Do you guys think guys and girls can actually be friends?

Question

I've been wondering this for a while. I've had some people tell me they genuinely do not believe men and women can be friends unless the man is gay because he will always end up catching feelings. What do you guys think?

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Only women with inflated egos think that girls and guys can't be just friends.
It's actually very rare that a woman is the right fit for a guy, to the point of him wanting more than friendship.

If she is too much younger or too much older, I won't date her.
If she is religious, or hates science, or is otherwise dumb, I won't date her.
If she hates spiders, snakes, cats, dinosaurs, anime, video games, sci-fi, or fantasy, I won't date her.
If she doesn't look physically attractive to me, I won't date her.
If she doesn't like challenging video games, or sucks at them despite practice, I won't date her.
If she wants (or has) kids, I won't date her.
If she cheats or has a high body count, I won't date her.
If she's not creative and talented at art, I won't date her.
If she's not bubbly, silly, kind, and funny, I won't date her.

If she is at least sharing in one of my interests, especially gaming, but not a match in some other way, I'll likely be her friend.

Love is rare, friendship is not.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

I think it depends. It's not always the guy who catches feelings, it can be the girl too. I have a few female friends. One time at a Halloween party, one of my female friends and I were drunk. One of the guys, a big drunken giant of a dude, pushed us together and said "why don't you two kiss each other?" We did and it felt like I was kissing my sister or something. There was no spark whatsoever between us. I've known her for over 20 years and we are still friends. On the flipside, there is a female friend I have who wants to have my children. She is my friend's ex and he would want to fight if we got together. She has a boyfriend now but the attraction between us is still magnetic after many years

youngmix · Accepted Answer

Of course, OMG. I know many many men, some are my friends bfs, and we don't all try to have sex with each other. My study group is half men, all of them are in exclusive relationships, and no one is doing anything romantic. We have lunch together, cook together, go out together, get coffee and hang out together, and during some vacations we chill and smoke or enjoy edibles together. I love those guys, and I can't imagine my first semester without having them so close to me. All of them are into studying hard core, they are super students, and they are into monogamous long term relationships.

They seem happy with their relationships, and I cannot imagine any of them trying to become romantic with any of the women in our group. I honestly don't think that we are their type romantically for several reasons.

But maybe I'm naive, as time will tell.

NopeWhatTime · Accepted Answer

I definitely believe they can. I've been friends with some guys for years without there ever being a spark between us or a strain on our relationship

Lonewulf57 · Answer

Difficult to say. I want to say yes, but I've been friends with a girl and found out she really wanted us to be closer, as I have been with some girl friends too. I was told by the most successful relatives with longest felationships, a relationship lasts longer when you can be friends first, so...

I have to ask in return, what is so wrong if the other person (women do it too!) if the other person gets "caught up in feelings"?
That said, I've had plenty of women as friends who were married that I never had feelings for. I'm not gay, I'm just not a home wrecker.

tommyvegas7618 · Answer

Absolutly!! I actually have more female friends than guy friends. Expand your minds, people, and put your penis up guys. Girls are much better at making this relationship work and most that I know, crave the idea and are hurt that so many men only want to know them to get in their pants; but a lot of men can't do it, unfortunately. Like really guys, are you really attracted to every single women around and have to have sex with her to be friends. You're missing out on some great relationships and conversations and perspective of half of the world population. I will say it's kind of tough if you really are romantically attracted to her, but still possible. Guys; girls are not just walking vaginas.

-Asca- · Answer

They can, I know this for a fact, I have lots of female friends and I've been friends with girls for all my life starting in kindergarten, so I don't even care for the explanations as for why guys and girls supposedly not able to be friends, as I have proven to myself numerous times that it is definitely possible. Basically all the guys I know have girls as friends and vice versa, the idea that it's not possible is just ridiculous to me and I don't understand where people who think it's not possible live, cause it must be somewhere behind the moon.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I used to argue that yes they can be friends, as I had a lot of female friends growing up, but I've come to realize that there was always an attraction component that made things slightly uncomfortable or a one-sided attraction grew.

