Is it ok if your boyfriend/husband has pornographic photos in his cellphone?

[InsideBeauty]

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isn't that like cheating?

[AncientWisdom]

You already know the answer to that question it’s okay for him because it’s satisfying some need he has obviously, but not for you apparently as you felt the need to ask. As a man of I was married I would not keep porn on my phone. As a bachelor I only have nude photos of women I know personally. I keep them in the hidden folder on my iPhone so people in my photos don’t get a beaver shot. I think this whole porn thing bad for peoples minds. It gives people unrealistic notions about sex. It’s ridiculous and if you a woman at home and she sees you’ve got that she starts wondering why she isn’t enough. I can tell you that monogamy is great for women it only benifits women. It’s never ceases to amaze me how women do not even know they evolved to be monogamous with one man but men evolved to be polygamous this is because in ancient times all men were not allowed to breed. They were born to field armies and labor. Only a small percentage of males were allowed to breed they had many wives warriors were allowed to have wives as their station and power required now in modern times humanities breeding habits have changed and culturally monogamy is expected it is not evolved and I doubt it will change soon.

[AmandaYVR]

'Cheating' is sometimes used very loosely (often as something that someone feels betrayed by) but if that's the case, then how should society differentiate between an affair with an outside person that involves intercourse, vs... everything else? Just think about all the permutations that can upset a person, make them feel slighted or devalued. Should a guilty verdict be based on the other's feelings of hurt, pain, sense of betrayal? Or should some technical markers be used? Now add technology into the mix, and all these new ways of meeting and communicating with others, and you've got a recipe for not just disloyalty, but also maybe unwarranted feelings of concern and insecurity, regardless of whether there has been any actual infraction.

This is a valid question that you have asked here, and maybe if the two people in question are having this issue, they both look to others to see if there is some kind of majority opinion on this. But, although everyone who chooses to answer will give their personal opinion, society doesn't actually agree on this.

And guys tend to be split on this, with many thinking it's fine and part of their sexual life, while more girls are against it. But is this more about morality or biology?

I don't have an answer for you here, but part of it depends on who the pictures are of and what their relationship to each other is. If it was just some girl he got off porn or OnlyFans or some place like that, I think it's probably best to let it go. It doesn't necessarily mean there is any personal relationship there. Could just be masturbation material.

[OlderAndWiser]

Forget about the word "cheating," because that always inspires arguments about whether something is "technically" cheating. The important issue is trust.

Do you have an agreement or understanding about what behavior is expected and what behavior wll not be tolerated? Quite often, such issues are never discussed but assumptions are made about the limits of what is acceptable. If he says it was never discussed, te next question would be why he never showed you any of those images or looked at them when you were present. That makes the point, I think.

[Arias]

It can potentially be normal, as long as you both know. Hell, if you talk to him about what kind of material it is, maybe you can spice up the love life with a little roleplay and dress-up. Nothing like talking it out and making your partner happy. Make it like a catalog; pick out what you like or find interesting and see if they like it.

[Anonymous]

It’s no different than a girl having mental fantasy or watching a chick flick while in a relationship.

Women are mentally stimulated and fantasize about love, romance, sex, and feelings.

Men are visual and fantasize about sex and naked women.

[InsideBeauty]

But is that ok?

[Opinion Owner]

You can’t just turn off natural human fantasy because you are with someone.

Can you stop having all mental fantasy?

[josephinelcajon]

If it is your husband, I would be questioning him on his love and faithfulness to you! When you get married and say your vows you are saying you love them and only them forever! I do not believe most under 45-50 respect marriage!

[josephinelcajon]

YES!!!

[horatiohornblower]

Yes, as long as girls aren’t sending them to him. Then it’s just porn.

[InsideBeauty]

Is it ok if your girlfriend/wife have that kinda photos of men in her cellphone?

[horatiohornblower]

I don’t see why not. If it’s just porn it’s just porn.

[InsideBeauty]

Would you feel ashamed if you tell your friends to stop sending you porn because your girlfriend/wife told you so?

[horatiohornblower]

I’d tell them not to because I don’t want porn randomly popping up on my phone.

[InsideBeauty]

Why would you need to have porn when you have a girlfriend/wife?

[horatiohornblower]

It’s entertaining to look at.

[AviatorTom]

So log as he keeps them private and doesn't share them with others, that's probably okay.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah they shouldn't be cheating also the porn better be legal

[Anonymous]

My wife has a dick pic of her boss. Doesn't bother me. It's huge.
But she gets upset if I look at Instagram models. So it's OK if you're ok with it.

[slatyb]

Yes, as long as they aren’t pictures of children.

[InsideBeauty]

Do you think its ok if your girlfriend/wife do the same?

[slatyb]

Yes, I do. I would like that. I would like to know what turns her on.

[Fireguy17]

Might be past the time to delete them.

[Wise4myage]

Its ok, if you're ok with it.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; not unless they're of you.

[Starla1234]

Ew that’s not okay

[In_Trance]

Sure

[InsideBeauty]

Do you think its ok your girlfriend do the same?

[In_Trance]

Yes of course

[InsideBeauty]

Why would you want to have porn when you have a girlfriend/wife?

[In_Trance]

For the same reason you have multiple colors of makeup; for the same reason you look at other cars when you already have one; for the same reason you have many different songs in your playlist