I told my husband his penis was small after he insulted me twice. How do I mend this situation?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday morning I walked out of our room and gave my husband a big good morning hug. He grabbed my butt and told me I needed to do some squats. I quickly replied that wasn’t a nice thing to say and that no woman wants to hear that. My husband is a former professional athlete and it is impossible for to keep up with him. I am in good shape but not where I want to be so he knows I am insecure about it. We go along about our day and again in the afternoon he tells me that I need to workout and do some squats at this point I was pissed and told him his penis was small. He immediately got pissed and told me I crossed the line and not to talk to him the rest of the day. I apologized very sincerely and explained it was a reaction to his words and I don’t in fact feel that way. He finally seemed like he got over it until bed time he got mad again and brought up he was already insecure about it. We have been married for 11 years and have 2 kids I never knew he was insecure about it. I feel like he is overly making me pay for this considering he threw the first punch. His reasoning was that I should have taken his comment positively and as motivation haha yeah ok. This morning he left for work and stop sharing his location with me which I never looked at it anyway and has also blocked my phone number. I feel like he is being very immature about this and he has a history of stone walling over small arguments. How do I mend this situation? I don’t deal well with conflict and have been a mess all day about it.

[btbc92]

You don't have to take anything from him. The fact he thought to be so insensitive gives him the right to be mad about his penis? This is how men get into trouble and then want to know how come women be so quick to divorce. Nobody wants to be abused like that. Both of you need to sincerely apologize, but you need to think about how this marriage is going to be. He doesn't see he is ruining his marriage. He needs to fix it. You both shouldn't have said that, but these men are going to learn that hard way when you insult and affect a woman she will go below the belt. He attacked you and they want to call it to advise? That is not advice. If you never looked what he wanted because he was an athlete why he married you? Men who behave like this need to grow up. I would never marry or date a man who treats women this way. Men making sexist comments like this are this close to getting a divorce because the last thing a woman needs is to be feeling used only for a body. A woman doesn't care about his penis. She cares about how he treats her. If your penis comments hurt, that means that is all your focus and pride are on. Their penises. It's not that he is insecure about it. Any man would. But that they pride in their sexual ability and that is how many of them lose relationships with women.

[btbc92]

What he is saying is that he is losing attraction to you and you are NOT at fault. He is a jerk of a husband. He better watch before God forbid you are ready to file if he cannot learn to respect you. You are the mother of his two kids. What the hell? Is he really asking to lose the marriage? Is he thinking about looking elsewhere? You better get to the bottom of this. Because if he is that quick to block you and your his wife, that says the trouble is brewing and he may have been thinking of things behind your back and because you made that comment now he may have the motivation to look at other women. And what makes it worse, you don't where he may be looking without you knowing. Please keep your guard up. Because I have seen and witnessed this myself as a child of such a marriage. It doesn't end well.

[StevieB213]

He needs to get a side chick for a second opinion and stop having sex and spending whatever money he makes on his wife - let her earn her own. See if the side chick treats him better. If they divorce they divorce... not a big deal.

[Landyachtdriver]

You think a man with a small unit has the confidence to seek out a side chick? Trouble started brewing the second she used this nuke. Her weight issue can be resolved, his situation is a curse which cannot. How do you take it as losing attraction? Maybe he doesn’t want her ballooning up getting diabetes. FYI. Guys don’t grab your ass when they’ve lost their attraction. They become distant and wouldn’t bother making that statement albeit bad. This is why women like you make terrible friends. You go to the worst conclusions over some bad taste statement. Losing interest isn’t a simple and out of line statement. It is a lifestyle. It’s a wall. It’s the complete lack of care. This guy, believe it or not actually cared. You don’t understand why he blocked or cut her off, that’s because she replied with the worst thing. I’d argue she had already lost interest if she could dip to that level. She lost interest by letting her appearance go.

[Anonymous]

You don’t mend anything. Let him have his tantrum. Dude is hella insecure and not shy to share it. Pathetic really. Instead of sitting there wondering how you should fix this you should ask yourself what you’re doing with him at all. Stonewalling is emotionally abusive and so is his comments about your body. I suspect this is not all either. You’re not setting up a great example for your kids by allowing this sort of behavior to play out. Call him out on his bullshit once he’s calmed down and ask him to see a therapist. Demand change or leave. Both for your and your kids sake.

