Guy lost feelings?

[Anonymous]

How can you tell that a guy lost feelings for you. Even if he’s still very cuddly and says he loves you.

[SayLesss]

Ask him if he sees himself getting married if he says no then he don’t like you. If he says one day then he don’t like you. If he says mentions the possible that he considers you a wife then you’re on track although most guys like girls for the free sex women give them

[Asker]

What if he’s said a month ago I want to Marry you but he’s going to keep hurting me. And I’m 5 months pregnant

[Asker]

And do I ask him if he sees himself getting married to me or just married in general? If it’s just in general wouldn't that mean he could have someone else he would want to marry

[SayLesss]

Correct. Most men know if the woman will be the mother of his child at first interaction. Remember that most women court men nowadays by offering him kids and wife duties before marriage whereas before we courted you by offering you protection and provision while abstaing from sex until marriage. So as long as you’re extremely womanly towards him he won’t rush it.

[SayLesss]

Ask him where he sees himself in 5 years with life and family etc…. A real man is what you as a woman consider a real man. Not the general idea of a real woman. You have the right to demand he does his man duties.

[Asker]

So I’m currently 23 weeks pregnant with his kid. But it seems like he’s just done with me abs the baby since the minute we found out we were pregnant.

[SayLesss]

This is why we used to wait until marriage so that he couldn’t just “leave”. Some cultures even have a “dowry” ($) paid to the woman’s family. Prior to that it was livestock/land. This would prevent leaving bc then if he wanted another woman, he would have to pay the next girl more land and cows. But today is the result of women courting men. Women are essentially saying “I’ll give you everything you want, just promise me you’ll get me my cows”. He will “promise” you cows just give it (wife duties and sex/kids) to him first. Now he’s thinking he wants to go get some milk and never come back. If anything you have child support to fall back on. Marriage before all of that would’ve given you tremendous protection tho.

[Asker]

See it wasn’t planned and I was on birth control and we used plan b it was a bad drunk mistake but I stepped up bc I had a daughter from a previous engagement. Is it worth staying or should I just leave with this kid and never look back?

[SayLesss]

My original point was to put him on a leech (before the relationship takes place) bc dogs tend to run away. Men are dogs and will hump anything without thinking about consequences until after the fact, then he’ll feel guilt. His maturity will tell you how he handles guilt — fight or flight. Right now he’s possibly choosing flight. The question is are you willing to choose fight or flight.

[Asker]

What if I’ve been fighting for the both of us for 5 months already and getting nothing in return. Do I stay or do I go.

[SayLesss]

You already courted him and gave him a child, you wore the pants and fought for him. Next time don’t, the man is supposed to fight for the woman and defend the family. You got a defective man. A internet anonymous man will not choose the fate of your family nor your life. Whatever you decide to do with this family, decide with your third eye. Understand the implications a manless fatherless environment can have a child. If you choose flight, pack your luggage and don’t miss a detail the flight will be long. If you choose fight prepare for bruises bc you will get hurt. But there’s a possibility it will get better or worse. It all depends on the strength of your family unit

[Asker]

I get where your coming from. Thank you. I got a lot of thinking to do

[SayLesss]

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I’m sure you have a support system. It’s not about you right now it’s about the little one. Make their nest before they come out.

[Asker]

Sadly it’s just me and my daughter. Soon to be me my daughter and the new baby. I got no one in my life

[SayLesss]

For starters, change your language to make it sound optimistic if not that energy can currently render ur child sick in your stomach. Learn to heal your inner child as well, your new kid is bonding with your inner child as he/she sitting there. There are resources/services out there you can use to strengthen your family unit. Both are dependent. Get proper male representatives as well or else your children may develop harsh behaviours in their teens to cope with the lack of dad.

[SayLesss]

Ages 0-8 are where everything happens. After that will depend on what happened between those ages

[Asker]

My daughter sees her dad once a month bc that’s all he wants to take her. I try and get him to take her more he just doesn’t want too. And there’s no help where I live but can’t afford to move

[serious]

What you are saying is contradictory. If he is very cuddly with you and says he loves you then it means he has not lost all feelings for you.

[Asker]

It’s only at night. He ignores me durning the day doesn’t want to have a conversation. He only spends an hour with me cuddling then he either goes to sleep or plays video games till 4am

[serious]

Okay. I understand

[Asker]

Yah. But still says he loves me before he goes to sleep and all that. So I’m very confused if he even has feelings for me anymore or if he’s over me and just not wanting to hurt me

[serious]

I think he is physically attracted to you still. Of course him not wanting to hurt you is also a possibility

[Asker]

He doesn’t like any of the photos I post anymore. Videos, selfies, posts I’ve tagged him in. Nothing. But he’ll spend hours and hours. Watching videos of girls shaking there ass or with there tits out being sexually and liking them. But not paying attention to me at all

[serious]

His behavior is very strange. Indeed.

[Asker]

Yah so I don't know what to do or what to think

[serious]

Maybe you should cease contact with him and just live your life. Maybe then you will know if she still cares about you he will contact you again.

[Asker]

Can’t just cut contact I’m 5 months pregnant