Do guys like females that are shy?

Question

I'm someone who's unable to look at guys in their eyes and barely even speak to them. When I like someone, it gets even worse where I can barely like be next to them without like my face burning tf up. Anyways... I don't know how to fix this as it's been like ages but I think guys think that I don't like them? Or maybe they just didn't like me. I have no fucking clue. What do you guys think?

SladeGrey · Accepted Answer

I love shy girls, primarily because it represents a softness and a vulnerability that attracts the male's instincts. It's our job as men to protect, and a shy girl represents a girl in need. Whether that's actually true or not, is irrelevant. I know lots of shy girls who are independent and capable of dictating their own lives, but I don't know that going in.

Plus, shy girls are just cuter. I can't stand loud, belligerent, pompous women who throw their weight around in an effort to get attention. If I'm at a bar and I see a bunch of scantily-clad women hooting and hollering on the dance floor, I'm not interested. I WILL, however, spot that one girl sitting off to the side, too reserved and shy to dance, and I'll come on VERY strong, but also very fun. Humor is important to shy girls, but so is confidence.

In other words, don't ASK her to dance, because she'll probably shoot you down out of shyness. Tell her you're gonna' dance with her, be fun about it, and try not to give her a chance to think about it. Again, the objective is to get her out of the rut she's in, and show her that she can have fun and let her guard down.

That goes across the board. With shy girls, I can be assertive without being a jackass, and I think they want that. After all, they're SHY! What are they gonna' do? Make the first move?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Short answer is that guys like confident and secure women... so the shy thing is cute for a very short while before it becomes a huge drag. If a women will not look me in the eyes and shys away from me its a turn off period.

When you can't look someone in the eyes its indicates are they hiding something, not being honest, that you are intimidated by them or you are scare of them. Nothing a guy finds attractive in a women.

So below is an excerpt form a article with the link... basically you are giving guys all the wrong impressions and flagging to them your a highly insecure person.

So, what does it mean when someone avoids eye contact with you?

Level (-1) eye contact can also occur within a conversation. Just because he or she is responding to you verbally doesn’t mean you’re out of the gates yet. Put simply, if someone is intentionally making an effort to NOT look at you, they’re not interested. It’s the anti-intimacy. The non-verbal cue for “Give it up… and go the fuck away from me.”

www.markmanson.net/the-levels-of-eyecontact

Seinna · Accepted Answer

For girls it mostly depends on how you look and present yourself. If you're pretty guys will be drawn to you, but will they actually like the shyness?

From my experience (I had social anxiety growing up so I was EXTREMELY shy), guys only like that if they are shy or insecure themselves or if they see you as an easy target. Never show guys that kind of weakness unless you know them well and know that they are trustworthy. Sure, some guys like a girl who's a bit shy but not to the point where it's awkward. And shyness it not cute like in the movies, it's usually just awkward. People like confidence.

It's not such a big problem for girls as it is for guys but it is still a problem so as an ex-shy person I recommend that you really work on yourself. It will come with age as well but speed it up as much as you can. Fake it until you make it, apply the techniques from this Ted Talk:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ks-_Mh1QhMc

I did it mostly to help me with job interviews but it was a life changer.

Looking back, the time I had social anxiety is a time lost for me.

shaysh87 · Accepted Answer

I've been a shy girl my whole life. I can tell you that being slightly shy will attract guys but not if you're ridiculously shy where you can't make any eye contact at all, or say a single around them. Guys aren't attracted to this. The vast majority of guys who like shy girls tend to be beta males. A man who is alpha , confident in his own masculinity tend to prefer women who are a bit more outgoing. Guys like shy girls because it makes them feel more masculine, not because it makes the girl look cuter / prettier. Its about how her shyness makes him feel more alpha.

OpenClose · Answer

I feel like shy people are much more attractive than they give themselves credit for.

