Do women want men to show emotion?

[Anonymous]

Do women like when men cry? Is it cute or ugly?

[GoldenAxer]

I think it often depends on how and why you do it as to the percentage of women who will accept it. Fundamentally I think if you're the type of man who seeks to solve his problems more than dwell on them endlessly, you will find much more sympathy from women whether you express your moments of despair through tears or anger. If you're the type who dwells on his problems like one who complains endlessly without fixing them, then I think you will begin to repulse most women regardless of how you express your pain.

[Anonymous]

I mean i want to him show his emotions. If something happens, he can talk to me about his feelings. Share with me his weaknesses. He can cry when something bad happens. Men are not robots. But society allows them to show just their anger. They can not show their sadness, anxiety, fears. If he doesn’t show his feelings, how can i know about them? Or how can i support him? And i think that if a man cries he is not emotional, it is definite that something bad happened. Women are emotional and they are allowed to cry whenever they want. They can cry a movie, when they see cute baby, something bad happens. But men cry when just something bad happens so it is so valuable moment for me to share his emotions with me.

[Usernamej58]

Women are happy to echo this sentiment as a hypothetical but in reality, women know they're so emotionally unstable they need a man who acts as the stabilising force for when she is feeling overwhelmed. They cannot both be that way or they are both lost. Women can't feel secure in a relationship knowing their man is just as emotionally fragile.

The difference is women care a lot about optics and saying whatever makes them looks most virtuous.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@Usernamej58 do you have any idea how ridiculous that sounds? For several reasons.

[Usernamej58]

Go on.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@Usernamej58 first women are not saying it because it looks good they genuinely mean it. The same way that will be honest if you ask them if they can't control their emotions as well as men. They will tell you that they can.

You can argue that even if they are being honest they are wrong because they are more emotional and dislike emotions in men, just don't know it. And to that we have science. I have searched about this topic before and I couldn't find a single study that actually says that women are more emotional than men.
Articles from magazines usually perpetuate this myth, but actual studies have come to the conclusion that men are women are equally emotional. What differs is their reaction to those emotions. Women become anxious and men angry. Neither capable of rational decisions when affected.

[Usernamej58]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Do you really need a study from biased scientists who in this age wouldn't dare conduct such a study much less come to the non politically correct decision?

I'm sorry but you have to have been living under a rock to believe men and women don't differ in emotionality. This is observable in everyday life. Even when men get angry they often won't show it in public. Women express a varied range of emotions both in public and in private and always more so than men.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@Usernamej58 I work as a civil engineer. I work around supposedly manly men every day. You would be surprised with the sample shit that makes many of them lose it. They have the emotional control of children. Furthermore the disaster that grown men made when England lost. Their team loses and all hell breaks loose. I have been paying attention and yes women are not more emotional than men.

But honestly I am not going to believe stereotypes and personal observation over science. That's like saying the earth is flat because I always walk in a straight line and screw what science says.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

@Usernamej58 and if you want prove that women don't leave men just because they show emotions ask one who has done if his girl left him.

Not only she didn't leave, but we got married not long after.

[tatianamay]

Yes. Showing emotions is different from always crying, yk? Being communicative and expressing your emotions, trusting your SO with your feelings is cute and the relationship would be stable.

[Wester1967]

They do, but they want the top 15% of men they are attracted to to show emotion. They could care less about the bottom 85% because we are functionally invisible to them.


All the business about “more emotion, more sensitive, show your feelings” is a plea for hotshot Chadly dude Bros to be that. Since that’s the only guy most women are interested in. That is who they are talking to. Not you. Not me.


For the bottom 85, y’all are just emotional toilets living in the endless friend zone. So figure it out.

[PenkWing]

My experience tells me that being honest with emotions is usually appreciated.

Note that this doesn’t mean dumping all of your emotions to the nearest woman who is willing to listen. Emotional maturity of some sort is also appreciated: you don’t only have emotions, and not only you are willing to expose them. But you are also able to work with them on you own to some extend, and you don’t depend on other people to solve all your emotional problems.

