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First : shyness is a spychological behaviour there is a normal shyness and there is social anxiety.
Second : shyness has nothing to do with crying.
There are serious reasons we must get out what we feel or that will affect our mental health , but crying over pathetic things is considered lack of self raising.
I suffered from depression when i lose my father at the age of 11 , lost my mother at the age of 15... I have necer thought i will be in that situation my life became upside down sonce their death.
I came to a point that i need to cry i want to express what i feel , i am in deep pain.
This is a rational thing to cry on.
Some guys cry over very pathetic reasons which has nothing to do with our lives as human beings , but i dont judge that easily because i stufy psychology and know that they lacked development and they need help... They may suffered fro good parent raising made them ao sensitive to anything so it ia not always their fault but they can change themselves to better for themselves not for people.
Girls don't like the guy who can't differ between proper reasons to cry and non proper ones , actually girls love to support guys who are crushed or in miserable situations if they open their lives and talked with eachothers.
I worked on supporting my girlfriend and staying beside her , she felt the need to express what she goes through and i loved that i succedeed in heloing someone else so he/she don't get to the point they feel that they are alone in that world... I dont want people to suffer as i suffered.
After that we became very open with our emotions and sometimes i feel the need to be between her arms and cry when my mental health goes down due to pressures in my life.
If you have enough built up good will and evidence that you're still a strong male for her, then she can overlook weak behaviors.
Do too many or too frequent and you get cut. Where that line is per the girl varies based on the act. Just remember she still needs to know you'll keep her safe at the end of the day.
If you're shy only in the sense of not as social, that's not so bad. If you're shy as in fearful of other people that's not attractive. If you cry at your moms funeral that's not so bad. If you cry because you're stressed at work. She won't say it but she's losing respect for you as a man and beginning to not look at you the same way
I don't trust men who can't cry. I dated two with different types of depression that made them absolutely unable to handle or process their emotions.
It lead to a lot of problems. And not just with me, but with their friends and families.
I also don't like shy men. I used to be shy, I spent a lot of years working on that. People who are shy, but also don't work on it, I tend not to want to spend a lot of time with. On occasion is fine, and if I'm having a heavily introvert day, yes.
But I'm someone who enjoys energy and initiative, and I want that in a partner. I don't think a shy person can really fill that for me.
I would like to reply and remind you of something VERY important. You are 100% correct, but you are leaving something critical out. Men do cry a lot more than you may know or understand. They are careful to not let people see them crying. When my mother died I did not cry all the way through her last days alive through the visitation and her services. On the way home I stopped in a rest area on I 85 in North Carolina and broke down crying. Just please remember man handle sadness differently in most cases.
@Moose304
I wish you were right. In the case of my exes, my first honestly had a crisis because he couldn't muster emotion at his own grandmother's funeral. He loved her and she had been a pillar for him growing up - and he had let his depression run so unmanaged that he didn't feel anything.
He didn't feel anything for months.
He legitimately had severe clinical depression he refused to manage.
I am happy to be the one my male friends turn to when they need a shoulder to cry on. I've been that person for several of them. I understand very well how men are often raised to mismanage their emotions. My father is one such man. I know acutely the reality.
This is unfortunately not the case with my exes.
It's why I refuse to date anyone with unmanaged mental health issues. It really fucks with your life and your partner's life when your mental health isn't taken care of properly.
Fair enough! I am also sorry you have been subjected to this. I was however reacting to this "I don't trust men who can't cry." I was just pointing out that it is hard to tell with the average male. Of course, mental illness changes all of the dynamics. I guess I am sensitive to this because I have had many people (mostly women) call me a cold heartless monster because I don't show emotion all that much. It takes a while to get to know me to really understand how I am. Peace!
@Moose304 That's fair. Thanks for the context. :)
I tend to shield my emotions with strangers as well, and even my close friends I tend to shield from the worst of it, too. I was just raised not to display emotion other than what my abusive mother deemed pleasant.
If a guy's crying ALL THE TIME, no, a woman doesn't like that! And if he's so shy he can't get a word out to have a conversation, again, no, a woman doesn't like that.