[Shortman70]

Demand change, like you are the Queen. They both did things wrong, they should seek counseling. Maybe instead of steering this couple towards a divorce with these one sided femdom comments, try to help them save this marriage. I'm not sure how or who damaged you ladies to the point to build this hatred towards men but you need to address it or you will die lonely old spinsters with no friends. All men are not evil sex machines, we are human, we make mistakes. In this situation the man makes a mistake but so did the female. Instead of placing blame on both sides, you praised the woman and crucified the man. All the female replies were the same. This marriage will end in divorce and you ladies need to accept your part in this. Don't bother bashing me I'm not responding.

[backblueblack22]

He did wrong making that comment but you did worse.

So in your mind you think: he was insulting and he hurt my self esteem. I want to make him see what it feels like. I want him to feel the same insecurity I feel.

In his mind: I worked out hard to look good so why can’t she put in the same amount of effort. If she did harder exercises that butt would look nicer.

But there is one MAJOR difference here. He insulted you over something you can change. That doesn’t mean he should of said that or at least in the way he did. But still he looks at things on what they can become. That’s male lógical thinking.

You gave him a very deep insult on something he has absolutely zero control over. What’s he supposed to do? Be Austin Powers and get a penis enlarger kit? Unless a man gets surgery (huge risk) there is very little he can do about that. That was decided for him on a genetic level.

That wasn’t not a fair insult to give him. You should apologize and just say you were upset but his penis is fine.

[backblueblack22]

Actually I read the question again. I’m glad you apologized.

Is it true his penis is small or did you just say that because you knew it would hurt him (true or not)? Be honest.

[btbc92]

You men need to stop think and stop with this before you end u with a divorce on your hands. Women LOVE YOU FOR YOU. NOT your penis. If you are not attracted to us for us, be with a woman who is like yourself and gives you want you want. What you do si hurtful. And if she is not in her right mind, you want to know why most women now look at other men who are not like you. Wrong either way, but don't be shocked and then think "marriage" is a "bad deal for men." Wrong. you just mess it up with that person. I would never want to marry or date a man who so emotionally and physically abusive. NEVER. There is NO major difference here. Your just keeping score. And if you keep score in any relationship. you always lose. Marriage is a commitment, it is NOT a competition or don't be in it at all.

[btbc92]

We don't CARE about your penis we JUST WANT TO LOVE YOU!! WHY can you men not want to love us the same!!! You don't give a damn. All your saying is how narcissistic, unattractive, undesirable, and unhealthy you men are. It is sad women have to settle and call this a marriage. This is not a marriage. Any man who would treat me like that is not attractive to me and I would leave in a heartbeat. My body has nothing to do with him loving me or not. It is a choice. If many of you men not watch that damaging porn, hoping from female to female, having premarital sex, sexist attitudes, and toxic mentality many men would have marriages, and divorces would NOT be implemented by women at 70%. WAKE UP. Your pride is killing your relationships. Not women.

[backblueblack22]

@btbc92 you completely missed the point I was trying to make. Utterly and entirely.

Best of luck

[btbc92]

No. Understand entirely like a child of such a dysfunctional, abusive marriage of over 2 decades before my mom died, you making excuses and is biased. It is WRONG. PERIOD. DO NOT DO IT. The point IS. YOU apologize as a man and NEVER make such a comment to a woman about her body again. Or you're screwed.

[btbc92]

This marriage has verbal abuse and that is a sign of problems. His penis size is not the point of the question. But the abuse that is being revealed in that marriage. It is toxic. And not good. It is petty. It is just pettiness. But his reaction is a sign of possible infidelity. When a man makes that comment, usually he is already cheating on his wife.

[backblueblack22]

@btbc92 your wasting your time. You obviously put zero effort in understanding my POV so I’m don’t care to understand yours. Best of luck.

[btbc92]

If that is your attitude then that is on you. You accuse me for failing to understand when I understand more than enough. It is not about yours or my POV. It is about the facts and it's about what is morally right and wrong. And it is morally wrong to do that to anyone. So continue to have the nasty attitude, I rather not be around it.

[backblueblack22]

@btbc92 you know my ex girlfriend was “skinny fat”. She looked tall and thin but she had a bit of stomach. I never said a word about that. However I exercise everyday so I invited her to join me at the gym. Sometimes she didn’t want to go but I pushed her saying that I (not her) really wanted to exercise and I liked it when she was there with me. She often thanked me after it was all done.

Now the comment this guy made about his wife’s bum being “squishy” was stupid and wrong. I would never say that (unless she insulted me first and didn’t relent).

But taking things a step further and insulting someone back over something they have ZERO control over is absolutely disgustingly wrong. He did bad and she did worse. There is a distinction you failed to recognize there.

