He told me he can't talk to me... during 15 minutes?

[Anonymous]

so... i told my boyfriend
Ill call him after work
After work he sends me voice messages saying he had huge fight with his brother and he can't talk now
He wants to go eat and sleep
But he was telling me the reason why he doesn't wanna talk for like 15 minutes
In this time we could talk about topic i wanted to tell him

[Misterm93]

Ok so your boyfriend got into a fight with his brother, yes he sent you voice-mail explaining why, but that's only out of respect and love for you he still needs his space to calm down and clear his head. so he doesn't want to talk after explaining what happened. If he didn't say anything at all there possibly depending on you as a person could cause him even more aggravation from possibly getting into another conflict by arguing with you on why he didn't pick up the phone, when all he was trying to do was clear his head. After clearing his mind and calming down he'd more than likely will share everything that happened from start to finish. But at that time he just needs to be left alone and by himself but also letting you know what happened so you won't worry or get pissed off for him not answering.

[Asker]

Oh my... male mind is weird
I said he has my supoort , said i love him, said he is better than his brother and he should never doubt it
Is it ok?

[Misterm93]

Not that weird if you've ever been in a situation that's gotten you so upset the only thing you feel can help you calm down is to be alone then you understand only difference is that you'll think of the person you're closest to who you know will worry or get upset if you don't respond to them so you let them know whats up and yeah its good to show him support let him know you're there but until he comes to you talking about it let him chill and when he seems calm if you want ask what happened

[Asker]

He is very moody always
Im getting tired somwtiems
Too grumpy to changing

[Misterm93]

Have you talked to him about this?

[Asker]

Says he is nervous by nature and depressed

[Asker]

So how it was...
I said around 2p. m. ill call him or during his break or wven he leaves work at 8p. m.
At 7.55p. m is when i got the messages
Basically preventing me from calling him

[Misterm93]

Hmmm being naturally nervous is something he's gotta over come same with depression depending on how serious it is like if he was ever diagnosed with depression or not he should go talk to a professional on why he's constantly feeling this way and what he can do to overcome these feelings

[Misterm93]

Well again you said he got into a fight with his brother so whatever time he got into that fight right after is when he sent the messages where he just needs to clear his head

[Asker]

No
It was on Monday he told me
On Monday he got into argument with him
Yesterday he was at work feeling bad, said he even cried
Because his brother told him hirtful stuff about their dead parents

[Misterm93]

Ok well then that's probably the problem still in a way getting over the passing of his parents like he still hasn't completely healed and with whatever his brother said didn't make it any better. If his brother said some hurtful things to him about their parents and the fact that he can't even ask them to confirm what he said was true, it can weigh heavy on his mind make him sad and depressed and probably resent his brother just because he said it and it was possibly said in a way just to win an argument especially if the argument wasn't even about their parents

[Asker]

No idea what the argument was about
The thing is i tried to send him messages on Saturday, Sunday, Monday
He or didn't answer or answrred like "yes" or "no"
So from Saturday to Monday he ignored my messages and he wasn't in argument with his brother
On Monday they had a fight and on Tuesday i tried talking to him and he denied me the call saying that.
Also he said that "dead can't defend themselves"
So i guess his brother said smth real bad about them, like REALLY BAD
But still we didn't have a normal talk since like Thursday... but the fight was on Monday
Something else was going on those days
But when i said ILL CALL YOU
He told me that he can't talk because he is sad and all that stuff

[Misterm93]

Ok then again maybe he needs to go talk to a professional about all of this because whatever his brother told him put your boyfriend in a very depressed mood about his Parents and he's still possibly having a hard time getting over the passing of his parents

[spartan55]

Na, that's not how it works. Respect his space.

[Asker]

What do you mean
It doesn't work this way, what "it"?

[Guy13]

he forgot to turn his finger off while he was tagging that🚼.🍆. He’s tired right⁉️

[Asker]

What?

[Guy13]

Yep.

[Asker]

I not understand you

[Jouth]

He doesn't want to talk to you.

Your wants are not more important than his needs.

Respect him or you will lose him.

[Asker]

Who said i dont respwct him?

[Jouth]

I did.

[Asker]

But i respect him