Guys, would you block a potential partner?

[Anonymous]

I hope this will not be confusing.. There's this guy, he and i have a weird relationship, we're not quite dating but there's something there. We were at a bar, well, i was, with some friends, so anyway he showed up. Twasn't planned, hadn't spoken to him the whole day. When he saw me, he literally lit up then waved, my heart skipped a beat. He doesn't really know the friends i was with, so he didn't come to where we were. He sat at the counter. Since i'm crushing hard, had to go and give him a hug. We made small talk for a few minutes. Sat at the counter two seats from him was another friend i hadn't seen in a year, i didn't know he was around. He noticed me and beckoned me over to say hi, now this guy is super goofy so the hug he gave me was over the top lol, he held me for more than five minutes. My guy was pretending to be on his phone but he kept looking up at us, his mood 100% changed. He was now sulky and sad looking, angry even. I tried my best to get out of the hug, when i did the guy still held my hands as he spoke to me, asking why i don't call or text him, had to lie and say i lost my phone, mean i know lol. Said my goodbyes then went back to my guy. I asked him why he looked different, he asked how, told him his mood changed. Said he was just tired, he probably needed to go home and sleep. Didn't press the issue. Went back to my friends but i kept an eye on him. Every few minutes I'd go and talk to him but he wasn't the same, next thing i know he's gone. Oh well.. :( When i woke up the following day went on WhatsApp to text him but i was blocked? What did i do? Was he jealous? I get jealous when he hugs/talks to other girls but i've never blocked him, so why would he block me? I know we'll see each other soon, we work around the same place, should i ask him or just let him be and see what he does? Ts been 2 days now and i miss him so fuckin much :(

[TheLoneTerran]

He overreacted to some pretty intense jealousy from the sound of things. Most people admit to a twinge or small feeling of jealousy on occasion but there are a couple possibilities. First off, ya didn't do anything wrong. Only he controls his actions. It could mean he's a jealous person and this could be a regular thing.

He could've been genuinely surprised by the feeling or the intensity and it sapped his enthusiasm.

Or small chance that the feeling did leave him feeling very tired.

The blocking could be an effort to create some distance so he can sort his shit out, beginning of a ghosting, or a manipulation tactic.

If he snaps out of it and unblocks and gives you a real apology, then maybe it was a one time thing. Then it's your choice how the relationship proceeds, if it does at all.

And by real apology, I mean he admits what happened was his fault, result of poor decision he made, etc. Not one where part of the blame is shifted to you. Not "the way you were interacting with that guy" or something you did. And more, "When I saw you two together, I felt (insert emotion) and/or acted immaturely. I block you because (how I felt, I needed time to think/sort out feelings, etc.) not "because you ignored me/made me feel bad/were all over that guy", etc.

[Changiis07]

He probably got a little jealous when the guy wouldn't let go of you. You aren't boyfriend and girlfriend so there isn't a need for him to act that way. He sounds like he likes you too. You can try talking to him and be honest and tell him what's on your mind. If you like him then it's best to let him know somehow so he knows you aren't into other guys.