Most men don’t understand this part because they are not experienced with working with their emotional self. They are used to either repress the emotions, or have someone else do the work for them.

So, crying is perfectly fine but don’t go out of your way to make your crying shown just because it’s “cute”.

[Cotton555]

I think as a woman that yes men should show emotion because we want men to know that v r there for them and they can rely on us. We want to be their in our partners happy moments as well as difficult/sad moments.

No we do not like it when our partners cry. It hurts us to see them cry. We want them to show it so that v can help them cope with it or help find answers for the matter that is bothering them.

[Cnlngler]

I don't think a guy should hide his emotions for anyone, if she doesn't like you the way that you are she is not the right person for you. I might be tough on the outside but I'm a softy on the inside, I'm a kid at heart and an adult, I love watching chickflics cartoon movies and cry every time the movie Coco ends and so does my wife. You should never change who you are for anyone.

[AD240pCharlie]

Everything is about the context. If you cry whenever the tiniest thing goes wrong in your life, then nobody is going to respect you, man or woman. Is that wrong? Maybe, but that's the way it works.
But almost nobody is going to judge you if you cry when a family member dies or after your failed suicide attempt. And if they DO judge you, your only reaction should be to cut them out of your life immediately.

[Anonymous]

This was the big thing in the 80s / 90s. Women said they wanted this. Then they got it. And they almost all universally realised it turned them off in a big big way. Women of that generation are a lot less likely to claim they want a man who can show emotion. Unfortunately they have also been reluctant to pass that lesson on to the girls of the next generations because it makes them look stupid and feeds into the idea that women don't know what the fuck they want.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Yes they do. Look at the girls here saying they don't mind and actually appreciate when their guys is vulnerable with them because it makes them feel special.
You can say they are lying all you want they are not and I am living proof of that. My wife stayed with me even after that time I broke down and even helped me.

[Opinion Owner]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 "that time" sounds like you did it once.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I say that time because it was a particularly big moment when I broke down. But other moments when I opened up to her or showed her that I was feeling down or helpless happened more.

[TonyMetal___86]

I'm not waiting for a woman to tell me if i can cry or not oe how does she feels if i cry or not, i am what i am, i'll cry when i feel like crying and won't cry if there was nothing too harsh on me that i couldn't handle...

She can think the way she wants to think but i'll never change, she can simply accept me the way i am...

[t-8900]

Times you'll see me cry from sadness: When my dog dies, when my dad dies, when my grandparents die.

Times I might cry if I'm happy: I finally found love, My child is born, and extreme act of kindness that I was not expecting.

[hanony]

I know most are probably uncomfortable with it, but I would want my partner to be emotionally available. I just would want my partner to know and trust that I can be there for him.

[DizzyDesii]

Show emotion yes. But that doesn't always mean you have to cry to express emotion. The crying is not necessary unless you’re extremely touched or hurt by something

[Phoenix98]

In my experience it's been pretty touch and go, back and forth.

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't ever believe a woman will accept your showing weakness. If you have a breakdown of any kind she will see you as an insect from that day forward.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Do you have any personal experience that proves that?

[InferiorElegy]

They say they do but the moment you show any weakness all females will desert you.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I am living proof they don't. At least a good one won't.

[InferiorElegy]

@This_Is_My_Opinion8 sounds like you were lucky enough to find a unicorn.
I can't think of a good experience I've ever had with females and they've always been worse when I showed any kind of weakness, even the ones I thought were friends but looking back they were just in my circle because of the friends I had.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Really? Damn. That's bad luck bro.

[aquamarine321]

Oh yes I believe they love emotional men, but in a masculine manner

[CreamySeed]

I believe it depends on the context, funerals yes, crying out of guilt that you cheater? No.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Depends on the moment. If it's called for they will love it.

[Subarugirl]

Women want partners who are vulnerable with them.

[In_Trance]

some do, some don't. depends on the circumstances

[Gwenhwyfar]

I want them to

[Hangry06]

If they want to

[J2ohhhhh]

The hot ones don't

[Anonymous]

hell no lol