I know a lot of girls who talk fondly of their shy boyfriends, especially saying how cute it is. Something I wouldn't have expected prior, because I thought girls wanted loud boastful guys who could talk to anyone. (Chances are, he's just more successful because he's talking to more people.)

I think the #1 problem for shy people is not that they are shy per se. But that their shyness comes off as disinterest or repulsion.

Many of my crushes in school were shy girls, and specifically because they are shy. The issue is that when I would try to talk to them, I couldn't help but feel like I was making her uncomfortable, and didn't want to be that to her.

I'm not super-shy myself, but I am an introvert. I think we need more examples of showing shy receptivity. One that comes to mind is when you talk to a girl, and she avoids eye contact or saying much, but has a bashful grin while she does it.

MrOracle · Answer

Some guys do not like shy girls, and others have no problem with shy girls. But shy girls have one huge problem: breaking the ice. When a guy shows interest in a girl, he looks for reactions from her that tell him that she is interested as well. But a shy person is usually going to give the exact same reactions as a person who is uninterested (or even disgusted by the very idea). This is why such attempts rarely go anywhere - the guy assumes that he's been rejected, and gives up.

You will have to find a way to solve that problem. Understand that the guy will have no idea that you are shy - he will just assume that you don't like him. You will either need to force yourself to respond to his interest in a more positive way, or you will have to find a way to let him know that you are interested but shy and that he will need to be patient and put in some extra effort with you. Maybe you write him a note or send a friend to talk to him - something. If you don't do that, then you will probably never get a relationship started. Once started, you will have much less of a problem, but you have to get past that first step somehow.

Anonymous · Answer

The guys that are “bad boys” the “hot ones” the “ladies man”. Those who get all kids of girls and all Kinds of action are the ones that like shy women and will indeed attempt to interact and they like them.
Otherwise forget about it!
Most men are cowards, they’re complete P*$$ies! Even if they like a shy woman they’re shy themselves and wouldn’t know how to approach or even talk to you themselves.

If you’re talking about a hot guy that’s walked the walk and talked the talk. Yeah he probably likes you. And he probably already 100% knows you like him back. Because “Experience “.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Shy guys are the same. The best thing in my opinion, is to numb out that fear by exposure. Face your fear, accept to stumble around and feel like losing face until you realize emotionally that it ain't so bad.
That's the route I would recommend for any guy. A girl could get away with letting the guy do all the approaching. But I think it's the absolute best for everyone to take that power for themselves by improving upon themselves.

Honestly even if it feels embarrassing I think most people would envy the strength to try, but they would rarely admit it.

The difficulty differs a lot from person to person, it's never fair or easy. But that's just nature's way.
Thing is, you can improve upon most things, i. e. it's a skill.
You can do it🤓!

JSmuve · Answer

Here's a question... what's the difference between your behaviour and that of a woman who's not interested in a guy?

Answer... nothing.

Guys aren't going to be able to discern your shyness from disinterest. And especially in this day and age where guys aren't encouraged to approach unless she gives him "an invitation" to do so. But girls like you don't give out these invitations. Same with girls who are so engrossed in their phones and their own little worlds.

So, seems like you've got some personal growth to do.

Anonymous · Answer

hmm... honestly I don't like shy girls hmmm... but I also hate girls who act like they act too much hmm... I don't like shy girls because I'm shy lol so I have to find a girl who isn't shy. but now i can reduce my shyness but still anti social huh😴.

some tips to reduce shyness are to make friends with lots of people, make jokes, watch stand-up comedy videos, like to laugh, talk to people you don't know for example when you are waiting in line. but it's also good to have shy women, one of them usually she don't like to look for men's attention / show off their bodies and they are loyal hmm...

lol you're like me🤣, honestly I'm if passing in front of women will stare at the ground,

when women look at me I usually look down while pretending to be stressed like a lot on my mind.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

That's fine at 1st but hopefully you open up, be talkative when you're comfortable. Talking about everything and opening to your man or dating one is extremely important. It's ok you're like that because a confident guy can approach you and go from there.

