Guys do you waste time talking to a woman if you dont like her?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Most men don’t enjoy meaningless chatter anyway. We usually talk with some sort of objective in mind whether it’s romantic or not.

So if a guy is talking to you even though he’s not interested it’s probably because your friendzoned but he is boosting his ego by engaging women. Maybe he’s looking for verbal support about his problems.

Or he might also feel sorry for you. That is he knows you like him and decides to give you attention just to be “nice” despite not being interested in himself. While this is well intentioned (I’m guilty of this in the past) it’s only going to further depress and frustrate you. Unless he voluntarily goes out his way for you chances are he’s not interested.

It this is what is happening then next time he contacts you say this. “Hey so and so. It’s nice to hear from you but tbh I rather hang out with a guy who is looking to date me.” Leave it at that.

Unless you are just content with the non romantic attention then this isn’t worth your time and hopes.

[CaptainOverthink]

Yeah. Kind of, but I also don't see it as a waste as I just don't have romantic or sexual interest in mind.

- If say I am at a job then I want to get to know my co-workers. Especially if we work close. I don't mean to chase but I do have an objective and sometimes I am too intentional about it.

- And other times if our social chemistry is great I am good with being friends, actually, I am looking for female friends.

If I do chase with romantic or sexual interest.. well. I will mostly freeze up, get nervous and then feel so embarrased that I start avoiding and becoming cold.
If I chase and get chased back then it's a whole other game.

[EmyyWolf]

As a woman who met the hot alpha BRAD PITT of my job.
I can’t honestly tell you that when I was overweight and looked like a cow, this man didn’t spend ANY sort of time talking to me.
He’d mess around with the skinny pretty brats at the job.

When I lost all the weight and looked decent. He began blushing and flirting and being shy with me.

SO NO, THEY DONT SPEN “ANY TIME” TALKING TO A WOMAN THEYRE NOT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO.

From my experience

[EmyyWolf]

And don’t worry when I finally became hot. And even hotter than him, to the point that everyone was saying that I looked like black widow but hotter. And absolutely every man was flirting with me and chasing after me.

When the BRAT PITT hottie there started gifting me things and being a cute with me.
I gave him the same treatment of keeping things serious and short, RIGHT BACK TO HIM.
I was smilie and sweet with everyone else BUT HIM

[Asker]

Thats too bad

[EmyyWolf]

What’s too bad?

[Asker]

That he only interested when you lost weight.

[Vegasrunner]

@EmyyWolf Sorry to hear that. Thats very unfortunate for you.

[EmyyWolf]

@Vegasrunner
It wasn’t unfortunate in the end.
And stop fucking stalking me and trying to see what I answer to you Goddam weirdo

[Vegasrunner]

@EmyyWolf It's unfortunate that he didn't see value in anything other than your physical presence. Replying to your comment is stalking you? Sounds like you're just making that up to try to receive attention.

[globetrotter22]

@EmyyWolf to a certain extent your right. But I was one of those genuine nice guys who would notice a sweet yet unattractive girl in a social meetup and just have a pleasant conversation with her. Not out of romantic interest but I felt bad everyone else was ignoring her.

Now is that a bad idea? Like am I giving someone false hope? I dunno. But I do know I too was the ugly duckling kid in grade and middle school. It wasn’t until my late teens and especially in my 20s (I was very athletic) I became “hot”. But I didn’t forget how it was to be the ugly/awkward kid.

But is it “cruel” for an handsome man to give platonic attention to an unattractive woman just to be nice?

[EmyyWolf]

@globetrotter22
Yeah and the weird thing is that, after that.. he started trying to date more basic and uglier girls. Which was weird..

[globetrotter22]

Well if he’s actually trying to date them that’s a different story. But not all guys are self centered. Some of us know some women often get ignored and we try to brighten their day a bit by giving some (platonic) positive attention. Is that necessarily bad?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

As you'll see from the replies on here, some will and some won't...
Not all men act alike, think alike, or behave alike...
Some guys will talk to anyone just to have someone to talk to if noone else available..
Some guys will say they don't like the chick (even if they do) usually when they're talking to multiple women at once... you know the "she's a dog" (when she's really not) or "she's fat and ugly","I can't stand her", etc...

[Asker]

Omg so true

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But, there's also guys out there that wouldn't do that... Stick to those types.. The other mentioned are usually liars, manipulators and users not to mention those will be the ones to cheat

[RuthlessAggression]

A woman im going to be seeing on Friday, posted a meme about how she doesn't like small talk, that's fine. I get it, she doesn't like it however, the reason im seeing her, actually sort of kind of requires that she do because the guys she meets, either, don't want to feel "used" or, they may just not feel confident in asking.

