See, if they were just hanging out and the night before hadn’t happened, I’d see the guys point entirely.
It’s not that he did anything wrong per say. But, more like he was getting irritated with a woman he was just intimate with. It’s not great, is it.
If I sleep with a guy, and he gets frustrated over something ridiculous the very next day. I wouldn’t exactly break down in tears, but I’d immediately be flawed. Cause getting irritated so easily with the person you just had sex with, would show me he just he isn’t that into me. It’s a red flag at the very least.
The morning after, he is supposed to be going out of his way to make her feel comfortable... and not treating her like an annoying sister.
She probably got upset cause he’s just shown her that she lives in the ‘only good enough for sex pile.’ By the way he treated her just hours after she laid with him. It’s not appalling behaviour by any means, but it’s a massive reflection of her worth in his eyes.
I'm going to give you a little fact about men and this isn't necessarily an excuse for what he did because he could have still redirected his anger to the game and not to the person.
You see guys are naturally angry. That's not their default state but men naturally procure anger over time and need an outlet.
Men's relationship with anger and video games is deeply intertwined by this point and there's two types of relationships for video games anger and Men
One relationship is the causal relationship in this relationship between games anger and Men the video games cause Men to become angry and in this case they generally yellow a lot and most of them know how to direct that anger to the right spot but some of them don't unfortunately and things like this happen because of that.
The second is the releasing relationship. In this relationship between anger games and Men the video games actually help relieve men of stress so they generally don't yell in an angry way while playing video games or at least not as often
Again what he did was bad we can agree with this he shouldn't have yelled at her however the keywords are "at her" if he had yelled at the game console or at a wall or whatever then I wouldn't say he did anything wrong because well there's only so much you can do.
Also naturally you don't insult people but that's a given
@crossdressingrihno I know men use things like football and video games to relieve stress. They don’t have the same pros that women do when it comes to emotional venting, so they fuel it somewhere else.
However, as you agreed. He knew better than to yell at the girl. Especially after she spent the night. I’m sure any other man who was interested in her, would have found the capability to hold back.
Men are on their best behaviour for the women they wanna keep.
Yes, he is an asshole for getting mad and raising his voice at her just because she is bad at the game. Of course, If this happened to me, I would not cry at all. I will just be even more of a bitch than usual and turn into devil's incarnate. I will throw the controller in his face and proceed to wreck the entire game console with a baseball bat. If he shouts at me, ridiculing me for being bad at the game, then I will ensure there would be no game at all. Period.
I mean its a video game so why would it matter if she could not pass the level what was the frustration about? I mean if I was the women I would think that a hug RED FLAG. This guy I just met yells and get upset over a trivial video game... then after making her cry he buys her gifts like that makes everything okay?
This classic abuser behavior... this is exactly what abusive and dominate men stereo typically do. They lose control over their anger lash out and them buy gives to make up for it, and then act like the women is indebted to them for being generous. So since worked over the video game why would the women not expect this type of behavior to exoculate over time... What happens next, she breaks a glass so you slapper then take her out and buy her a new car?
He was in the wrong, her inability to play should not affect his mood. He should either switch of the game or be prepared to carry the whole game alone. Like he probably do when she wasn't around. She is clearly doing something she usually doesn't do. If that isn't good enough they should switch to something both are better at.
Anyone who loses their rag playing a video game is an utter cock.
i think we had one lad who threw his teddies over some game or other and had a go at someone over it, his console got thrown out of the 3rd floor window or whatever we were on.
Can’t comment on the girl, as depends on context of what was said, either way having a go at anyone about a fucking video game is really pathetic and points to some loser.
I think he is kind of an asshole... but I don't know the man... so hard to say.
He has some issues... I honestly don't want to date guys that play video games... and this just assures me. People can hate all they want... I played video games as a kid...
If he "insulted her" there is a big problem... if he was just upset at losing, it is understandable... but he directed his anger to her.. what did he expect, she probably doesn't know how to play.
a videogame is absolutely not an acceptable reason to snap at someone. i also don't like the idea of physical or monetary gifts to say sorry. a heartfelt excuse and a change in behavior in the future are way more valuable to me
yes he is. I think crying over that is a bit dramatic but it’s just a video game and there’s no need to scream at someone over it. And it’s a red flag. If something as small as failing a video game gets him that angry at her, what would happen if she did something else? 🥴
No. Everyone loses their patience or temper once in a while and yells, it doesn't mean that the person is necessarily an "asshole" but it does mean that an apology is due if you hurt a person's feelings.
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The man has apologized and has done a bunch of other things to make the woman feel better.
All we can do is to admit we were wrong and ask for forgiveness right?
No I mean its understandable to get annoyed when you been playing a game for a long time and someone who more likely hasn't just isn't good at it. You feel like its 2nd nature and theirfore it should be easy to do. As for her well, I guess she dislikes it when someone yells at her. or something to do with her past
He never knew that she is going to react that way and there is a big chance that he may also do that to his male friends. Most guys don't react that way. What's important is he actually apologizing and made up for it. He's not an asshole, he is just being himself
Funnily girls like to call him an asshole for that simple mistake yet they're the ones who also like guys who be themselves which is why those nice guys turn them off because they seem fake to them.
I mean... Oh boy. I mean it's not really that big of a deal but I wouldn't want someone to yell at me considering yelling makes me feel like I was back as a child and beaten by someone. So not really but just don't yell it's not great being yelled at.
Guys just take games too seriously, I've been there, he isn't a dick because he knew his wrongs and tried to find a solution but he should control his temper while playing games, it can be hard cause sometimes you take it too seriously lol
Guys get really heated when playing videogames He just needs to learn where to direct that heat. And if they end up in a permanent arrangement then she should learn that guys get heated in video games and that she shouldn't take what he says when he's yelling about video game seriously
I'm not saying what he did is good obviously what he did was bad but this is more about aiming the anger and having good communication than about him not yelling because if he's going to play video games he's going to get stressed out at some point and he's going to yell.
Guys have a lot of testosterone and guys are naturally prone to anger and stress so if it wasn't video games he just end up finding some other thing that would make him mad and make him yell.
It's about where you projected and making sure that the people you are near understand the situation
Sounds to me like he had high expectations. Maybe held her in higher esteem, felt let down at her inability to live up to his image of her, and lost his cool out of disappointment.
Yeah, he was in the wrong. But it was pretty mild.
not sure but maybe he was frustrated already at the time and the women's behavior stimulated his anger but the great part is that he understood his fault and apologized.. perfect husband material
I would say that he perhaps does not have a conscious awarenes of how his behavior is perceived by other people and that sometimes has very profound results.
I have a freind who is generally a nice guy who never yells at anyone or anything thing but for the love of God turn down the volume in the Xbox party chat when doing call to arm in Red Dead online
He doesn't yell at us he just starts yelling about how Rockstar needs to fix the game and how the spawn points are all weird and things like that he doesn't like go insulting us or anything like that
Honestly yes, look I love playing video games as much as the next guy but come on straight up breaking somebody spirit to the point they start crying is a real dick move.