[btbc92]

@backblueblack22 What your ex-girlfriend looked like was none of your business. If she wasn't what you wanted, you didn't have to date her. You inviting her to the gym is insulting. You saying you are not being honest about what you really are thinking. That she isn't or becoming unattractive to you. That is a cowardly way of saying that. You want to exercise every day, that is good for you. So date a person who equally likes and desires that. You cannot just pick any person and you are unhappy with who they are. You don't want women trying to change you, don't do the same to women either. Why is she your ex? You glorify a person who isn't present in your life anymore. So it tells me a whole lot. Unless she cheated, she must have left you for a reason. That is not a step further. it is wrong. Period. You don't do it, you don't say that. Don't talk about a woman's body and a woman wouldn't have to talk about YOUR body. What you said wasn't genuine. You secretly told her she was getting unattractive. But you didn't want to risk her breaking up with you, so you said the gym. That is the subliminal message and she sounded like she was an innocent woman who actually thought you cared about her but that is not what your saying. Better the truth than the lie. If I saw a person I cared about getting that way, I am not going to try to hide that. I wouldn't be mean, but I would be honest. If a guy told me that I know what that means, it means the relationship is in trouble and he is losing attraction to me. That means if my body isn't on par so does his "affections". Another reason why I don't bother. You're not honest. Women do not want to hear about their fatness or weight. If that is so important to you, find a woman who also desires and has the same beliefs. I really do not understand why you men and some women settle for who you don't really like. Everybody will go through changes.

[btbc92]

Nobody can be skinny fat. I AM skinny. Either your fat or you're skinny. It sounds like to me you weren't happy with her either way and so that relationship eventually went south. What your doing is why so many women look down on themselves and young girls see this and know men don't want fat girls so they starve to death and they end up anorexic and then you judge her for that. Be honest men! That's why these girls are getting sick and often skip meals, to please YOU. Women get sick literally in the hospital because they're unhappy with how we look. It proves you don't know what you want. And you want to know why we're confused about what men we want? Because you are confused about what women you want and you still pick the wrong women and blame us for going to other men.

[btbc92]

You never said a word until you couldn't take it anymore. So you were lying about your attractiveness to her. A little belly was so threatening you had to offer to get her to the gym. She had to be flawless. Talk about unrealistic expectations.

[backblueblack22]

@btbc92 your arguing for the sake of arguing. You must be absolutely miserable with yourself. So much misandry and hate. Such entitlement. Such condescension.

I’m going to wish you the best of luck. I tried to reason with you but you are incapable of understanding the nuances in life.

I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully some day you will understand that just because someone disagrees with you it doesn’t mean they hate you. You are in a for a long difficult life with that attitude. Maybe some day you will have some self reflection to understand that men have it just as tough as women if not more so.

[btbc92]

Everything you say about me, it's actually you. I am not arguing for the sake of arguments. I am a peaceful person. I cannot STAND arguments, I grew up with all of that. I am not that type of person. You just don't want to listen. Hardheaded, leaning unto your own understanding, unstable in all his ways. I reflected on my life since a child. Today I reflect on myself. I know how to respect others' opinions. But this is not a matter of opinion, but LEARNING, AND GROWTH, AND FACTS. What I say about it a married speaker who has been married for decades and remarried after his wife passed away and is forever faithful to the women in his life says the same thing. You would have been called a JERK. And it is a jerkish move to do that to anyone. Period. It is immoral. Because if you are so correct, where is your ex-girlfriend now? Where is your girlfriend if you have any at ALL? Where is your WIFE? My life has always been difficult. But by the grace of God, he has better plans for me. I hate no one. And you have no right to judge me the way you do. I speak out of correction. Not hate. If you don't want to be corrected you will respond this way.

[btbc92]

So buddy. I don't think you hate me. I really do not care if you do. But what you say does tell me that you hate the truth about yourself and how you carry yourself. You will not curse me with a difficult life any more than what I was born into. I consider myself blessed, and by the Grace of God I was protected by a lot of things you people chose to do by choice, be it premarital sex, drinking, smoking, partying or whatever those lifestyles were, I didn't do those things. By the GRACE of God. When you tell me, you wish me good luck. what you're really saying is: I really do not what to hear what she has to say and you disregard it. Practice what you preach. Because you're not doing so. Out of correcting you, do not say that to a woman. period. Do not say it. You don't like correction so you want to try to attack my character. I never dated, nobody broke up with me because I never dated. I know how to treat a man. But you already had whatever relationships you had, you cannot tell me anything because your ex would have been there. She is obviously not. And how that could have ended have 0 to do with me. You need to grow up. 36 and haven't grown up. You don't want to listen to anything somebody has to tell you. I cannot force a person to listen if they do not want to. You decide if you want to risk losing another woman. You took everything I said out of context because again, you feel guilty for something. And I already have a strong feeling of what it is, because you just revealed it to me about what you did. And you still haven't matured or changed from it. You decide that. That's your life. I have my life to live.. I shared wisdom to you on what you should remember about women. Again, we love you for YOU. But decide if you want to keep us or lose us. Women nowadays will not be as lenient as in the old days.

