Guy from tinder ghosted me but still follows me?

[Emonica01]

We talked on tinder and decided to text on Instagram. We been talking everything was good we had conversation all the time. We even called on the phone. He even told me he liked me and wanted to be more then friends. On the last call we had he told me he seen me more as a friend he actually seen himself with me. The next day he texted me good morning and ghosted me out of nowhere. It’s been four days now?

[its_amelia_c]

I’m not sure what your question is?


He hasn’t really done anything wrong. You were not dating, you were talking and getting to know each other. You hadn’t met up yet. He has been upfront and honest with you. After getting to know you over a period of time, he has come to the decision that he sees you as a friend not a love interest.


He has therefore continued to meet people in the dating app and given his time to them to make a connection and see if they match.


If you want to continue to be just friends with this guy then you can by all means reach out to him. It is a two way street. It’s not just up to him to reach out to you as a friend, you can reach out to him. But it will be just as friends. He has made this clear.


You will now be best to meet someone else as a love interest and continue on that journey to meet new people just like he has.

[Emonica01]

yeah but I don’t get why he would ghost me after expressing all this. If he wanted to be friends he could of just said that and I would of been like okay. But on the last call we had he told me how he wanted to be more then “friends”. He wanted to be a boyfriend and a friend. Then the next morning he sents me a cute Goodmorning text and I reply back and never heard of him again.

[its_amelia_c]

Ummm ok that’s not at all how your post read.

You post reads as though he first was maybe interested in getting to know you. Then on the last phone call he said he was just interested in being friends.

If you re read what you wrote back, you may see that is what you have written, and why this would be confusing.

This is clearly what my reply states, and why I wrote what I did. Why I came to the conclusion I did.

But also with your new information. If you want to reach out to him then you should. As mentioned a relationship is a two way street. Both parties are responsible for contacting each other, it isn’t just up to one person.

If then you do and he doesn’t reply after a decent amount of time, as some people can be busy and you do need to give them time to reply. Then he has probably met someone else.

As I said, you two have not met up in person, or has been a over the phone relationship, so it’s very hard to call that a relationship and creat a strong bond that would keep someone tied to you.

Maybe he has met someone out and in person that he is now interested in pursuing as they have hit it off.

Maybe something in his life has happened that has distracted him, it could be a family matter, a life matter with him, etc. and this has become his priority right now.

Maybe he has something taking up his time, work, schooling, etc. and he needs to concentrate on that to achieve a deadline or project completion.

There could be many reasons. But it’s up to him if he wants you to know or be aware. You cannot force someone. You just have to accept his decision as hard as it is.

Some people are just rude like that. It’s not a nice thing to have happen. But maybe it’s better to know the type of person he is now early on before you invest to much time on him.

Now you can meet someone else worth your time. Move on. Be happy. Enjoy your life. He clearly wasn’t worth it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's been messaging other girls as well. He sounds quite flirty and I get a player vibe. Unfollow him and waste no more time with him. If he wants you, he knows how to find you.

[Emonica01]

Well tbh he was really nice and he had a good personality in the first two calls we had he wasn’t flirty like that but then after we started catching feelings he told me he liked me and stuff

[Opinion Owner]

Well I think you just need to wait for him to come to you. Maybe you could send one last message and see if he responds. Just a casual text.

[Emonica01]

It’s been a week and I don’t think he’s ever going to text me back that’s what I feel.

[Opinion Owner]

Did you text him again or leave it?

[Emonica01]

No but I posted something in my ig story and he saw it so eventually he seen my story but can’t reply to my message

[Guy__]

Make a last message that it's not going to work this way, and if he still doesn't reply move on. You can also let him know that you're done with him at that point, just so he knows in case if he had any expectations.

[Emonica01]

I messaged him again I told him “if everything was okay” and he never replied back so I just unsent the message. We still follow each other and stuff but like I don’t know if everything was good he texted me his usually Goodmorning text and he ghosted me out of the blue. And he would always tell me he liked me a lot and would never stop talking to me and all this things

[Avicenna]

If you liked him, contact him again to see how he's doing. It's not clear from what you posted who made the last contact/

[Emonica01]

He texted me Good-morning and I replied back then he just never replied back again.

[Guy__]

Are you sure he knows that you like him? Maybe he thinks you're wasting his time trying to grow an instagram following.

[Emonica01]

@Guy__ he liked me and always told me. The last call we had he told me he wanted to be more then friends not just friends. And he knew I liked him as well. Then the day after he sent a Goodmorning text and replied back and never heard of him again

[Doom880]

Maybe he found someone else and isn't interested anymore, maybe he's just playing games or thinks you aren't interested in him.
No one can know what exactly happened
Wait a few days, try to contact him one last time and then move on

[Emonica01]

I contacted him if he was okay and he didn’t respond back so I just unsent the message

[Leshen]

Honestly, block him love. If he was interested still he'd make it known. Even if he does respond now it would be to waste your time.

[Emonica01]

We just follow each other but it sucks how he told me all this and ended up ghosting me

[Leshen]

Yeah, people do suck. It's really the dating world right now.

[Emonica01]

Update he texted me again , he told me that he likes me but when he ghosted me he was going through stuff financially he was stressed with college and he lost his job. But he said he still wants to continue talking to me

[Leshen]

Mm, I don't know, go for it if you really want to. I don't think I would mostly because I think early on it's an unstable situation to invest in. Maybe be friends starting off then see where it goes if you feel it's worth it at some point.

