Why are good guys hard to find?

Question

Why does one have to be religious to find a good guy, why are they common amongst the religious only basically? I think gone are the days where everyone has to be religious

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Let's assume that you are a fisherman, and you desire to catch an albacore tuna because you know that they're valuable. But you know little about them, and don't even know what they look like. You just know that's what you want.

If you found yourself a beautiful mountain lake, and you owned the best fishing gear money could buy, and had a selection of bait known to be attractive to albacore tuna, you would STILL fail to catch an albacore tuna. You might catch other types of fish, and many will be prettier than the tuna, but you'd never catch a tuna. Why? Because you're fishing in a freshwater lake, rather than a saltwater ocean, and there are no tuna in a lake.

Much the same, a majority (not all, but well over half) of single women who claim they are looking for good guys are out looking for guys in places where good guys don't go. And you mostly end up chasing Bad Boys, because they're handsome, confident, exciting/dangerous, or wealthy. All of those traits will score you lots of Instagram points, and make your girlfriends jealous, but you'll never end up in a good relationship with a good guy because you are fishing in the wrong place. And you can't turn a bass or a bluegill into a tuna, nor can you turn a Bad Boy into a Good Guy.

Good guys are RARELY in the Top 10% of guys when it comes to looks or popularity - the Top 10% are almost exclusively Bad Boys, and the very rare exceptions are so valued by the relationship market that they can attract 10/10 women - and I mean that both with respect to looks AND personality. Such men are less common than white tigers.

Good guys are mostly found in the lower 80% of guys - mostly near the top of that range, yes, but still in the lower 80%. But to most women, guys in the lower 80% are completely invisible, unless he's fixing your car or re-roofing your house or providing some other service she can't do. Otherwise, most women have no interest in these men. Good guys aren't exciting enough, because they're not dangerous, or self-centered, or controlling. Instead, they chase the Top 10% of guys again and again and again, with the same results: he'll bang her for a while, but as soon as she becomes a hassle for him, he'll dump her and have a replacement girl tomorrow. And after being used and dumped (or ghosted) by a bunch of these guys, she'll think that all men are this way.

Meanwhile, most girls already know some great guys...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it comes down to the fact guys are naturally not interested in girls with a high body count. >.> Watch me get shamed to hell for this but guys are naturally atuned to objectify women to a degree. Unless you are a smoking hot girl worthy of being put on a pedestal. The ugly reality is women and girls got a "used" quality if they got a body count above like 3 >.> and the market value dips even lower if they are a single mother with more than one wedding ring sitting in the jewelry box. No guy wants to be the caboose to a girls train.

And the other big thing is that guys ACTUALLY LIKE feminine girls. No guy wants to come home to a girl who's like another dude. Which is the catch 22 of the propaganda feminism prides itself shoving its ideals down girls brains. Guys don't actually care how much a girl is making if they are already making millions or a few 100K PER YEAR. there's a reason the joke of being dumb but sexy is a meme but also ironically true when it comes to getting a rich dude. In fact being rich as a woman your not actually making your self more attractive but instead pricing yourself literally out of the majority of guys. Cause most girls aren't going to date guys who make less than them. Well if only the top 30% of guys make equal to what you make you just lost 70% OF THE DATING OPTIONS. The complete irony of the BS feminism tries to prop up as a good thing.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I know plenty of good guys. Nonreligous included. But i personally prefer one who worships the Lord. Also, a lot of the good guys are either gay or taken. And if not that, then theyre not unattractive. So the cute good guys are rare jewels. But they exist

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

No. Religious ones are even worse sometimes. Good people in general are hard to find. And to find someone who will be loyal to you in a relationship? Well that is near impossible.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Most good guys are actually atheists. The likely reason you can't find us is that our only social activity tends to be online gaming, and out of the few women who like video games, they rarely ever join party invites because of the guys who are assholes online in game chats.

I'm not going to meet any women while drawing, researching, reading, watching tv, etc.

Good guys don't go to church, or bars, or crazy parties, and most of us hate sports, and in highschool and college we wait for the girl to make the first move. If we aren't taken by then, we stick to non hookup dating sites, which most atheist women don't use for some reason.

Religious people are typically jerks, though I've found a small few who are very nice people (wouldn't date them though).

jgibsonian1986 · Answer

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That implies that morals are instantiated in every person regardless of their circumstance and choice to ignore those morals.
If evolution didn't put those ethics in the human genome then something or someone did.
Either a being above us set the standard for ethics, or by adaptation and social evolution we put them on ourselves.
That's why religion has to do with morality. This has been a philosophical dilemma for atheists for millenia. Imagine blocking someone so they can't respond to you. re-state://background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft, p

MrCommodore · Answer

I would say I'm a good guy based on my relationship history and general behaviour, and I'm not religious
- Never cheated
- Never domestically violent or abusive.
- Refused a friends with Benefits offer from a girl I earlier rejected as a girlfriend.
- Never borrow or use a girl for money
- Not into any twisted kinks.