[backblueblack22]

Bye bye

[Shortman70]

You've been womansplained about how you're never gonna be right cause you're a man. How dare you say that a woman mite have done something to hurt your feelings. You should be taken out back, your privates should be severed so she can hang them from the mantle like a trophy of a man she has conquered and totally emasculated.

[Shortman70]

@btbc92 What happened to you that you think that emasculating a man like that for opinion is anything but horrific? I'm sorry if you had a partner that hurt you so bad that you have to hate on all men like this. I'm sure you didn't deserve what has happened to you in life but you unloaded on this gentleman for his opinions. I hope you can heal from this devastation. But the evil and hatred you spout of in men is not healthy and will be a detrament to your health and will kill you. If you don't deal with this, you will die alone with hatred in your heart. All men are not like the one that hurt you like that.

[backblueblack22]

@Shortman70 thanks man. Truth I ignored almost all the drivel she wasted her time on above. After I read the first two sentences of response i knew the rest of it would be nothing worth reading.

If she was smart (and she’s not) she would of avoided opening with an insult. The smart way to argue is draw people in by seemingly agreeing with them in the beginning and at least acknowledging what they said/wrote. But she doesn’t have the capacity. People ignore her so she just rants even more.

The real weird thing about btbc92 is that she argues like a radical feminist and yet she Bible thumps. Most modern feminists are atheists. I have never seen this before and it’s very bizarre. But anyway I feel sorry for her. It’s obvious she’s got some serious issues going on upstairs.

[btbc92]

Excuse me? I don't know who the heck you think you are. Either of you. Both of you took what I said out of context, you think it's insulting that I told you you need to stop and think before you say what you say then that's on you. What you're doing is very disrespectful and the other one, what you're saying to me is very disrespectful. This is what I mean by what a woman says what she says because all the things you're saying about me is not true and is very disrespectful.

One I had no partner and I wouldn't because of how you're treating me. Two, I have no hatred for men for what you do and you think I'm just going to sit there and tell her the words that come out of your mouth then you got another thing coming. And no you are not sorry. Because you would not be saying things out of your mouth if you were. I hate the things of sin that's number one. None of you think like that. And for your information, I got a MHO from the one type of man that I know, isn't like that do it I have more respect for him then I do for any of you. I have no evil intent to be harming anybody. I now realize I didn't do this on purpose. People like you did this to me because y'all have misery, Eric, and you have loneliness within yourself. Nothing I said with the first two sentences ever indicated that I had hatred. And first of all I don't think all men are like that. Just men with your attitude and your behaviors which you're proven to me right now.

[btbc92]

And I'm not arguing with you. I told you not to do it. Even smart men knows not to do this. Apparently you are not that you want to insult me because you feel like you're entitled to be insulting women and then you want to say you're sorry? You was not sorry to her. You only said that so that way you can make the white feel bad and you want to still continue to say what you want to say. You have no respect for women parrot and Adam smart man who is Mary noses himself especially those who wants to keep it. So I'm not going to argue and be drunk people in. You already had an idea of wanted to argue. No people ignore me because they know what they're doing. Those who listen don't ignore me and then want to know why I go on the so-called ramps. August like a radical feminist? Bible thumps? That is so disrespectful. You are expensive and what you said would have got anybody upset and God forbid you would have been sucker-punched off of it and I would not blame anybody for doing so because the words that come out of your mouth. You're condescending and offensive I could tell you was not taught respect. That kind of attitude you have another man would have slapped you for because obviously you was not taught.

