Should a woman be upset if her man likes a lot of woman's pictures on Instagram?

[Anonymous]

[WonderBell99]

I can only speak for myself, but liking someone’s picture is not exactly something I’d consider as cheating, so no, I would not be upset. It would only pose a problem, if he expects you to be like those models, or dress like them 24/7.. which I assume, no decent man would.

Most of these pictures he likes are those of models, is it not? Just because he is in a relationship, does not mean that he is visually impaired. Of course, he is going to notice attractive women. Any man into women would. This does NOT suggest that he does not find you attractive. I assure you, you have nothing to worry about.

Does he talk to other women and hides it from you? Have you noticed any changes in his behavior recently? Has he given you any reason to doubt him?

Trust is the foundation of all relationships. If you do not trust him, end this relationship and move on with someone else.

[Asker]

Nah its just like it makes me feel unspecial. Like oh you like me but you literally seem to adore everyone

[WonderBell99]

Have you talked to him about it?

[Asker]

I haven't. I hate changing people so I think there's only one way to go from here. Unless I get comfortable with it.

[Asker]

And nah it's like people that go to our university, some of them don't even follow him back.

[WonderBell99]

As long as he or any of them are being flirty with him.. i don’t think you should bother much.

I understand how you feel. I’m not invalidating or trivializing your feelings, but he may not know that this is making you feel uncomfortable. You need not be okay with it, but you can always talk to him and see where he stands

Don’t sound confrontational, he will get defensive and it will only lead to fights. Just say:

“Babe, I’ve been feeling a little insecure these days and you liking other girls’ picture makes me feel a little uncomfortable.”

[Asker]

Yeah that sounds like a good idea tysm

[WonderBell99]

no worries at all. hope it helps (=

[Anonymous]

This level of insecure will sabotage your relationship. You would do yourself a great service by overcoming these insecurities, before getting into a relationship.

[Asker]

Is it also an insecurity that men prefer women with little to no body counts? You wouldn’t mind wifing up the class whore?

[Asker]

I'll just end up doing the same thing. Find myself a lot of guys nearby to follow and start liking their pictures. After all if he can do it, then I should be able to right? I will. And I'll like every single one of their pictures, in front of him even. Lastly, ima become the instagram models he's obsessing over. Titties out, tight dress, ass right on display, lips poked out. If he doesn't mind, then yes I will he wins work on it. If he minds, well, guess we have to compromise :^)

[Opinion Owner]

Errm, a lot of men don't care if you've had a life before them, we just don't want any STDS. I think that's extremely reasonable. My girlfriend liking other dudes pictures doesn't bother me. I'm a rational person who is secure enough in our relationship, to know that she isn't going to find these men and run away with them. If I didn't trust her, we wouldn't be dating.

I don't care what you do. I'm just giving you the advice that YOU asked for - what you do with it, is your choice to make.

Yes, ma'am, you are EXTREMELY insecure and defensive about it. Keep going on like this and your relationship won't last.

Wish you the best, though... have a good day.

[Asker]

Actually, I'm smart. And I'm determined. Call me what you want, but I've lived with me my entire life. I know myself more than what some stranger on the internet detects from my responses. Like I said, I'll do exactly that, and if it does bother him, does it really matter what I am? Nope.

And no YOU may not care about body counts, but a lot of men do. Go ask your friends :^) have a good day honey

[Asker]

Also like I said, if he doesn't care then yes. I will take your advice and either work through it or leave. So thanks for the reply, but watch how you're talking next time.

[Opinion Owner]

I never said there aren't men who prefer little to no body counts, I only corrected you by pointing out that there's just as many men who DON'T care about body counts. Of course there are men who are insecure and I would tell them the same thing I'm telling you. Those men didn't ask this question, though... you did.

"Watch how you talk to me"? Am I not supposed to stay on topic and respond to your reply? Your response had fuck all to do with your question. No, I wouldn't marry a whore, but liking pictures, dressing a certain way, and having a life before me, dosen't make someone a whore. (All though... if you take suggestive pictures to get validation from strange men online, I could argue that that's something an attention whore would do.) What does this have to do with your situation with your boyfriend?

I'm not saying that you're dumb, I'm saying if you're upset about your liking pictures of other women, you're insecure.

You're welcome. Hope it works out for you.

[Opinion Owner]

And liking some pictures isn't being obsessive, lol.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe upset isn’t the right word. Maybe I should have used disappointed instead. Obsession with social media is not attractive. So if I had an idea their social media was this bad beforehand I don’t think I would have gotten into the relationship. So yeah I am a bit frustrated. That is a dealbreaker for me.

[Asker]

You’re using the word “some”, and it’s really not “some”. I’d like to clear up that misconception.

[Asker]

I literally never said that that stuff concludes that one is a whore. I was trying to help you understand what you’re sounding like. Guys say a woman with a low body count is sexy. Understandable. They don’t want their girl to have explored the entire world before them. A woman who is too nice to everyone is also unattractive, I was one. A lot of girls wouldn’t want a guy is too nice to everyone. I mean all of it has to deal with how picky one is. The pickier the sexier, and liking everyone is not picky. Nor is being on social media too much in general.

[Asker]

Would you find someone who uses social media more or less attractive? ↗

[Asker]

And maybe I should give you some clarification as to what "a lot" is as mentioned in the original question. First of all, in their free time they're on social media. Period. If lucky he might read or start watching tv but for the most part its that. Which already there I would have preferred someone with a little more ambition but whatever.
Secondly, he follows between 2-3 times more people than that of those who follow him. When I look at the following tab and scroll down its a lot of girls. Like taking the top 30 following here not including mutuals, 25 are women. Thats a fucking 5:1 ratio. For every 1 guy he follows 5 girls. I'm just now realizing this like wtf.
Thirdly, when I click on those girls' profiles he's liked all of their posts back until mid 2021. Each and every one. Hasn't missed a post. And of course they're all selfies. Some of them don't even follow him back. So that's why I mentioned the picky thing. I would never devote my energy to someone that doesn't even follow me back. Like where's the standard? I don't know. So if you still feel like my frustration still doesn't make sense let me know. I did ask for advice and if he doesn't seem to care what I do and you say the feelings aren't reasonable then yeah I will work towards becoming less insecure because I'll have realized I am.
PS im pretty sure he even feels wrong about it because he gets very careful when Im around and he's on social media, he scrolls fast. Spends more time on posts that are non-girl related, and when a girl does come up he quickly scrolls past, ignores, doesn't like the post at all. Whenever he would do this I would just leave cause I didn't want him to be under that kind of pressure. Can't always control what comes up but still.

[Anonymous]

That's up to her. But know jealousy isn't attractive. And getting mad isn't going to change anything.

[Asker]

I mean let’s be real getting mad never changes anything with men. Pulling away does. But this is one of those things. It’s the same way a guy wouldn’t want his girl being super friendly with every guy. It’s unattractive. Doesn’t have to be about jealousy.

[jahaims]

That would depend on her values

[Luckycharms12]

No most people like friends posts

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope