I sometimes bring up that I notice my boyfriend has odd habits, for example bad texting or that I can't always read him. He is pretty much always working hard on personal stuff so I always leave him be. But for example, I would send him a text at 4pm, no response rest of day, then he doesn't respond at night. Like it'll def be a conversation ender, like "ok good luck with your day!" but then no response. He is usually working late into night, so I do leave him alone. But this happened for a while & called him about it, he said "Oh, that's just me, that's how I text."
There's been multiple times where he's forgotten to respond completely at all, like days pass. He has always said "sorry, I didn't see this!" or something else. He really is busy but it's getting kind of annoying
He has said 3x now "sorry for being bad at communicating!" but has never really done much about it or changed. He's an "alpha introvert" & he's always always working by himself
He's always usually scrolling on his phone when we're together tho, & has plenty of friends. I made the mistake of seeing him "active" a lot on Insta when I was waiting for a text back? I ended up deleting the chat & felt embarrassed. it could be his way of relaxing. He's very active with friends tho so it's not like he's incapable of communicating.
I'm just kind of annoyed bc he always says this stuff (I guess he realizes it?) but doesn't really change. I think he senses that I'm pulling away, we've been in a slump.
I even told him a few months later that he needed to show more affection and he said "That's just me. That's how I am." bc he was an introvert
I suppose I need to give specific ways for him to text/show effort better? This is really really hard for me tho.
I'm normally very patient but I feel really disrespected a lot. Like I feel like I'm an afterthought or he just doesn't like to text? Are these excuses? I'm honestly getting annoyed.
There's been multiple times where he's forgotten to respond completely at all, like days pass. He has always said "sorry, I didn't see this!" or something else. He really is busy but it's getting kind of annoying
He has said 3x now "sorry for being bad at communicating!" but has never really done much about it or changed. He's an "alpha introvert" & he's always always working by himself
He's always usually scrolling on his phone when we're together tho, & has plenty of friends. I made the mistake of seeing him "active" a lot on Insta when I was waiting for a text back? I ended up deleting the chat & felt embarrassed. it could be his way of relaxing. He's very active with friends tho so it's not like he's incapable of communicating.
I'm just kind of annoyed bc he always says this stuff (I guess he realizes it?) but doesn't really change. I think he senses that I'm pulling away, we've been in a slump.
I even told him a few months later that he needed to show more affection and he said "That's just me. That's how I am." bc he was an introvert
I suppose I need to give specific ways for him to text/show effort better? This is really really hard for me tho.
I'm normally very patient but I feel really disrespected a lot. Like I feel like I'm an afterthought or he just doesn't like to text? Are these excuses? I'm honestly getting annoyed.