[btbc92]

So the other one who just decided to jump in can judge me all he wants. I will not continue to live this way and now I have some peace in my life. That's what it means to have God in your life that have actual piece. The only problem is it's fine on the way to get the heck away from you crazy people. There are men out there and other women out there that are not as vindictive as the both of you. Men like yourself make others look bad. And I thank God I never bought a dating such men with your nasty attitude. I would not be emotionally abused, gas lighted, and manipulated by either of you. So keep those curses to yourself. I'm not going to die alone with hatred. I noticed when I'm alone I am lot more at peace than I am around insufferable and miserable people like yourself who don't like peace. You love drama in your life. I don't love drama. And firstly I'm not emasculating you. You both already feel emasculated. Real men don't speak, behave, or talk the way you do. You people don't want correction and that's why you want to judge me the way you do. I feel so sorry for every woman and female that would ever have today either the both of you and that's how you judge a woman like that and you think somebody's not going to say nothing. So I suggest both of you think about the words that come out of your mouth. You're saying things that would make a person angry and feel offended and you do so on purpose and you know you do so. Thank God there are men and women that would tell me to just ignore men like yourself because you're not worth even arguing with or to. Both of you are highly accusing and is very biased. And I highly doubt any of you have partner stable for yourself to be having that kind of judgement towards me.

[btbc92]

And firstly the other guy is not a man just like yourself. He's a boy who's pissed because he can't handle a comment simply because he thinks he can be sexist towards a woman. A man should not be sexist was anybody no difference in a woman be sexist towards a man. Both of you have been brainwashed by feminism because they don't want to see the error of your own ways. I can tell you do two of the very type of men that would not like attending church because when error is being corrected you want to leave because you figured you're entitled to what you want, and not hear the truth because you feel that convicted. And you proved that to me by saying you ignored everything that I wrote. That's very disrespectful. So it's not me that's going to be dying alone with it. Plenty of men, so what actually quite shocked that I'm being treated this way and they never judge me for anything that I said they knew right off the bat what kind of men you are. And I find it even shocking that they have to apologize for the crap your sex have to put me through all because neither of you feel like you're worthy of a good woman. Then you get one and you can't even take care of her. I do not have to date or be involved with a man to know what kind of character you have. Your pride, your ego, is what hinders you from having successful relationships. There are plenty of worse women out there who won't even give a damn. A woman cares and if you think you're going to defeminized me. What you two are saying is toxic and abusive. That is not how you treat your wife. You don't like me saying that that's too long bad you know God forbid she wants andThat is not how you treat your wife. You don't like me saying that, that's too bad you know God forbid she wants out of that marriage. And you can continue to blame a woman for your problems. I can tell you both have similar issues and you both need to get help with them.

[btbc92]

I don't blame men for all my problems. I just been toxic men like you who's constantly drawn to issues and then figure you could dump it on me. So I know what to look for in a man and not if you have those qualities.

[Shortman70]

Women have emasculated men for so long in the name of feminism, there's somethings you can not just say sorry and think that will take care of the prob. Yes he could've communicated better and this situation would've went a different direction. I'm sure he knew of your insecurities about your bum and was possibly trying to help. You went for the kill shot first chance. Please talk to him any chance you get and try to get over this bump in the road of life. If you don't talk through this he will secretly resent you and it'll will get worse. Eventually leading to bad endings.

[Shortman70]

I'm sure I'll get a lot of replies from this post. I'm in a similar situation, not about my penis but my intelligence. I've tried to communicate about this but since she was intoxicated, she says she doesn't remember saying anything like that, but yet she remembers every other detail about the evening so I must be lying. I've owned my part of the situation but her denying her part still hangs with me and weighs heavy on my heart. I've for the most part moved on but a little hurt still lingers there. Our feelings are just as fragile as our female counterparts. Good luck. Now I'll sit back and wait for btbc92 to come to berate and belittle me to justify her hatred for men and whatever else she's got goin on. Yes I did read your responses to the gentleman down the replies.

[btbc92]

I'm not going to berate you. I'm not going to belittle you. But I can't have you blocked if not just reported but even using my username in your comment as member post.

You have a problem and you have a serious attitude problem. You have judgement from me saying I have hatred for men and what you're doing is hateful sex. I look at the person I don't go around judging a whole sex. You can read all you want Oh, but you already having a biased opinion of me so you are not open to conversation you are open to an argument. Whatever problems you had with your ex you're accusing me and others of your problems. You are undermining another person and you want to use feminism as an excuse for it and you need to stop. I don't even believe in feminism or agree with how other women treat other men. But I do not blame them for how they stop reacting because you say things that get them reactive. You're simply a person worth ignoring, because you're seeking attention for all your hurt and bitterness. Fix your insecurities. Because you haven't gone up not one bit. I am not your mother. So stop accusing people for something they're not. The fact that you want to drag out your past because you can't handle whatever with your penis have to do with you. It has nothing to do with her because that person that you was with that you chose to lay up with is dysfunctional.

[btbc92]

A woman does not have to insult your intelligence you just got involved with an abusive person.

