Why should "i' message "you"?
I do follow few women, on instagram. An artist, a phtotographer, a chalisthenics athlete, parkour chick and a gymnast.
They post things that interest me, and sometimes i like their posts, and comment. Every now and then i do reply to a story, which ends up in a DM. Just a line or two about the post.
I find their content interesting as i do a lot of the same things. Some of them are pretty attractive, so that helps i guess. While not important, as i do the same thing with dudes.
Just DM'ing an attractive woman on any social platform would mean i would like to go out with her. Most guys would not look for "friends" in this manner, no matter what they say.
Also most women tend to get a lot of unwanted DM's, not really motivated to add to that. And guys who do report that most do not reply or even look, especially the good looking ones.
I personally don't like texting with people. I like one on one hangout, just chatting for hours. That is fun, texting sucks 😗. I would only use it for invites.
So i ask, why should "i" message "you"?
Are you lonely? Do you want "me" to message you? How should i know that?
If you want to talk to a guy, just do it.
As a woman, nobody will think you are creepy and find it unwanted, if you are decent and don't say weird shit😅.
And that shadow is great and all, but can we see the cat? 😅
I do hope you saw the quotation marks. It was written as in the shoes of some guy who some woman expects a DM from.
It was written a bit all over the place, i got in a hurry halfway through, but it is an interesting question, so i wanted to at least throw something against the wall.
Other than that, questions?
I gotta admit, your luck in love I just terrible 🤣
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Takes one to know one tho, it be like that
Likewise Alyssa 💯🙏
Some guys on GAG have been intimidated out of messaging.
There are many negative posts about girls getting unsolicted messages from guys saying that they don't like it and because some of them include dick pictures.
If you want to be messaged I would put up a "Will you please message me guys?" post and see what happens :)
😂😂😂😂😂 She needs to be careful what she wishes for…
Women , man they always confuse you last time she was complaining about being sexualised.
I mean Gods Must be Crazy 😂
Oh gods sake not u again @Aakash_Hangargi
Lol what did i do i am just an innocent person 😃
"not you again". LMFAO 😆. Oh, Aakash... 😂😂
She only said that bc she likes me lol😂
@Alyssa_11 Aww. Sorry, Alyssa! 🧡
by the way, speaking of messaging, @laurieluvsit I would love to chat with you again sometime. I know you think about sexual things a lot, but I do enjoy conversing with you as a friend platonically.
When you say message me, do you mean comment on your questions? cause I just tried to message you and it says I can't... so if you meant DM's then they cannot based on your privacy settings.
If you mean they never post answers to your questions and stuff, maybe they don't have anything to say so they just read.
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Mainly cuz this isn’t a dating app lol if someone follows you they might just like the questions you ask , Don’t get me wrong there are attractive looking girls on here but it doesn’t mean I want to bang everyone of them , I can’t speak for every guy but me personally only is attracted to a girl I feel I have a lot in common with , so it takes more than just looks for me to be really interested in her , I do like to joke around and flirt at times for fun but the only way I would go further with a girl on here is if her and I have amazing chemistry and connection together and we see a lot of things eye to eye , that’s just how I am , let alone I know their are guys that can just have sex with a girl just to get off on her , to me that is just dirty and wrong, life lesson I learned , cuz when I was younger There was a time I mainly just thought with my dick over anything but I always valued relationships and the thought of cheating or being cheated on wasn’t something that bothered me until it happened to me and I realized girls are just as bad or worse than guys are. i see a lot of very attractive girls but it doesn’t mean they are all attractive in the inside
Well, if lots of guys can do that, why would they try? They probably assume that your inbox is flooded and you aren't serious about talking and probably just looking for clout. Why compete to get a woman's attention?
On a side note, didn't you say you had a boyfriend in a different post?
My mistake. It wasn't accusatory towards you, but I thought I saw a post you had at one point about a boyfriend. I must have mistaken you for someone else.
I don't really use social media, but even I know that most guys using it are doing so mostly to follow pictures of hot girls that they likely think they have no chance with, satisfying themselves with just seeing those pics.
Do these guys have any way to know if you are single? Or that you are interested in dating? Are you going to reject every guy who doesn't look like he could play the lead in a TV show? Most guys fear rejection, and most guys are in fact rejected most of the time, so unless they have at least a bit of hope to suggest that they have a shot, most won't even take a shot. It's less painful to pine for you from afar than to get shot down and know they have no chance.
I'm not saying I agree with that position (I don't), but I definitely understand it, and I used to be one of those guys myself.