One of my absolute best friends in life since childhood I barely speak to once a year now. At some point in our 20's we got too close, and while we didn't hook up we did talk about it, and things got uncomfortable after that, for both of us.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not possible unless the guy is willing to be in a permanent friend zone because most men like women initially because they were attracted to them, so if they're friends, then it's because she didn't reciprocate, or if they're friends, he's more likely to develop feelings for her as time goes on. Men are always being attracted to women sexually. It's just nature.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes I have a bunch of social friends I hang out with that are girls.

on about the Gay thing, does this mean Gay and Bisexual people cannot have friends of the same sex, it’s exactly the same reasoning….

Eeyore18 · Answer

I have many friends who are women. And I'm not gay or bisexual. I also have man guy friends. Doesn't mean that you have to be gay or even a bit fruity to hangout with the same or other gender. There's nothing wrong with it.

Tellme · Answer

That’s a very interesting question. I’ve heard different opinions on that.
Personally, I think it depends on the personalities of the two. For some people it’s possible, whereas for others it isn’t, I guess.

Adam1978 · Answer

Not close friends, more like coworkers that you don't share your inner circle with. Otherwise only if they are unattractive. You simply need to disqualify for higher tier. To stay as a friend.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've had quite a few female friends! Just about every girl I've ever known was nothing more than a friend! All but 3, so far.

Anonymous · Answer

No, that's silly. Of course men don't always catch feelings. They almost always want to have sex with you, though. That's why people say men and women can't be friends, not because of "feelings".

CheeseMonster · Answer

As a gay man, I can totally be friends with other men. It's easy. All you do is be friends.

Jackblue · Answer

No they can just be friends sometimes. Guys will always be considering female friends as potential lovers, but that doesn't mean they will always decide to pursue them.

sheikalana · Answer

of course they can. I have male friends some are gay others are straight.

exitseven · Answer

I have had a few female friends and although a few times it would get confusing I can say that they were among the best friendships I ever had,

AdithyaR · Answer

My best friend is and she's literally like my sister. So yeah guys and girls can be completely platonic and be great friends.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I agree that men and women basically can't be friends, but both the man and woman are able to catch feelings for each other; not just the man.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Guys can't be friends with an attractive woman. Women can be friends with most guys.

Wester1967 · Answer

No. You are a woman's lover or her little bitch. There's no in between.

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

I have always found being friends with women way easier. When i was stationed in Italy, my best friends were women. That also gave us someone to snuggle with.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I can be friends with a girl, without it leading to romance

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I have always had a ton of guy friends. No more was ever expected

Medhat-M · Answer

It's super rare when it's just friendship without toxic romantic games

Maddy5 · Answer

I love my guy friends

Twalli · Answer

It's possible. I am only sexually attracted to one female friend. I was attracted to two, but my girlfriend is a bit more than a friend

Anonymous · Answer

Ya it’s possible. U just can’t get sparks for some of them….

TheFlak38 · Answer

the eternal question. for the millionth time: NO! GAG itself is enough proof of that

clampfan101 · Answer

I know it. I’ve had female friends that felt like family.

Anonymous · Answer

They can not be. They always fall in love in the end.

BestWoman · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Of course! That doesn't guarantee that at some point one won't develop feelings beyond friendship towards the other.

julianna445 · Answer

Yes of course, I have had of a guy and a girl living in the same apartment for over 5 years without catching feelings for each other

MCheetah · Answer

Only if one of them is gay.

Anonymous · Answer

No  Unless you treat them as sister  You'll always end up catching feelings for them

Bluemax · Answer

Yes, they can be friends.

LadyCroft · Answer

I'm friends with a guy only if I fuck with him.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Yes. My best friend for nearly 20 years is a girl.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes I do, but it can become complicated.

SlyderKmK · Answer

Of they can... they can be friends with benefits's

Ray123456 · Answer

If they're not attracted to each other, sure.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

nope. i guaran fucking tee it

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Yeah

hellacray · Answer

Nope

awkward_author · Answer

Of course they can.

Nikodemus · Answer

I do. I have some.

devoygf · Answer

I don't think so

In_Trance · Answer

Never

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

It’s not impossible.

blueazure · Answer

They can be friends.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I agree

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