Dysfunctional people attracted dysfunctional people. It is clear you have not learned your lesson from those decisions. Both of you need to take responsibility for what you said and did but it's very clear that neither of you did that either, because you still bringing it up and you're talking about it. So it is you who seek to have justification, not me. You want a woman to argue with you so you can feel justified in your behaviors. What that tells me is that you a Broken Man. I have my own problems but one thing I am not going to get myself involved with is a Broken Man who's looking for a woman to fix him. I owe you no explanation. And you say what you say because in actuality you actually hate yourself. A man who loves himself not even a woman who loves herself even respond like that. I grew up with males around me and I had plenty of male friends as equally as I had female friends if not female friends a little more. I have male friends who would have jumped up on this comment feed and would have told you off in a heartbeat but how you're choosing to disrespect me and to dishonor me and to be degrading my character. The fact that you even condoned the other males uses terms of words and behaviors is very clear because the you're not looking at him you want to look at me because I'm a woman. So you already had bias to begin with and I have no doubt you was already targeting me and not other women to begin with. To show how much you lack self-awareness. She already apologized and he deliberately choose to ignore. The man already resents her because he resents himself.

[btbc92]

You had that much hang us about your ex now you want attack another person with it. You're the one who needs the counseling and therapy because you're holding on that bitterness. Is very things you say and the very thing you are doing, not other men, what you are doing are the very things I hate. You're not aggressive. But how you attack people is very subtle, because you expect a woman to attack you. I don't expect it of anyone I don't have that mentality. Why you choose to attack innocent people is beyond me.

[Shortman70]

@btbc92 you started out saying you weren't gonna berate and belittle. No you started out threatening to get me banned and then said that your male friends would assault me. For what? The opinion l gave? Telling her not to ignore this situation and work on it with communication. Then you went on to berate and belittle, saying how men like me don't have a lot of things. You also made a lot of assumptions about me that you thought were so spot on and also that you didn't read my post and if you did you had no comprehension of what I was saying. But you did go on a 40 page rant on how you were so much better than us, and that your problems are all caused by men like me. Next, nowhere in my opinion did I say I was divorced, I've actually been married longer than you've been alive. I did say that I owned my part of our disagreement and I had moved on but there's just a little hurt left. And you wanna talk bout disrespect, you need to go back and read what came out of your mouth, a supposed god fearing woman. Accusing me of being drunk, if you wanna talk about sobriety message me and I'll help you get into a program that will help.(12step AA program is a life saver, Bill W was a smart man) You also said I wasn't capable of having a discussion, only wanted to argue, then you rant on like a crazy woman, maybe you were drunk or high. If you rant on like that, people aren't listening because they think you're smart. They just wanna hear what comes out of your mouth next. If you've never had a man or long term relationship, maybe you should not give advice on those types of questions. You obliviously have no clue of the kind of advice to give on something like this. If you wanna have a civil conversation, you can message me. Until then maybe you should take a break from the internet, it seems like it's affecting you mentally. Have a wonderful evening.

[MrOracle]

For a lot of men, attacking his penis size or sexual ability is a nuclear option - if you use it, nothing will EVER be the same. I'm not even sure if there's a female equivalent - for some women, it might be like calling them a bad mother, or ugly, but even then, I'm not sure is carries the same weight that it would for a lot of men.

I don't know your husband, but this literally may have been the thing that leads to the end of your relationship. Many men would rather be cheated on than hear this. So, I wish you luck, but you're going to be dealing with the consequences of using the nuclear option, one way or another.

[StevieB213]

If he stays with her he will probably get a side chick to get a second opinion. I did that. I had amazing sex with my side girl. Wife never found out and it restored my confidence. I haven't had sex with the wife in 6 years and I never initiate - I don't know or care if she has someone on the side. I focus my time and money on the kids. We will probably divorce in time - not for the comment but all the fallout after.

[Novacane]

You definitely crossed the line, don't get me wrong he is also not right for saying that but coming from a fitness side it makes sense there are just better ways to say it. What he did is take a jab at you with that comment, but with your comment, you literally hit below the belt. One thing you shouldn't do is attack a man's ego because then you will see the worst of him, and let me tell you that's not a small argument since you attacked his ego, and saying it was a reaction is like saying its the first thing you thought which may have some truth to it, I would say give it time and there are some things you can do to make him not mad anymore, but we are all adults so you should already know what that is.