Women like men with even temperaments. Just like men like women who are even-tempered. Being a little shy is OK. Crying at a sad movie or a harsh life stress is normal.
Nobody wants someone who's so stoic they're marble or so fragile they're weepy or always depresed. Likewise in the personality department. A bit shy is fine. Tongue-tied leaves a lot to be desired.
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I only cried once in front of my ex girlfriend. Never cried when I was upset about my life struggles. Never cried when I recalled negative past experiences. I didn’t cry the day she broke up with me. I only cried once a few weeks later when I told her I missed talking to her. I did not ask her to come back to me. Simply said I missed talking to her.
She proceeded to give me one of the worst insults I had ever taken from a woman in my entire life. Not that it was said in anger. It wasn’t. It was said in pure disgust and indifference for the pain I was feeling. It was complete disavowment. She looked at me as less than human.
The opposite of love isn’t hate. It’s indifference. So no it is not a good idea to cry in front of women.
I like guys who aren’t arrogant and disrespectful. Periodt! Males are humans too and have emotions. So yes, I don’t mind to see a man crying. I’ll cry with him and hug him, hold his hand and tell him I’m here for him. But don’t cry for no reason lmao or be a crybaby.
My ex was very shy and I was attracted to that introverted personality. My boyfriend now isn't shy though, and he barely ever cries. In my opinion I wouldn't be attracted to a guy who cries all the time, but it is nice when a man can show emotion during a really difficult time.
Can’t say for shy, but I like men who can be vulnerable with me, so If I see them cry, I am fine.
My boyfriend has cried, the morning I had a flight, I woke up to see him with teary eyes, once or twice when we broke up online it also appeared to me that he had teary eyes, but he refuses that all the time.
Yes you broke up with him and he cried. So you “liked it” when he was vulnerable. And again when women say “we broke up” when you broke up with him.
Maybe I’m wrong but your scenario but just saying
@globetrotter22 No, I initiated first because he hurt me, he initiated the next.
We reconciled both of the times, he’s usually the one who hurts me more, not because he wants to but because we are in forced LDR and both of us feel frustrated we can not meet each other…
I have a hard time with a shy guy. They don't have much to talk about usually, which makes being around him uncomfortable.
I think it's ok if a guy cries. Why not? God made him tear ducts and tears so he could cry. There are so many people hurting in ways I have never seen before. Men need to be free to shed their sorrows with tears and hugs and talking about their sadness and hurts. Perfectly okay!
True... it's really tough to make conversation with shy men
I am shy myself so i can relate to shy guys and guys have the right to cry as much as any girl. I don't get why society says crying makes you less of a man because that's dumb. I'd probably go for someone who is more outgoing because they would balance what I lack.
I don’t mind shy guys. I totally understand if he cries because of a tragic even, but if he cries after having sex…well…let’s just say that it’s a big no for me.
🤔 why would a guy cry after sex
It has happened, I understand that testosterone levels change but that emotional change can really annoy/turn off/disappoint me. Although my brain understand the reasons that happen, it’s hard for my nature to accept so many emotions coming from a man.
Yes I am sure they like shy guys or men who talk less but a woman certainly won't like it if a man cries often. Yes in an exceptional situation it is fine but if a man is very emotional and cries often then the woman tends to lose respect for the man irrespective of whether he is a shy guy or not.
I love when a man. Enough to share his emotions with it crying being shy anything like that because for so long Miller been made to feel less of a man for crying or anything like that I think it makes you more of a man when you can let it all out
What men said was different from what women said, lol
It's the women who don't like shy guys that are more likely to end up with players. Lmao. But if she likes players, good for her.
They love the quiet guys. The ones they call mysterious apparently. The one that will awknowledge their presence but actually not be interested in them one bit so they aren't up on them talking to them like all the other guys that are trying to get at her are. Those guys, funny enough they are the ones that get approached by women because of all the built anticipation and mystery they built to the ladies.