I've never seen your pictures . I don't know why other guys don't message you I can't speak for them I can only speak for myself you are a very beautiful woman I would think according to all your words and the way you feel about things you have a beautiful heart you're very good person and even though I'm looking for somebody you have been true quite a bit I would definitely want to flirt with you because I want to feel your energy and your emotion you find out who you really are and I wouldn't want it to be taken the wrong way or a negative way or even judge in that moment because nobody would know what was going to happen until the very end and that would take time so I would want to hurt you by starting something and not being able to finish it
I think people over think social media, or let it get into their heads too much. If they are following and commenting then who cares. If you don't like it then unfollow or und friend them. People send me follow request and accept them and follow them back... doesn't mean I actually pay attention to what they are posting or even care to respond. Maybe you're just not as interesting as you think, or maybe you're to self involved... or maybe they are just creeps and you're wasting your time over thinking it.
I read your posts and some opinions on your question. First maybe they just watch because they think you are attractive but don't bother to message you. And if there is a guy that you see watching your stories and all but don't DM you why don't you do it first? Something funny or about his latest post if you don't know him personally. We are never better served than by ourselves
It's because they respect you and don't want to be creepy by jumping all over you.
I personally don't message anyone unless I have something to say to them.
We hear about women getting harassed all the time, so some of us recognize that and we just want to take the high road.
Well, I've explained it before: Because (self-respecting) men aren't into queer women. It's not "intimidation;" it's not wanting to pursue a woman who openly admits to wanting to be with women (instead of him).
I'm just going by the fact you said you literally want to sleep with women in a post, and then try to deny that you're still somehow "straight" after admitting that your heart/genitals is set on being with a woman.
I'm just telling you, any self-respecting man would be turned off by that. (Not cucks, though. They're into women that don't like them.)
Maybe they follow you to see your questions and for them to see yours, not because they want to talk to you privately? Lots of people follow me and I follow them yet I very rarely dm them or them me. I just didn't think it was that kind of website...
Why do you expect them to message first if you want to talk then you have to message first the very thing that you expect them to message first sounds like they should come to you but thats not the case at all
If you start talking maybe they will start talking too, you posted this question now you are getting replies so a conversation starts it works like that
Cos when a guy flirts with a girl 90% of the time she will reject him or call him a creep (yes even if he's good looking)
And that's very sad for us and destroys our self esteem.
So at a certain point guys jus decided to give up... Why keep trying something you keep failing at?
The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again and getting the same resultThe chance of a guy rejecting a girl tho is like 10%So why should us guys willingly offer ourselves up to be rejected by you girls.. when you can jus message us first instead, and not be rejected... And show that you're interested in us? I think it's time for you girls to be the initiators now.. only have yourselvs to blameSo if you see a guy you like you must message him first now, Have a taste of that medicine
Because they think that you are out of there league. That happened to me in High School, I was afraid to say anything to her at all, but I finally mustered up the courage and spoke with her and come to find out, she liked me all along and we are still together today. So go ahead guys and say something to her you will never know unless you try... LIFE IS TO SHORT SAY SOMETHING BOYS!!!
You: "A lot of guys follow me, watch my stories religiously and like every photo I post but never message me"
Also you: "The creeps still message me smh I mean the guys I actually want to talk to lol"
So clearly the guys that do follow you do message you, but are called creeps. Maybe that's why the other guys don't message you... because they'll be called creeps for doing so. Just something to think about.
Following someone doesn't mean they want to speak with you.
It means something about your profile they like
Do you showcase your hobbies, interests, and personality on social media? Or just post selfies? I'd personally not message an attractive girl unless I thought she was compatible as friends hobby/interest wise, anything more would stem from that.
Also, if she's only posting selfies, then I assume it's either a model, or a bot, or some guy posting pics of a girl he likes the look of or thinks will get him clicks on ads.
thats why then.
I tend to not message anyone anymore cos every time it jus ends in the person insulting me or rejecting me in some way, I usually jus press follow people instinctly without thinking about it as some sort of friendly way of sort of saying 'i like you" without actually saying it
Also never follow anyone's stories that jus dumb
I follow for the questions and stuff.. my experience is, I initiate a conversation and women especially can’t keep a conversation going. Therefore, I just answer questions.. if she wants to do a PM then I’ll respond. But it’s pointless to start one when usually all we get is one word responses.
It's kind of seen as weird/bad to slide in a girl's DMs if you don't already talk in person, sometimes even if you do. If you like her you don't wanna come off as weird. Also starting to talk over text is harder than in person.
