Does it mean anything?

[Anonymous]

Does it mean anything if a guy lets his knee touch your knee or if he holds your chair just like how a guy would hold a girl’s waist?

[noamazia]

the knee thing could be just coincidental if you think that he is just that kind of guy that wouldn't care or notice such contact. if not then yeah, he is looking to see if you are okay with physical touch, or touching you in order to create intimacy.

if im understanding you right, by holding the chair you mean sitting infront of you and leaning forward (maybe elbows on his knees) and holding the char on both sides of your legs. if so, then he is into you, or at the very least you grabbed his whole hearted attention.
if its in another way then i don't know. need to see it.

[Asker]

No actually hold it from the side or like the back. Just like a side hug - but with the chair.

[noamazia]

then i have no idea. it depends on body language, situation and personality.

[Asker]

Well it is my teacher and I don’t know if it is reason enough to complain to the principal about it. I’m afraid that they say that it’s just in my head.

[Asker]

He might not have any bad or sexual intentions so I don’t want to be rude but at the same time it makes me uncomfortable

[noamazia]

in that case i would approach him with a friend and say something along the lines of "i don't know if you have noticed but you do A and B, you might not have ment anything by it but i feel uncomfortable in those situations, please be careful in the future, thanks"
if he dismisses you by saying you are over reacting tell him that reporting him is over-reacting, asking someone to stop doing something you dont like is being civil about it.

either way, if he continues to do it and doesn't show any signs of being sorry, try to lean away or move his hands/leg, then you go complain.
if everyone dissmisses you then you can become un-civil. whenever he breeches your personal space ask in a LOUD VOICE that isn't yelling "please don't touch me".
but please be sure that none of your friends feels the same as you as he might "change target"

i know im assuming the worst, but in any better case it would just be solved by itself.

[Wise4myage]

It can be considered flirting.

[Asker]

Do you think it‘ a reasonable for me to complain about a teacher who does this? He might not have any bad or sexual intentions and in that case I don’t want to be rude

[Wise4myage]

A teacher? Yes I do.

[Wise4myage]

Thank you.

[In_Trance]

Nope

[Asker]

Elaborate?

[spartan55]

Na, not really.

[Asker]

Do you think it would be wrong to complain to the principal if a teacher does it even though, as you say, it might Not mean anything?

[spartan55]

Stop putting yourself in that position.

[Asker]

What do you mean about that

[spartan55]

Don't be around him, STAY AWAY.

[Asker]

How am I going to stay away from a teacher? If I could, obviously I would

[spartan55]

Uh, easily. You are telling me you can't move, walk away, go to the bathroom, whatever?

[Asker]

I would have to just ‘go away’ in every single one of his classes? I need permission to leave class and I won’t get it that often. Thanks for the advice though. But I might need to look for a better long term solution

[spartan55]

I think it is mostly in your mind tbh

[Asker]

It might be. But that sadly doesn’t change the fact that I get uncomfortable. I only get uncomfortable because he is married to a former student. Otherwise I wouldn’t have thought much of it

[spartan55]

Why does that matter?

[Asker]

It means that it is not new for him to be attracted to students. It shouldn’t matter tbh, I might be overthinking

[spartan55]

You are, severely