Men, why can’t you be in a platonic friendship with a woman? (Page 2)

[Slartybartfast]

Funny, litteraly the ONLY good relationship I've had with women is when I keep them as strictly friends.

In fact I'd recommend keeping women in the friend zone , sleeping with them is ALWAYS way more trouble than it's worth.

[ishrak2EZ]

Girls, u still didn’t get it. I do have female friends and they r very close to me. When a women is not for dating, we just consider them as just buddies. U might or might not get special treatment. And girls seems to be friends with very close surroundings. They usually don’t easily take a stranger in friendly manner.
Maybe ur surrounding guys r not your friends.
And, many girls gives guys creepy look, as just saying hi is bothering them too much.

[Anonymous]

Because we are genetically programmed to be sexually attracted to women. That doesn't mean we can never be platonic friends with a women, but that will only work if we aren't attracted to her, and don't become attracted to her over time, which is often the case.

It always surprised me when women don't get this. It seems so common sense. I guess common sense is not as common as we wish it was.

[sonic_fever]

We can. Problem is most men settle on being friends with a women they have already had interest in. Also when you hangout with someone for long enough and grow accustomed to each romantic feelings can temporarily arise.

[Anonymous]

Simple.
We don’t need you for platonic friendship.
We have dudes for that.
And we can be ourselves around other dudes without being judged or shamed for being a guy.
We can tell our buddies stuff without them acting like we are creeps or assholes for having different views.

[oliversamuel]

I've got female friends that I am not interested in sexually and/or romantically at all. When I was a kid I did as well (until puberty at least. that was hard.). I don't think it's as uncommon as you think.

[RationalMale]

It's the nature of most men. We are usually only interested in being "friends" with a woman if on some level we are attracted to her. It varies, and could be a low level of attraction, but it is usually there.

[hahahmm]

Exactly! Women say they don't get this but, I don't see a ton of them running to be friends with broke dudes living in homeless shelters so I think they get it.

[RationalMale]

@hahahmm yup! without some level of sexual interest, be it low or high, most men usually are not interested in "friendship" with women.

[Djaay]

Unless he's married or is readily taken somehow , it just never works out no matter how you slice it. Why would a woman ever be interested in the same? Like why? I mean i see it all the time , but TF for?

[caitycat21]

Why do you think it never works out? Is there a way you believe it could potentially work out

[Djaay]

Well you know i myself have tons of girls\women that i do know and am like that with them. Im also married and they're all friends with both of us. Our culture here lends itself to that. But i think in the mainland US i think some guys could and most find it problematic.

[Djaay]

I am this way with you now that i think about it... and im just fine with how it is.

[riskync559]

I don't know im on the fence. I lost relationship cus of it and honestly I never done shit to assume other wise. Kinda think it's unfair for a women to have a guy as a friend but a guy can't have a women as a friend

[AviatorTom]

A guy can be platonic, but deep down, as Billy Crystal said in "When Harry Met Sally", the guy will wonder what she's like in bed.

[Icybread]

Cuz most girls aren't perfectly relatable to a point where you genuinely enjoy her companionship as a friend and keeping her that way rather than escalate as partners

[motownplayer2000]

Lol because there are these things called hormones and more importantly Pheromones, that both men and woman produce. And once chemistry and pheromones mix. It’s hard to resist a physical connection.

[hahahmm]

True. But beyond that 99% of guys, even if they think the just want to be friends with a woman, it's always going to be the women he finds hot. Not the women who would make him puke just thinking about hitting it. So that biological attraction that he thinks he's dodging is still going to be pulling him. Like being on top of an ice covered hill and thinking you can just stroll down like normal.

[FilmGuy93]

Every woman I've been platonic female friend I've had has ended up getting super possessive, controlling and jealous of me.

[Anonymous]

This is a myth. I have many female friends from elementary school that are still my friends. Now if they wear something revealing i am going to look, but i have 0 romantic feelings towards them. I see them as my sisters.

But, and this is a huge BUT, if i like a girl romantically, there can never be friendship after that. I simply can't see her as a friend, because i don't kiss my sisters on the mouth. I don't stay friends with my exes.

[Berethor]

It's hard if the woman is attractive, it's not hard if the woman is unattractive.

[Anonymous]

What’s the point of guys having female friends, though? If you’re single, it’s more important to find a girlfriend and if you’re married, it’s pointless because you already have a female friend for life.

[caitycat21]

I’d like to think there’s a difference between platonic relationships and a romantic relationship

[MistaM2daE]

Ummm it's not with all men but my best relationship was with my friend sooo sometimes it's just hard to resist a relationship that you know will be going good places..

[michol123]

We can be friends with a female, we just want to know what you look like naked or what it’s like to have sex with you.

[caitycat21]

Why is it always sex with y’all

[michol123]

Hormones and instinct

[caitycat21]

But I’m a woman and also pan but I don’t only think about sex and seeing people naked that I’m attracted to

[caitycat21]

Do you think men are socialized to think that way? And if so how. I think that’s the reason when it comes down to it honestly

[michol123]

I’m trying to think of a place or era where men were socialized differently and got different results but in every outcome men are the same

[MartinGoulet]

Because of my work, I have a lot of friends who are women with whom I won't date for a reason or another, mainly on ethic side. But even prior to this, when I was a child, it was always easier to be with girls than with boys (more respect).

[AydenHazor]

Most of my closest platonic friends are women and I believe in a better person for it.

[TexasRed95]

We can be. I have been several times. It all depends on if the guy can control himself.

[FunkyMonkee]

I could! Been in several!! I'm not so sure she could, though!

[hannesohne]

Since i am castrated i can be in a platonic friendship with a woman. Now its no problem for me, because my sex-drive is lowered and friendship can stay friendship. And i feel me in a higher male state with a big inner peace...

[Anonymous]

It's pretty much of a myth. I was in a group of people, many males, many females. 3 women were very kind towards me but only of them got my interest, I kept being friends with the rest, no attraction to those two.

[admles]

I can, and quite easily. I have a number of close female friends who I don’t look at as anything but a friend.

[Luopio27]

If there is atraction in either way, the friendship will either not work, last or be comfortable for both.

[johnnygodeep]

Because y’all have that nice pink gap between your thighs that’s warm, wet, gets swollen is inviting to us…

[Vegasrunner]

The uncomfortable truth that women know but dont want to hear is that outside of sex women have little to know value to men

[clampfan101]

I can. I have been.
Even if I do find a girl attractive, I can be just friends.

[caitycat21]

Ok, that’s good. Why do you think other guys believe otherwise?

[clampfan101]

Because they’re not real men. 🙄
Real adults think with their mind and heart, not just their crotch.

[Dayman343]

I've always had platonic friends. I enjoy female company as well as men's