[Emonica01]

he ghosted me again so i just blocked him on everything. We were talking and yesterday night till right now no response so he’s ghosting me. Even after saying stuff like he won’t do it again and how he regretted it. So I just removed him on everything thing

[RuthlessAggression]

Maybe something happened to him. I don't know him so I can't answer this. Give it a few more days, and then if he doesn't reply back, he's likely not interested

[Emonica01]

It’s been 6 days already so I’ll take that as of he’s not interested in me no more. But why say all that a day before ghosting me

[RuthlessAggression]

Give it a couple more days hun. See if he comes back. I doubt he lost interest

[Emonica01]

and we still follow each other on ig and he has my # so if he wanted to he would of called me back but I don't know it’s confusing because he said he wanted a relationship and he shared his feelings to me and now I get ghosted out of the blue

[RuthlessAggression]

Yeah like I said, just give him a little bit more. I doubt he is ghosting you

[Emonica01]

Yeah but we follow each other but I be posting on my ig stories and he doesn’t see them but he be on it

[RuthlessAggression]

He may not want to. That doesn't mean he doesn't still want you. People pay too much attention to Social media. Just look at GAG, for example

[Emonica01]

yeah but the last time I messaged him I said “hey everything okay” and he didn’t reply so I unsent the message. Hopefully he reaches out soon he even has my number so it’s like if he wanted too he would

[RuthlessAggression]

And I'm sure he will. Just give it some time

[RuthlessAggression]

How come you didn't pick me as MHO?

[Emonica01]

Well I posted something on my ig story and he seen it so it’s more the clear he’s ghosting me sadly

[RuthlessAggression]

Likely not

[RuthlessAggression]

And your MHO's are pitiful

[electromagnetic]

Remove his follow and move on. You’re going to just end up wasting your time.

[CallmeTheKnight]

People can actually lose interest

[Emonica01]

Yeah but like on the last call we had, he would tell me he really liked me and wanted to be more then friends and even told me he didn’t want to be just friends he wanted to be a boyfriend

[CallmeTheKnight]

He's was saying all that, but why isn't he your boyfriend?

[Emonica01]

I mean we were taking it slow and he would tell me I wouldn’t be single for too long. I just don’t get the ghosting part everything was good and out of nowhere he ghosted me like what

[CallmeTheKnight]

Sounds like to me that it's just lovebombing or whatever women call it. If he's been saying all that and nothing has happened, then it's crap. Words and actions gotta match. Don't fall for such a guy like that. Trust me, he's not the man you want and you don't even know why he really keeps saying that and why he ghosts you.

[Emonica01]

Yeah cuz he would tell me that he can’t wait to see me , and that he’s counting the days to see me and all that. He would even tell me to see when we’re gonna call because he misses my voice. But yeah just sucks he ghosted me because I really liked him he just wasted my time. And it’s crazy cuz he wanted something serious as well. He was looking for a serious relationship

[CallmeTheKnight]

Either he was looking for one or another one, because he probably had someone else or he was full of crap. Either way it goes, he's full of crap

[Emonica01]

Yeah I would think that but then it’s like why sent me a cute Goodmorning text or tell me the day before otp that he wanted to be more then friends with me when all a lie. He could of just been honest

[CallmeTheKnight]

You're new to this. Things like this happen to a lot of people. There's an important lesson to take from this.."When things don't add up, subtract yourself "

[Emonica01]

He texted me back and he apologized he said he was sorry that he was dumb for his actions. He told me he really likes me but he was going through something he was stressed with college and he had recently lost his job.

[CallmeTheKnight]

It's easy for me to say this since I don't let stress change who I am,, but Think about this now. If he does this when he gets stressed, he'll do it again.

[Emonica01]

Yeah I know he can ghost me again but who knows and he told me that he’ll never let this happen again and all this. He told me he felt “stupid” and a big “disappointment”. We called last night and he was just apologizing and stuff

[CallmeTheKnight]

Words and actions should always match. His don't

[Emonica01]

he ghosted me again for the second time. Yesterday night till right now no text back. So i just removed him on everything. He’s very confusing I even told him straight forward if you don’t want to talk to me just say so instead of ghosting. And it’s funny how he was saying he regretted it and felt bad when he did it again. I removed him on everything and ima continue my life. But seriously he was weird for that

[CallmeTheKnight]

You're doing the right thing by cutting him off completely. Even if he reaches out again, he'll use the same old excuse and do the same thing. He never was truly into you and you owe yourself the peace of no longer dealing with him.

[Emonica01]

Yeah exactly and he told me like yesterday how he really liked me a lot and wanted to do all these things together like going out to eat. but yeah I removed him because at this point it’s just a waste of time

[CallmeTheKnight]

Nothing left to talk about. He did want he wanted to do and keep in mind where you met him.. Tinder. Nothing left to talk about.

[Fuentes]

You must have not been about it

[Emonica01]

He knew I liked him , and he even told me I wasn’t going to be “single” soon

[In_Trance]

So what is your question?

[kimo203]

Move on... maybe he is just playing

[Emonica01]

He texted me back again and apologized for his actions he was going through something

[missmels]

Block him

[Anonymous]

Move on, he's a waste of your time.

[ChillaxingLove]

Block him.

[Iron_Man]

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