I dont care if he's shy around others as long as he's comfortable around me. As for crying? Only if its worth being emotional about. A lot of stuff is not
Well I prefer guys who are not shy but I wouldn't reject a guy because of his shyness. I also have no problems with guys who cry. There's nothing wrong with crying, it's an human reaction.
After dating a social butterfly for a while, I think I would much prefer a shy guy. I don't mind if my man cries, shy or bold.
What do you like about shy mm?
It depends on the person. Personally, I don't like shy guys or whiny guys, but it's cool when a guy is not too pushy and is open about his feelings.
I'm comfortable with boys who cry and that are open about their feelings , it makes me feel more connected to them on a certain level
IT DEPENDS. It's all about who cries not what action is performed. When a handsome guy is crying it will be considered attractive and there's a strong emotional attachment to crying. Unattractive guys crying may also make someone feel sorry but they still won't be attracted, sexually. You can't be gay by a choice am I right? You can't force yourself to like someone ugly.
Most don't. Girls like guys that are straight tforward and not totally over aggressive yet not a total chicken either. As far as crying it depends on the reason.
I personally don't like shy people in general, I don't have the patience for that and crying is a human reaction and completely normal.
Being shy is human and completely normal too lol
@BruceJender no it's not
I never said shyness is unnormal, I just basically said i don't get along with it and then made a separate statement about crying
@melanieeeB don't worry I knew what you meant :), I was trolling tbh, and it seems like @Reem12345reem fell for it hahaha
@Reem12345reem Don't feed the troll (me)
I’m okay with shy guys..
I actually prefer them.
They somehow make me feel safe emotionally and physically…they’re sensitive they’re caring they’re sweet and some can be protective 💖 and I quite like that.
No; they see them as weak and emasculate. Crying is the bigger turn-off. Option F.
Shy in the beginning okay… Depends if he is also boring… or have other issues.
Lool the survey does not reflect the truth in real life , according to my observations and objective point of view. There are lots of complications based on it but no need to explain much about it , just laughing :)
E. Not the answer you ever look for, but the one that’s always true to me.
In my experience, girls like fun and excitement. there's nothing fun about shyness or crying.
What do you think? You've supposedly been around for 27 years. In all that time you must have observed a fair bit of male/female interaction. In your experience does a guy being shy and crying tend to INCREASE or DECREASE the level of attraction they generate with women?
I like traditionally masculine manly men who also aren't afraid to be vulnerable and feel comfortable crying (at least around me)
I like guys to be vulnerable but personally I’m not very attracted to shy people in general
A man who is not one or the other. A man who is human
There are certain women for every type of man. Being an introvert myself, women who hit on me see me as a challenge…a secret message they want to decode.
I need a guy who is take charge and dominant
I like a guy with a sensitive side
Really pay attention to this answer guys.
She thinks she needs a guy with a sensitive side, but she really needs is a head-strong and dominant man.
Yes. Everyone look at how @BruceJender is attempting to manipulate this woman's honest answer.
@dustybiker I appreciate the support but I just ignore comments like the one from @BruceJender
@Boldy_Erin Apologies for that.
Some trolls need to be used as their own example to clarify to others they are wrong.
@dustybiker Trolls? 😅
I've been on GaG for many years. You think j am troll hahaha? Just because someone disagrees with you or offers another opinion doesn't make them a troll.
When my dog died, I cried like a baby. I was happy to be with a woman who understood the pain I was going through.
These few select men with their loud opinions (and one attempting to manipulate woman's replies) They take it to such extremes.
Nobody is saying they want a man who loses it all the time, at the drop of a hat (that is extreme). Just not be afraid to have natural moments like yours.
A guy who cries sometimes means that he's not a total bish but be mine for the takin to hold like a teddy bear
Unless it's over a deceased family member, close friend, or beloved pet, you better not cry in front of a woman.
They say they do but that's a straight lie bc they only assume bc again media tells them to do...
I was like that, every fckn time, the girls starts to use that side of yourself against you everytime she can...
I rarely ever go for shy guys since I'm an extrovert.
It would be easy for you to make him open up.. since you are an extrovert
Depends on the woman. Some women are AMAZING while others are not nurturing at all and men LOVE a nurturing woman
I dont really see guys saying "i cried my way to the top of pyramid" or pulled shy card and all the girls just went crazy.