Guy13 · Answer

-Cautious but not Crass

-Shy but not Silly

One can’t fake what I’m talking about. It’s fragile but not broken. It’s eye contact and look away-down when not speaking but looking up to start talking. Sometimes glance into your eyes to “check-in” but talk to you like there’s a person sitting beside you.

MCheetah · Answer

I do! As long as I still have a chance with them and they're not so shy, it's impossible to even break through to them. In fact, I hate the opposite of them; confident girls. Girls who think they're the center of the universe. Shy can be a turn-on, for me.

imjustadude · Answer

Be careful, some guy may fall for you and stalk you all over the place. Most girls that aren't shy will put him in his place real quick but a shy girl will just avoid the issue and keep him dreaming and hoping. Guys get jealous and those life-of-the-party girls you may be jealous of... well her boyfriend will get jealous too if she starts flirting with everyone. Work on being more assertive and sure of yourself. You don't have to change to something you aren't but you can become a better you.

Now_Here · Answer

Haha it's cute for the most part. But it can get a little confusing and tiring when it continues for long. I haven't talked to many girls who can hold a conversation so firmly. Many look down, here and there, get fidgety, start playing with their hair and/or start blushing. Cute to look at, ngl but not when you aren't talking to them in a flirtatious way or are discussing something important xD.
That being said, feel free to talk your mind out, we love it :)

ManOnFire · Answer

To be 100% honest, I don't entirely favor those girls, but not entirely closed off to them. I suppose I don't have the full understanding or patience to really interact with them. I'm a pretty straightforward, somewhat outgoing type of guy, and it's pretty easy for me to social with women, so working with one who is shy would be a challenge for me that I don't think would be good for either one of us.

artstatues · Answer

I don't think so Most guys seem to go for the confident, bubbly, party types Shyness is considered a weakness Sometimes it's mistaken for snobbishness/being bitchy

mb120101 · Answer

Being shy is Definitely preferable over the obnoxious loud girls. But if she’s so shy that she can’t actually talk about her thoughts and feelings then they’ll take it as she’s trying to play games with me. It’s a balance

BruceJender · Answer

I just don't like loud and obnoxious women.

The ones who always want to be center of attention.

I've had my share of shy women, and yeah, I am into them, but I guess the first weeks are a bit tense and awkward sometimes, unless we really kick off.

garykingg · Answer

Confident guys do like a woman that is shy, it just brings out the masculine energy in us. However not all guys do like shy women, some men like women that approach them and make the first move. So it depends on what type of a man you want to attract

spiralshape · Answer

The tradition in western society, especially in both European American culture and African American culture, is that the man initiates with the woman. Native American culture is far less traditional and patriarchal.

I'm not sure what it's like with Asian Americans or Latin Americans.

AttAckADaWighka · Answer

I'm the same except I don't even have the self esteem to put myself out there in the world or go on dates, ima jus stay in my house for the rest of my life and die alone lol... at least you have the self esteem to put yourself around guys... Maybe eventually in the future something will happen if you keep doing that for long enough

ARWINGx1 · Answer

Well... it would be in the right direction. But also the other way around if one would be TOO shy. Usually in the form of that no matter how I try to approach one, I would either make no progress, or even make it worse instead.

fardin66 · Answer

It may differ from culture to culture. Personally, I like shy girls and hate shameless ones. But the problem is, if you prefer first dating then marriage - it might be hard for you. Because, the guy you like wouldn't get a clear message about your sentiment.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Yeah some cultures men will not marry a woman who is not shy. Asian men tend to like shy women and see them as marriage material.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't about "guys" because everybody has different tastes but I don't mind them. Only problem is if they really like me they would have to show it otherwise I'm going to think they aren't interested. Getting with someone who doesn't show interest is a easy way to get cheated on and if she's too shy she won't have the courage to fess up honestly

