Why do you think he said this to me?

[Jessica745855]

Me and my hook up buddy of 2 years were sexting late at night. He asked through text message if he could pick me up so we could hook up. My hook up buddy then called me on the phone. The phone rang, so I picked up and hung up on him; because I didn't want the ringing to wake up my best friend who was sleeping next to me. I said to my hookup buddy; "sorry I hung up the phone, I'm sleeping next to someone". And then he texted me back and said "That's weird". And then he sort of was slow to respond. Why do you think he said, "That's weird" and was slow to respond?

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And why do you think he was a bit slow to respond after

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Do you think his response was out of jealousy?

[DaveJord]

Jessica this second post in 24 years in which you reference jealous. You seem to like this short of think... you hung up on him then text your sleeping next to someone else. You just of easily could of answer the phone and got out of bed... but you didn't or hung and left the room and called him back. But you totally didn't do any of that then text just saying sleeping next to someone. You kind of are coming off as tease and I would off ended it there if I was him. Because hook up buddy or not I don't play games like this with people.

[Bside]

Come on she prob did it without thinking letting it ring longer to wake someone up. Then she explained why like oh sorry. How is she playing games? Why if she was sleeping does she have to call back when she can tomorrow. Seems demanding for a friends with benefits. You are tired you don't really think about these things you pass back out. How is she a tease sleeping with him. Your sounding controlling over understanding. I don't know how that games. She said what was going on your too sensitive. That sounds needy for someone your not dating.

[Bside]

I don't thnk the slow response matters. He could have been salty deciding how to respond without showing his feeling, in the bathroom, distracted whatever. You both don't owe especially you to tell him who your sleeping by or why. He a friends with benefits that the point. Who cares don't date him he dumb.

[Guy13]

Assumed it was a guy unless you stated laying next to roommate. First notion is a little disconcerting, however, second notion would make me think….”good thing I loaded up on protein today and one of them is going to be missing out.. it might be fun to use both hands simultaneously to get things going…fair trade and return servicing desired.” 🙃

[Sarahdelacruz]

Why do you want him to be jealous? He doesn’t seem jealous from what you shared. It’s very weird to be sexting while sleeping next to someone. From the looks of this situation ig seems like you only said “someone” instead of being upfront honest & said your friend just so you can get a reaction out of him. Maybe you really like this guy & you’re trying to test him & see if he feels the same.

[Bside]

Insecure and not that bright. I assume it's why he a hook up buddy and not a boyfirend. Don't make him a boyfirend. If he was good enough for you he would have been to start with. Don't get used if you have feelings to please him. If he can't understand something that simple then I wouldn't worry about it anyway.

[TheorionMage]

Perhaps he was immature ENOUGH to believe HIS unwillingness to commit to intimate exclusivity was HIS 'province' alone.

MOST every female employing 'glamoury' can find a 'no obligations' roving 'Tom cat' FAR more readily than some egotistical self-imagined 'stud'. "TAKE a number!" ; )

[OlderAndWiser]

He probably assumed that you two are exclusive and you sleeping next to someone else meant that they were a sexual partner, and he was surprised that his assumption was not valid.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Probably because you worded it weirdly, making it sounds like you’re sleeping next to another person (presumably a hookup guy).


He must’ve been weirded out that you even said it. Or maybe he was jealous. It’s best to ask.

[jcjj1991]

Call him back and be clear with him. Explain its just a friend

[Jessica745855]

But my question is why do you think he said that

[jcjj1991]

You're his hookup buddy and you said you are sleeping with someone. He may have token offence. Just tell him you weren't hooking up with someone

[Jessica745855]

Offence or jealous?

[jcjj1991]

Both. Guys are upset when they feel replaced, even if they're not. For example, I went out with someone and she has plans with other people today. So I'm jealous she is with them but I understand. Your friend may not understand so you need to explain to them

[Kroberts16]

Sounds like he didn't expect someone to be sleeping next to you. Doesn't sound like jealousy. His response would have been angry instead of that's weird.

[XXblack88]

When you told him someone was sleeping next to someone you didn't tell him it was your friend?

[Jessica745855]

No, I didn't. Why do you think he said what he said?

