Can anyone tells me what this means?

[986432]

I have been dating this guy for almost a year and he has a best friend with a girl. At first I was super cool with it but now he spends way more time with her, like 5 hours every other day and barely ever want s to see me. Every time I confront him about he tells me I shouldn't worry because he doesn't see her like that and that they are just friends. Should I believe him, what should I do?

[Emogirl999]

My boyfriend has a female bestfriend that he is extremely close with, on a few occasions he has been an hour or more late when we had plans because something was wrong with his bestfriend and he wanted to make sure she was okay first, and I respect that. Yes him being late and ignoring me for her is annoying but she is important to him and he has known her for a lot longer than he has known me, but despite being very close with her he still makes time for me when he can. But I would never make him choose between me and her. Guys need best friends that they can share everything with a lot more than they need a girlfriend. If he is neglecting you that's bad and it's probably not just because of his friend, if he really likes you he will make time for you no matter who he is with, if he isn't making an effort to make time for you then he probably isn't that in to you.

[986432]

Thank you 😊

[Sorbay]

wow you getting played and you dont even know lol

[Emogirl999]

I'm really not but thanks for the concern

[zeitgeist057]

Great answer, and I agree. I was going to say more, but it got long so I'll put it in my own individual answer so I'm not riding your coattails :D

[kylee2437]

This is a double end sword. You either break up with him because you don’t trust him or you stay with someone you have trust issues with and it only gets worse from there. This is something that is your personal decision. If you really think he is cheating, what’s the good in staying with someone like that?

[shanshu]

You don't want to pull at that thread, he sees her as his bestfriend, you start planting that idea in his head it's going to surface something, you see your the one that has a problem here.

If you make him choose then he's going to choose his best mate because if they spend that amount of time together they have a special platonic bond.

He can most likely be more himself with her, have a shared interest in hobbies, act like total idiots. Most likely these hobbies don't interest you or how he might act like an idiot you might find childish.

What you need to do is give him that space but also talk to him, say you want to spend more time with him, dont bring up how you feel a bout him and his bestfriend. Have him concentrate and you and him, plan a day out or a night in.

[FunkyMonkee]

I would just not bother with him anymore! At least for a while. If he's so much more into you than her, he'd MAKE time to see you or at least include you!

[zeitgeist057]

I would say your relationship between the two of you is just that, it's up to the two of you and doesn't really matter that he has this bff who is a girl. They obviously have a strong friendship, and if you barely spend any time together, I would focus on strengthening your own relationship with him rather than trying to sabotage, weaken, or get in the way of his bff friendship. What it comes down to is what is more fun or relaxed for him? If it's hanging out with you, that's what he'll do. Not to make it a competition, as it shouldn't be.

Also, I want to say kudos on you for being "super cool" about it, you sound like a great girlfriend honestly, to be so chill about him spending his time the way he wants to. If I were your boyfriend, I think the important thing on the guy end is to appreciate you for being so flexible, and also to check in with you and see what's going on. It sounds like your needs may be neglected a bit? Or is it just that you're concerned about cheating/infidelity?

[hafinjun]

Yeah right on, loose him he's probably telling her the same BS. only difference is now she's getting cock and your not.

[matt2200]

If he spends more time with her than you, that's definitely a problem.

[AsunderingNova]

How do they treat each other?

[986432]

They act like a married couple

[986432]

He told me when we first started dating that she was his number one priority

[AsunderingNova]

Do they get physical? or maybe flirt?
then id be worried.

also could you check out my questions? or give some advice?

[69chucj68u]

Fuck no