Why are men so shallow?

[Anonymous]

Why do men put so much value on woman's looks? It seems like they will always go for the hottest girl, disregarding everything else about her.

[MrOracle]

You think women aren't even worse? Multiple studies have shown that women rate 80% of men to be "below average", and on dating apps, women almost never match or reply to any man who isn't in the top 10% - other men might as well not exist.

Here's a girl who built what she felt was a solid Tinder profile using her guy friend's pictures, and you'll see how it goes.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/DZTIbHIsIYw

And here's another one where a girl (who gets TONS of matches on her profile) did the same thing with her boyfriend's pics, and got NO MATCHES:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/0A2HGTMV78Q

Hell, half of all women in the US will not consider dating any man who isn't at least 5'10" tall! And that's an inch taller than the average, which means these women eliminate about 60% of all men right off the top, regardless of any other factors.

Here's another great example:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/zlLH_ph74Es

I'm not denying that men can be shallow - but don't pretend that women aren't.

[Vampirelover_12]

So our bad beauty standards is to be a fucking human being to us?

[Slithers]

In reality both sexes value physical attraction primarily over everything else. They have numerous studies on this and the data alone on dating apps show this to be a fact. Not only does being physically attractive give you an advantage with the opposite sex, but even your own hetrosexual gender will treat you with more favor. It's outside of anyone's control because a lot of it is biological.

That can be offset of course by confidence and charisma. You don't have to be the hottest person in the room, if you have the highest confidence in the room.

Another outlier is if you are the most neurotic person in the room. Oddly enough men and women with personality disorders have more success in sexual conquests than people without. The bad boys and girls that are trouble get laid a lot.

Honestly it sounds like you have a self esteem problem and you are blaming the "hot" people for your lack of success. I would start with yourself as you can't change the fact that there's charming attractive people all around you. Be the charming attractive person, get some confidence, and get out there. Worrying about others won't help you a bit. It will just make you bitter, and nobody wants someone who's a hater.

[Esten]

I would disagree. Everyone generally go for "look" they they do not know the person they are interested in. Of course men love hot girls but most of them do not want to pursue relationship with them, because, they are boring, they have nothing to offer except that they look good in public.
Like most of my friends would say "wow this girls total hottest, I wanna go out with her"... but those guys think with their penises and after some while they would understand why it was wrong choice. I do not know single person who would have "hottest" girlfriend and stable relationship, most dudes that I know do not have "hottest" girls.

[Rushabh52]

You are neither totally wrong nor totally correct!!

We also see other qualities.
But first thing that any person look for into another person is always looks (appearance).

It's just that you get to know about other qualities of that person after you start communicate with them, till than no one knows what other person is carrying within him/her.

[Jersey2]

We are visual. We are hardwired to zero in on beauty but that is our initial reaction and yes we can be infatuated. But that doesn’t mean we only see that as later once getting to know a girl other things become more important.

You probably need to make friends with the guy first and then show him who you are. It won’t work with all guys but then again nothing works for all people.

[jasco]

You can't see someone's personality. You can see how much someone cares about themselves and others along with their surroundings. If she is kind hearted, people will talk good about her, if she is attractive people will look at her, if she has a caring spirit than people will notice that. Your body is a part of your personality to is it not?

[Somegirl678]

i love hot guys so i can't complain about men being shallow because i do the same lol

[MrOracle]

Thank you for the truth.

[FunkyMonkee]

You mean, like how women are NEVER after a guy for his money?

[Asker]

Money actually brings value to life, can looks pay for bills?

[FunkyMonkee]

But if that's all she's interested in in order to get involved with a guy, she's plastic and not worth his time!

[Asker]

I agree. Both reasons are very shallow, it's just that looks are really useless for anything in life, so I wonder why men value it so much?

[FunkyMonkee]

Women do it, too!
If you had the choice of dating a guy that really good looking or a guy that looks like Quaimodo and they both are exactly the same in personality, wouldn't you rather go for the good looking guy?
As for me, looks AREN'T that important, I've already gone after a few girls that other guys considered ugly because I saw something in them that wasn't ugly but, I WOULD rather have a Bo Deriick than a Mary Morris. It'd be nice to have something pretty to look at for the rest of my life than to start with something less than pretty and have it get worse over time.

[Vegasrunner]

Men are more visual and the competition between men is to have the more attractive girl. While women are more lead by emotion and the competition between them is to have the man w/ more resources.

[Rohaan2020]

Well as far as i have observed women judge other women more than boys do... and honestly when we're in love with a girl it's not bcz of her looks...
We go for a girl who understands us and support us with our career...

[Hangry06]

Just biology. They need the best fertile mate for breeding

[crazy8000]

Why are female's?

When you know that you most likely get the answer why many males are.

[Asker]

It's not true for females. Yes ofc looks catch attention, but for females it's just that - attention. We acknowledge a handsome dude, but he won't hold our attention for long if he lacks in other areas. And it seems that men don't care if girl lack in other areas, if she's hot she'll have his attention for a loooong time and he'll do anything just to get her (whether it's just sex or relationship). It's like getting a hot girl is some kind of achievement. I just don't understand what value do looks brings to anything? When a guy finds a girlfriend, the first thing his friends ask is "is she hot?", but when a girl finds a boyfriend that question practically asked the least, it's usually "what does he do?" or "how does he treat you?".

[crazy8000]

That goes both ways.
Just happen to be more acknowledged on one side than the other. due to gender bias in society.
That goes for a lot of thing's.
There are always exceptions.

The thing might be that you focus on the wrong thing's in life or get attracted to the wrong kind of individuals.
Don't listen to the fearmongering that are little to comon amongst females. they are more rare than what the fearmongering people try to make them seams like.

[LadyCroft]

looks is the one thing that makes us powerful. Dont cry just because you're ugly and insecure.

[TheFlak38]

exactly

[LegendaryIcon]

Women: why are men so shallow

Also women: I want a self made millionaire and a man with a nice body

[Vampirelover_12]

So you are a woman? You all complain about women taking your money, yet studies show that men are more likely to be gold digging harpies.

[Anonymous]

What makes you say that? Why do you blame all men for actions of some? Isn't that also shallow?

[livingnightmare]

do women really care for personality because they always go for the jerks

[anylolone]

Same reason why women are even more shallow for men's looks.

[Whytepowerhanma]

Because women put so much value on their looks
Men: what do you bring to the table?
Women: I’m cute
Men😑

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope not true, large generalisation.

[JoyGirl]

Every guy is different…lol

[Anonymous]

Because it gets them high.

[dudeinohio]

actually I prefer personality over looks

[Relux47]

I don’t know who told you that lie

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women are so shallow

[SteveSmith1985]

This is untrue.

[ChiPaPa]

Nice generalization.

[disgustingweebtrash]

haha

[JessieBellll]

GENERALISATION