Anonymous · Answer

As long as she's pretty. If she looks like this  Then no! But if she looks like this  Then yeah! I'd be lucky to have her.

lucas262 · Answer

I don't know if im so shy as I'm inexperienced and have baggage so I tend to avoid any moves with women oh i can play it up buy I seem unable to cross that gap, iv had offers but always push it away it really bothers me,

Surely · Answer

If a woman just throws the switch and totally shuts down. Even when spoken to.
It is really hard to get to know enough about that person to carry on a conversation.
So, depending on the degree of shyness.

jshm2 · Answer

Nope, you're just awkward and don't know how to act.  Guys can see that immature and/or stuck up.

maverick2022 · Answer

I avoid girls that aren't shy. They are not attractive to me. If you are too shy it can make a guy think you aren't interested.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I love it! Specially seeing he slowly getting comfortable. If they are burning up out of shyness then i can just tell them to not resist as i continue hugging lol

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I am also like you around girls. I wonder if they are thinking like you think boys are thinking.

Imsmurter1 · Answer

Well I don't like it when someone is so shy they never ever speak. It makes it tiring to interact with them.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You definitely are not unattractive. ... But you need to quit smoking or you're not going to stay that way.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Why on Earth would someone that timid ever be appealing? I run for my life from women like that.

Fukaroo · Answer

Yes, these are the most attractive females in my opinion when based on personality. Great quality to have!

Gingerguy33 · Answer

It’s very hard to flirt with shy women let alone get in a relationship with one personally I like women who are more extroverted

MrESully · Answer

Eye contact can be hard, it may feel weird to some people. You don't have to always maintain eye contact to get your point across.

Iron_Man · Answer

I need help and support to battle life Problems I don’t need a shy timid girl

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not taste personally. Those women just don't do it for me.

Paul09 · Answer

Yes and nom because I can be shy at first. So 2 shy people might not work out. But then maybe that's why my dates feel like interviews.. maybe they are shy? Or don't give a F about getting to know me.

jovd758 · Answer

Yes we do, it's more feminine , but however do give him a hint that you a bit interested , otherwise we will think you not into us

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

I personally love a shy girl, I find a girl who doesn't know how to act around people she likes extremely adorable

zagor · Answer

Yes, if I like the other things about them. But it can be hard to meet them as their shyness may be seen as lack of interest.

OG956 · Answer

I'm also really shy, so I wouldn't mind 2 be with shy girlfriend. We could be shy together and have fun :D

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Well I am same kind when it comes to girls I can talk with girls online in confidence but in real life I just suck :/

Anonymous · Answer

my whole teenage experience and early 20's says NO.

blondfrog · Answer

As long as I like her and she likes me back then yeah I would like her.

HaveNoName · Answer

Not so shy that it becomes a mission making a conversation with them.

red324 · Answer

It's only a problem when they flake out because they have no confidence.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@therealsalami I don't see myself dating a woman who's shy because her lack of confidence & cowardice would doom that relationship before it starts.

PL2022 · Answer

Too much is not good. I am an outgoing person and this might be complicated with a person quiet and shy

Waldoe · Answer

I find them VERY interesting, I want to KNOW them...

noohair · Answer

When I was in college, I took a course in public speaking and it did wonders for me. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it doesn't matter if a girl is like that since girls don't have to approach guys or make the first move, ask them out first

Abinav69 · Answer

I have no problem with girls who are shy they look more cute

DevinAM · Answer

Not my preference because I am shy and it would probably be difficult for us to get anywhere.

Anonymous · Answer

Well white men are cock suckers and white women are sugar baby and the rest of the races are beat up on their nose or eyes?

Flower7 · Answer

No, it seems like they do not.

Bluemax · Answer

Some do. Some don't. I've dated both.

BrickBiggems · Answer

Yes we do. Personally I find shyness cute.

WhiplashMonkey · Answer

It adds a cuteness to it and that I like.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Some times it's cute and endearing..

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