are you? This is YOUR question!!! My guess is you'll implode your relationship. You're one of those.

[NicoletteXO]

Cool story, diseased dick.

[NicoletteXO]

You literally are a piece of male filth.

[Browneye57]

@NicoletteXO - I am literally just outstanding. A huge success, rich, good looking, accomplished, mature, wise, and knowledgeable. You? A complete failure. And boring AF to boot. Oh well. And you think I give a fucking shit. Hahaha.

[NicoletteXO]

From the sounds of this, you are actually a pimple-faced 13 year old dude sitting in his Mum's basement next to his crusty wank-sock, who has created a fake profile so he can troll. This is the most likely situation. If not, your situation is worse. And Grandpa needs his meds for messianic ideation!

[NicoletteXO]

Also... if that really is a picture of you on your profile (I doubt it, but if it is)... I hate to break it to you, but you're not good looking.

[NicoletteXO]

In addition, your boast about being 'wise' is clearly falsified by the fact that you spend your time hanging shit on young women on the internet. Sorry, Gramps, Buddha is just rolling his eyes at you.

[FoghornLeghorn99]

How often does happen?


We're they big plans or just everyday stuff.

[Asker]

It’s a party we’re meant to attend and it happens maybe every few weeks

[NicoletteXO]

Oh god. Dump him and move on! This guy doesn't give a shit about you.

[Anonymous]

let's be real. he doesn't care. if he thought about you a lot, he wouldn't forget. end of story.

[es20490446e]

Not his priority, yet it doesn't mean he doesn't care.

[NicoletteXO]

If she is not a priority, it actually does mean he doesn't care.

[es20490446e]

@NicoletteXO He doesn't care enough.

[Anonymous]

He's got more important things he cares about and your not one of them. If he thought enough of you then he would tell you he couldn't make it ahead of time.

[NicoletteXO]

Correct

[Ninani]

He might be stressed out.

[Anonymous]

Another reminder that I sometimes resent women because they always expect the guy to take the lead

[ChocoBat]

AAAAAAAASKKKKK HIIIIM

[888theGreat]

It is called being male

[NicoletteXO]

No, it's called disrespect.

[J2ohhhhh]

He probably cheats on you

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

I would say forgot, because I regularly do

[Fuentes]

Depends if he's forgetful or not

[Starwitch23]

Doesn't care

[elizamichale1]

he just forgot honey

[Babygirl_S]

It could be both.

[Diya010]

He forgot

[sponge-bob]

what were the plans?

[Asker]

A party

[Joker_]

It means both

[Anonymous]

he's banging your mom

[NicoletteXO]

Lol.

[Uptowngirl88]

Not his priority