[Birdlegs]

That’s a very big insecurity for a LOT of men and it’s something that is damn near impossible to change. Plus it’s something that is directly linked to our self image by that I mean in terms of pleasing a woman so being told you’re not good enough and there’s nothing you can do about it is a major blow to our self esteem. He’s an ex pro athlete of course he’ll want you to workout and in a year or two that whole thing is solved. But after 11 years having my wife tell me that my dick is small would probably devastate me too

[Anonymous]

Wow, you responded to a fist fight with a nuclear bomb. Yeah, he threw the first punch but... seriously? You never knew he was insecure about his penis size? Well that's likely because he wasn't... until now.

Some things cannot be undone. You are going to have a very, very difficult time recovering from this one.

What he said was wrong too, but exercise and diet can fix some things and not others. His penis size is obviously in the latter category. Your comment, and the insecurity you have permanently etched in his consciousness, is something he will have with the rest of his life.

Now, if he has said you have an ugly face, that would have been more along the same lines as your comment about his penis size, but still not quite at the same level of hurtfulness.

Good luck, you're going to need it. I don't know how you undo the damage you have caused to him, your relationship and your intimacy.

[StevieB213]

Your husband needs to find a side chick to get a second opinion. A similar thing happened to me but I did not insult her first I was actually concerned because she didn't make a follow up doctor's appointment - when I mentioned she needs to set the appointment and if she wants I would like to go - that started the argument. Throughout the years my wife has said I have a small dick, small balls, no butt, no hips - my side chick fixed all that she said something a lot of women before I got married use to say I am thick and she prefers thick over length. Length is average but my thickness is way above average. So I am happy and feel good about it again but not with my wife but with the side chick.

[Bourne91]

Boobs and booty can be adjusted but his boy can not.
It worse than telling him he is ugly. The thing you say will obsess him on the bed.
I think you better let him cool down and trying to find a best moment to say sorry.
Tell him you have reasons to love and choose him to be your husband and his little boy is not one of those.
Tell him you does not care about his size and at that time you were not control your emotion. You respect this relationship and does not want it is getting worse.
If you think it is hard to say than write everything in a paper and give him. Then ask him what could you do to prove everything you said is sincerely and to forgive you. Try to talk to him with a soft voice. Good luck

[RawIronhide]

Lmao. You can't. You fucked up. Not that it matters but guys know they don't have the biggest dong in the world just like you don't have the firmest butt. I don't think it was wrong he's being immature yeah cuz I'd probably bust out laughing but I kinda get it.

[Anonymous]

Things will never be the same again. In intimacy he will always remember this and it will destroy it (and prevent erections). No amount of apologizing is going to change this one. And by the sounds of it, he does have a small one so your comment simply confirms what your subconscious has always thought about it... that it was always too small.

[Jersey2]

He honestly needs to find someone who it is the right size as some women prefer it. Then he can shop for a woman with a tight ass too. She can move on to donkey sized dicks. Win/Win.

[exitseven]

I got as far as professional athlete and had the AHA! moment. All his life he had people making a big deal about him. He has an image of himself and buys in to the idea that penis size is a representation of virility. You just shook his tree.
You apologized he should just move on. .

[Browneye57]

Ew boy... you two know how to party.
When you do this to a man don't be surprised when he walks away for someone that really does appreciate and want him. This is the ultimate fail. Oh well.

And when he does, you won't have any say when his new woman is spending as much time raising YOUR kids as YOU do. And your standard of living will go in the toilet.

What a way to fuck up your life. Wow. And unmentionable damage to your children, but we won't even get into that. SMH

[Boppy]

There's always hope. Maybe he has a cuckold fetish...

[Browneye57]

@Boppy - No, we have a man-hater here. She's gonna end up single, I can nearly guarantee it. There's no respect or awe there, she doesn't cherish her man, he's her plow horse. When he finally wakes the fuck up and dumps her ass she'll be the one fussing and crying about it. I had one like this - finally dumped her ass for a much younger and prettier girl and simply adores me. That was thirty years ago. And yes, the kids survived. But that bimbo remarried and divorced four more times. Eventually they get what's coming for their crap attitude and outlook. Hope she likes cats.

[Shamiah02]

Nothin to mend.
He got a small dick he got a small dick.
He needs to get over it.
Unless you told him it sucks and worthless then you done fucked up

[spartan55]

If your husband was a professional athlete, you have to remember those guys are constantly getting their egos stroked by fans, the media, groupies etc. He sounds like an immature asshole, but you chose him.