[Gwenhwyfar]

He thought you meant you had somebody you were fucking in your bed

[Anonymous]

You need to tell him it was your friend, he's just assuming (as you would) that it's another guy and sex.

[Jessica745855]

Yeah but do you think he said it out of jealousy?

[Opinion Owner]

"It's weird" because he assumes you're texting him while in bed with another guy (weird right?). Would you not think it was weird if he did to you with another girl?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe, but not necessarily.

[lightbulb27]

because it is
poor and confusing communications.

[Nozgrd74]

He was in love with you.

friends with benefits situations are idiotic, can be confusing and are never a good idea. One person always gets hurt.

I don't recommend them...

[Jessica745855]

So he didn't like me but he liked that other chick right?

[Nozgrd74]

He could still have feelings for you, but is now with someone else.

[Jessica745855]

They were together for 2 years. They are broken up now and she married someone else

[Nozgrd74]

Oh I see, I saw your other post too, if he did get that jealous, he definitely had feelings for you and may still have them.
Was he cheating on his now ex with you for two years?

[Jessica745855]

No. He ditched me for her at the 2 year mark.

[Nozgrd74]

Ohhhh ok, I was just curious

[Surely]

He was stunned when you mentioned that you were sleeping beside someone. I am sure
that he automatically assumed that person was a guy and possibly had sex with.
He was thinking that he lost his benefit package!

[Staximus]

Because he thought it was a dude you were sleeping next to

[Jessica745855]

Yeah, but did he sound jealous? or was it some other reaction

[Staximus]

I was not the one talking to him, you tell me

[CallmeTheKnight]

This whole situation is weird because you made it weird. Why are you sexting when someone is next to you? From the looks of it, you just want to tease him and make him jealous.

[Likes2drive]

He probably didn’t realize that you even slept with that one thought maybe it was a guy or maybe it was

[cookiecrusher]

He thought you were just banging anothet dude.
And that is strange feeling to most guys, as we don't like women who are of "low value".

We would have sex with them but not date. So it's a conflicting feeling.

[Kabluie]

If he didn't know about the best friend earlier, that could be the weird comment. For me I wouldn't care. I'd text back sleep well, have fun.

[Bside]

Right he not a boyfriend. I don't understand at @DaveJord under your response. WTH my husband intruped me sleeping by someone Id do the same thing. Like yo i had to stop this from ringing I am sleeping by someone. I was asleep talk later. She not even dating him. Needy af. I don't know how that playing games. The respones was like what he talking about.

[spartan55]

No, probably pissed at your transparent attempt to make him jealous.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why not ask him? He's the one that said it, so only he knows what he meant

[DeeMB]

Prolly shoulda explained it was ur friend instead of saying ur sleeping next to someone while sexting them...

[Jessica745855]

Ok what do you think he meant when he said "That's weird" and then was slow to respond back to me

[DeeMB]

Because if you're sexting him while sleeping next to someone else... that's weird... lol

[Miristheiss]

Who were you sleeping next to?
It seems he thinks you are sleeping next to another man.

[Tstrbrainer]

Because he probably thought you were sleeping with a guy

[Mediterraneansoul]

Stop tagging me to questions lol. You should know your partner more than stranger can assume. Or at least get to know him rather than gossiping about him on gag

[007kingifrit]

uuuuh cuz you made it sound like you were sleeping next to a MAN

[msc545]

Just asking if you really want to know. Any guess that you make or anyone else makes is likely to be wrong.

[Jerre]

I think he was jealous, fucking the other person in your bed.

[Waldoe]

weird to be sexting while in bed with someone else... yes

[fireforeffect]

I think you have serious problems, Sleeping around with who ever.

[JesseJayNeak]

He probably thinks that you’re banging someone else

[Anonymous]

These are post wall stories... Ask later where are all the good men probably friend zoned or they wasn't bad enough

[Geminixx]

Because he obviously expects you to only sleep with him. The fact you're sleeping with someone else upsets him. He has some feelings for you.

[Flower7]

Do you want a relationship with this guy?

[driven159]

he was surprised and maybe jealous too

[OddBeMe]

Yes jealousy. Sex leads to love sometimes.

[smilelots]

it maybe a jealous reaction sure

[Anonymous]

Duh, that's kind of a woody killer

[In_Trance]

Duh...