No. But they want a man that’s sensitive when with them. But normally when in public or his natural personality has to be strong and masculine for it to be attractive to women.
I am a shy guy and I'm hardly crying cause I have to be really stabbed in the heart to do that. I'm not senseless tho.
This is a shy guy that every woman love:
This is a shy guy that every woman on this planet hate:
So it's not about shy or confident it's about looks.
No they don’t that’s why theyre always boning with Chad and almost always only choose the shy guys when they want to get married usually as a single mom with two or more kids
Men need to cry every once in a awhile, I hold in everything, if I could just hold
On to someone I trust and let down my guard for a second I would be so happy
But why is he crying..
Personally i like guys that aren’t shy because then we’ll never really talk to each other
No. Women want to know that the man they're with is emotionally connected. But if a women say she likes guys that cry. Then she takes pleasure In trying emasculated guys. Nothing more!
*hides* she never saw me so was unable to form an opinion.
Of course they don't. You have a much better chance attracting women if you're an abusive violent douchebag then being someone who's shy.
They say they do on here but in real life, no they don't. Girls like tough guys, not sissys.
I was never shy. Some people mistake keeping your mouth shut with being shy. No. Im open to saying anything at any time.
I love shy guys. They are my favorite type.
They're pretty cute in their mannerisms.
But it's reallt hard to get them open up and get naked for sex
@insteadfew Sex isn't my priority so it's fine.
But you need sex at one point no?
@insteadfew If I manage to make him my boyfriend eventually, that would be great <3
You'd be able to get him naked and ready for sex even though he's shy?
@insteadfew Easy!
That's my type but I haven't met any
How many you have approached?
Why do you like shy men?
@Honesttguy none😹 ok now I know why I haven't met any
@insteadfew coz they are cute and not hurry things up, take relationship slowly, also there are less chances of them hitting on other girls and they will stay focused on their study/job rather than wasting time in approaching females.
I’m right here dawg.
Not really the shy type but definitely the extremely emotional type.
@LigmaBallsack like the ones who cry when they see their bride in a bridal gown for the first time?
Yupppppp
@Aditiiiiii20 i am curious why do you like shy men? Are you outgoing and dominant woman?
@insteadfew I have replied to your question
& No I'm not dominant.
@insteadfew yea they take time but they definitely open up. Also I would not want to have sex with anyone who isn't compatible but with shy guys I'll have enough time to find this out until they open up completely.
I guess I'm shy too and those not so shy boys take relationship too fast & I'm not comfortable with them.
Wouldn't it be hard for two shy people to express themselves with eachother and initiate a conversation especially at the early stages?
@insteadfew I don't know but I have dated a shy guy and he was able to open up about his feelings. I guess if he has opened up enough to approach he is also open enough to express his feelings.
And also if he can't express it his actions or expressions will say it all & I don't have to worry about him cheating on me so I don't see this as a problem.
Looks wise how do you like men?
@insteadfew I don't have any particular type. Only that I don't like obese man & also those who are too short (under 5'5)
How about skinny men? Slim skinny bony looking men?
How tall are you?
@insteadfew I like slim men, not exactly bony (if by bony you mean men who look like bones and skin and no muscle at all).
And, I'm not so tall. I'm 5'4
What's your weight?
You are 5'4 hence tou say you don't like it when a man is under 5'5? 🤔🤨😂 Isn't it
by the way what if he js just 5'6 and 50 kg or so?
5'4 is okay for a female especially Indian , no?
@insteadfew yea it's average height for indian females.
My weight is 53kg
Yea i don't want him to be exactly my height or less.
I don't know can't say anything about the height and weight you mentioned without having a look at the person but he seems to be quite underweight for this height.
Guys who are shy yes, guys who cry no.
Shy but confident, cries but not overly emotional.
Girls love shy guys... Speaking from experience
No thanks to both
they say they do but they really don’t
I would prefer a shy guys.
I don't
Don’t listen to what they say lol
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