Usually when peeps want to talk just make the first move lol oh wait are u seeking attention oh nooo lol jk:)
isn't that a good thing that you don't have creeps sliding into your dms? lol
Watch your stories religiously? Lol🤣
Do you want to know the reason? Because you might be too pretty that we don't even stand a chance with you.
I would probably think she's taken or she have 200s of messages from guys and I don't want to feel like one of those creeps
Maybe they just like your photos on Instagram or your takes on here? I don’t think I’ve ever initiated a DM. I only really use Instagram to post some amateur landscape and scenic photos every 4-5 months.
I'd say you're probably right about the intimidation luv. Could be they're shy or more likely, they like all of your photos in hopes that you'll message them first.
Personally I think they're just hoping for sex, not conversation. Doesn't exactly paint us in a flattering light 🙄
No they are just interested in you as a person. They are "addicted" to new pics. They don´t have an interest in a relationship in real life.
A follow and viewing doesn't necessarily mean they intend to message but might just, "enjoy" viewing the stories. And many guys are unsure on whether or not to just message since all women respond to that differently.
Girl I get to many dms be be careful what you wish for. I get some crazy dms
apologies if any of mine were too crazy lol
Lol no not you. Mostly FB and Instagram I get crazy dms. I haven't had an issue here
good phew. ;)
Lol yeah fb is the worst I get a message and first thing even before saying hi or whatever is a dick pic. Not that I always mind because some are really nice but damn some just don't get the point and I need to ignore it block them.
just zero to 10 in an instant with some of them huh lol
Oh yeah
They are like me. At the point where they don’t feel the need to make a move and would rather let the girl show interest.
Or they are very very shy
You've hit on something there. Maybe it should only be possible to add someone after you have messaged them, and they respond.
I will say that they really don't have interest. If anyone has interest in you, they will talk to you. Also note that there are different interests such as fling, serious date, friendship, getting to know the person, etc.
m " This user allows private messages from followings only "
I'm as guilty of this as anyone. I follow people whose contributions to the site I find interesting. I don't message anyone because I consider it intrusive. Most people seem to be quite happy with that.
There's an unspoken rule out there.
If the guy messages a girl, first, the girl deems him to be a creeper and then either ghosts or blocks him, even if he's perfectly polite & kind.
If you message me, first, I'll pleasantly write back!
To consume your content.
Why are you complaining?
My message is to you and I prefer A To B Cup breasts
Guess they just want to see all your stories and pictures
You want a brunch of creept guys sliding into your DMs?
There probably used to when but wanting guys to slide into their dms so they just follow along to enjoy your photos. Do you post anything to encourage them to hit you up?
Cause they’re shy and afraid of rejection and want you to make the first move
they're just trying to see if you post something sexy so they can beat their meat to it
Well said
You might be busy, destruction will not be good for you, so we avoid sending messages.
With peace
In my opinion, "Social" media has created a generation of voyeuristic behavior. It is unhealthy. It is strange. And it is one of the reasons that people do not grow up.
Are you referring to messages on GAG? I cannot message you as you do not follow me.
I would love to see an update on how many DMs you get within 24 hours of posting this...
Hey! What's that? Pandora's Box? Yeah sure I'll open it up. 😂
We can’t message you unless you are following us too.
Oh well then I don't know 🤷♂️ I know I can’t message you for that reason
There's a ton of competition so it's not likely we get a response, rejection hurts our ego so we might avoid it when we think it could happen, and we've been conditioned to feel like we come across as horny creeps when we DM women.
Maybe you are a bit intimidating, or he like your work but that's all, or he may be new school and think you may message first.
A lot of guys are afraid to message women because when they see a woman who they think is out of his league they're afraid she's not going to respond. You'll get the creeps and perverts who are fearless but the ones that actually want to get to know you are going to be more timid.
Maybe they don't wanna be like "the other guy" that slides into DM
Because you are closing the messages to only for the people you follow
Why message when you can enjoy sitting back and watching? Besides, would you rather have every guy message that follows you?
YES... yes, you are, average guys find Beautiful, intelligent, and funny women intimidating... I never message them (more than 20 times) ...
Maybe your settings won't allow messages? Or maybe they're interested in your posts rather than get to know you?
Hey I'd love to message you. Like your pretty sexy smart , caring and awesome
You would be amazed at how insecure most guys are. We are brought up to believe that we are supposed to fit into the alpha male role rather than being ourselves.
If I follow you and message you so will you message me back.
You notice the 2% that does and ignore the fact that 98% don't.
People do that to me too and I message them and they don't reply. Why follow me then?
Thanks and message me if you need a friend.
Following people doesn’t mean that they have to message anyone
You do know some apps don't allow you to message first without the other person matching, like Tinder?
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