[JHAYES317]

Frankly you were out of line…penis size is unchangeable but you can get a bigger butt technically through deadlifts and squats. So it’s not comparable…first you should have been like “hey I don’t appreciate you making that joke”…and then if he kept making the joke, then you can insult something he’s bad at…but not something he has no control over

[Made4sex]

It sounds to me like you need to talk to him about getting some counseling. He clearly doesn’t allow his feelings to be seen or understood well and doesn’t even know how to handle being hurt. He just isn’t communicating well. and that is only something that he can work on himself. There literally is nothing else you can do until he chooses to let you back in.

[Anonymous]

Ouch! You are truly fucked. You just took your relationship to a place from which there is no return. He will never be the same, nor will your relationship or sex life.

Your question here, and the responses from female users, just underscores the fact that women are either too stupid to understand the impact of such a hurtful comment, or too heartless to care about the harm it does to a man.

[btbc92]

Do you see the impact of such hurtful comments or too heartless to care about the harm what you say does to a woman? Hypocrite much.

[Opinion Owner]

@btbc92 Oh please. I have been a member at GAG for a lot of years, and I have seen a lot of bitter, hate filled females come and go, and you are definitely among the top 5 of all time. Your hatred of men comes through loud and clear in post after post. You calling me a hypocrite here is fucking precious.

[btbc92]

I don't hate men nor am I bitter. You don't like that truth, then you hate the truth. If a man spoke what I spoke, you would have called him gay or a simp. Please take that hypocrisy elsewhere.

[btbc92]

No CORRECTION. which none of men like yourself want because you that blind, hateful, and unstable in all of your ways, speaks loud and clear that you feel like you have to argue because again you want to be on top and not give a damn about anyone. The fact you have to go that far to say what you say tells me a lot you can't even answer the question.

[btbc92]

Oh, I'm pretty sure I'm #1 according to a lot of you people. Do you know why? Because out of a lot of believers here, I was one of the only few speaking out against sin. And you people of darkness don't like any of that because it exposes you. You only see what you WANT to see, you don't see what more I help contribute to the community because from what I find out too many of you envious jealous people are that BITTER. You badly don't want the truth to come out. You are that selfish as a person and have the nerve to call me bitter. MAD, but not bitter.

[StevieB213]

@btbc92 No worries the husband just needs to find a side chick to get a second opinion without the wife knowing of course.

[Anonymous]

I would explain to him you are insecure about your body the same way he is insecure about the size of his dick. Ask him if he would like to come to an agreement where he never mentions your body again unless it's a compliment and you will do the same regarding his dick.

[TommyMountainFigure]

For someone who doesn't deal well with conflict, you sure as heck seem to say the wrong things to avoid it!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Just explain that you love him and nothing will ever come between you two and sure we can all be insecure but things happen, I feel after he comes around things will be different

[noohair]

You crushed his ego. Sometimes it can't be restored. You absolutely crossed the line. He will never be the same. Next he will be thinking that the sex was bad for you. You have no idea of the damage you did to him.

[BeMuse]

Small relative to who's? You've been sleeping around? Maybe he will now as well...

[Partaken]

Women there are two bells you cannot unring once rung

1) tell him his penis is small
2) tell him the baby isn't his

[Anonymous]

Why would you hit something that can't be changed? You made that conscious choice before releasing it.

[Literallypiter]

Look you two are picking at each other and that doesn't go anywhere. Maybe he grabbed your but cause he wanted some. Mine throws her big toys in my face so I just let her be with them. You're in a deep hole here and he just wanted a deep hole

[Literallypiter]

You probably just need to give him head. We are all forgiving after that

[DudeFromZ]

He lowkey asked for it😂
But give it a little time talk about it and take charge in the room that night...
Remind him that it's been 11 years and if you really felt that it was like that he'd have known already...

[Anonymous]

Nothing to mend, you're both insecure and need to grow up. Hearing that in my head I envisioned 2 children hurling insults at eachother.

[Anonymous]

He gave u constructive advice and u took it as an insult

you purely insulted him. Nothing a man can do to make penis bigger.

[Jersey2]

That’s how I see it. That insult will burn in him for the rest of his life. She told him he was unsatisfactory as a man and a lover. She told him she has fucked bigger dicks and misses them. He can’t fix his dick and she can’t fix this. There’s a bad moon a rising.

https://youtu.be/zUQiUFZ5RDw

[Opinion Owner]

@Jersey2 yeah... she just sabotaged the whole thing

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If he's offended because of that then shame on him. He needs to grow up. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Tell him you loved him enough to marry his tiny penis

[Anonymous]

sounds like you know you need to do some squats

[Luckycharms12]

So does have small dick

[Clarke498]

Nah i think it's fair

[Yaharro]

That's rough

[Wise4myage]

Find a new penis.

[In_Trance]

You don't