I'm not perfect, but don't think I'm too bad.

Rob70 · Answer

Not all good guys are religious. I think I am a good guy. I don't cheat when I am in a relationship, I always try making my partner feel special, I do things she wants to do even if I am not really interested in them. I think it depends more on how you were raised and how you value people in general.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Men that have a faith or principles based background are aspiring to be something better. They are appealing to an idea greater than themselves. Secular men don't have as much of that, these days. Our society doesn't have heroes and the impact on young men is devastating.

Anonymous · Answer

Mostly it's because women don't look for good men. They are passive, and wait for good men to find them.

If you think good men are more to be found in religious circles, I suspect that is because of how you define "good". Religion seems to be important to you.

Iknowbestgirls · Answer

Good guys aren't hard to find. It's just most guys that girls wouldn't give a chance to because they aren't attractive enough are usually the good guys. In my experience girls want the bad boys that look like rappers and are super obnoxious, they mistake that for confidence and they tend to be well... Assholes.

dustybiker · Answer

The good men are harder to find because they are a bit repulsed by their louder friends and tend to head home early.

Aurora1010 · Answer

Actually there are some, but girls ignore them for the "bad boys" a lot of the time and friendzone them. That's what I think anyways

Questionevrythinn · Answer

Lol what is this logic. . your using this to try and make everyone religious?
What a toxic way to try and persuade people... Your like that vegan teacher... News flash. Religion is the most retardrd thing to exist

Subarugirl · Answer

They are out there, but from what I have seen is that people tend to attract people of a similar caliber.

spartan55 · Answer

Religious people are some of the most deviant freaks out there.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'm not religious and I'm one of the good guys! From what I can see, it's mostly the fault of the girls who insist on choosing the assholes over us good guys!! I've seen it DOZENS of times before!!

Hangry06 · Answer

Good guys bad guys.. they're all guys at the end of the day. Not much difference

Anonymous · Answer

I'm one. But the reason it is hard is because it is easier for a human to think negative than positive. There is a lesson for you in what I have said. Gl I hope you find him.

jayr0413 · Answer

To be honest we aren't hard to find you just have to want to look for us its more so girls like the bad boys so they usually look for what turns them on and just love the idea of a good guy no disrespect im just being honest

jasco · Answer

People are starting to think that religion doesn't mean anything and for some you can't blame them what has religion done for them?

roy_ricky09 · Answer

No one is perfect. One has to be content with what you have. If you keep on looking for faults, that's the only thing you ever find

Ghostlock · Answer

Same reason why a good woman is hard to find... there just aren't that many of them.

Twalli · Answer

A lot of the secular good guys are taken by secular women who don't have any intention of letting us go.

Anonymous · Answer

So the decent men you meet aren't hot enough? Pretty much the only reason women are ever alone. Thousands of good guys get rejected on sight by women like you, yet you all want pity for doing this to yourself because you are shallow

TheFlak38 · Answer

They are all around you but invisible to your eyes because you want to do some alpha fucks

FreeOhSeven · Answer

I think probably it isn’t the religion, but the moral.

Anonymous · Answer

Did you checked 'Friend Zone'? by the way, what makes a 'Good guy', in your opinion?

Monerve · Answer

No much different womens or mans, only good or not person!

noohair · Answer

Some guys might say the same thing. Finding the right compatible person is not supposed to be easy.

TallAnon · Answer

That fully depends on your definition of "Good".

ChuckD6381 · Answer

I think if depends on what you want. Do have impossible standards? No one is perfect and you should never expect to find the perfect guy.

Kvnhanma · Answer

Because more men are in a relationship than women because of women

Anonymous · Answer

Because God is the foundation of morality and when people don’t believe its a free for all

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i have no god. he can't regenerate my foreskin

Ironic_Method · Answer

Since when did religion make someone good?

magiusX26 · Answer

its more of a matter of your percetion/s

Still-alive · Answer

A lot of assumptions here…

MrReliable12 · Answer

Good guys are only hard to find for bar girls

YalancıBahar · Answer

Maybe you are looking to away

Anonymous · Answer

Guys always think all the good girls are taken.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

Religion has nothing to do with right and wrong

Andres77 · Answer

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Hanrej · Answer

Define a "good guy".

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