So, while i told her I would just ask her straight up, without small talk, i also said, if she wanted to, we certainly could, i just didn't want to take up her TIME, because her birthday will be being celebrated and she likely will be pretty busy

[Lliam]

I don't generally talk to people I don't like.
But if you're asking if I talk to women I'm not attracted to, then yes, I do. I have lots of female friends that I'm not sexually attracted to. After all, women are just people. Some of them are really smart, interesting and funny.

[Asker]

Do you sext women you're not sexually attracted to? Sexting

[Lliam]

I do enjoy women who are sexually playful, uninhibited, imaginative, and good with words. Sexting is fantasy. I can conjure whatever imagery in want in my imagination. Hell, she can even lie about her looks if she wants to, just as I can lie to her about myself as long as we aren't sending images or looking to hook up.
Sexting is like those old sex hot lines people could call for erotic talk. I never called one, but I can imagine what some of those women with sexy voices actually looked like. And it probably wasn't pretty. LOL

[MCheetah]

Nope. And to be perfectly honest, most men only talk to women to either date/sleep with her, or because they have to, such as work. That's also why few men have female friends, by the way.

Women often do the opposite though, because there's always something to get from Friendzoning or stringing along a simp.

[Whatever2929292]

If I don't like her as a person I might talk to be nice but I would not go out of my way to speak to her or be around her.

If I just did not like her romantically then I would talk to her. I talk to people that I at least like as human beings but that does not mean I would make any move and if she made a move on me that I would not reject it

[Man-O-Metal]

I don't see it as wasted time. It's just a new opportunity to have another female friend. So many people say guys and girls can't be just friends. But, I think of my closest female friends as my sisters. Even from the very beginning, when we just started talking and hanging out, I felt that way about them.

[dynamicyandere]

If I don’t like someone, in general, and I’m still talking to them, it’s most likely just to be polite.


I have to at least like a person in general to enjoy talking to them, otherwise it’s just out of politeness.


If you’re talking about liking someone in a strictly romantic sense, of course I can still talk to someone that I don’t like romantically, but it would be because I enjoy their friendship or companionship, and I wouldn’t consider it wasted time.

[ManOnFire]

I don't bother talking to women I don't like to begin with. There are many women I'm not attracted to but who I talk to casually and as friends, but women I absolutely do not like because I see something about them that isn't good, I simply don't talk to.

[Bob92220]

It depends. I realize how important networking is. So if she is part of my network, I will talk to her even though I don't like her.

I was taking a Chemistry class and a woman, who I don't care for but is taking the same class I'm taking - and I'm always friendly towards, told me that the professor is having a surprise quiz today. So I studied and got an A for it.

[FilmGuy93]

Not always. I take the approach of talking to people with the sole intention of enjoying the conversation. So even if I'm not romantically interested in a woman, I still enjoy talking with her and I still gain something from the interaction.

[cth96190]

Generally, no.
I do not initiate interaction with females, outside of what is necessary in the course of my security work.
Not all females are man hating indoctrinated Feminists, but the possible consequences are too great for the risk to be justifiable.

[EarthRealm]

Wouldn’t go to waste of time wasting time would be jerking off I don’t even wanna jerk off anymore feels like a damn chore doesn’t even feel that good and I’m not paid to jerk off if I was paid to jerk off then yeah I’d do it but I have learned how to separate Lust from my mind

[Adronicus]

I make an effort to put a smile on a woman's face everytime I go out. I signal interest through smiling, eye contact & if the attractions strong & mutual touch. If I'm not attracted to her I'm still nice & smile but cut eye contact more quickly, I'll also position myself not directly in her direction.

[TruthBringer]

No I don't. And I don't think men in general do. Unlike women, men generally don't string others along for free attention/validation despite having no interest in them.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

"Didn't want to hurt their feelings" is the usual excuse from women in this regard. Or "I felt pressured".

[TruthBringer]

@Wraith_Cemetery Those are the political correct words when in reality. They are too cowardly to admit their real intentions. Funny thing is, those who truly don't want anything to do with a guy and choose to ghost him also use the "didn't want to hurt him" argument. In reality, it's just them being too cowardly to come forward.

[DizzyDesii]

I usually agree with both of your opinions but i have met way too many dudes 2019+ who absolutely will try to string us along for validation and attention. I dont even use instagram and all that social media crap and still know too many outside of it. Its not about the gender. Its about the person and how insecure they are as well as what their true intentions are and too many are just out to use people until they feel confident and good about themselves

[TruthBringer]

@DizzyDesii 2019+ in person or social media? Because I would find it hard to believe that you have counted every dude you met in real life. Also, what kind of men are these? The typical "Chad" or "Tyrone" types (meaning the guys who have their pick in women), or are you talking about the average guy out there who doesn't have many options in dating? Because obviously, like women, men who have their fill in dating won't have an issue with taking advantage of their privileges.

[DizzyDesii]

I stated above that I dont use social media. I’m referring to in person. And I didn't say every dude. I said I’ve met way too many. And thats referring to whether they were trying to get with me or someone I knew. And I dont fool with the alpha types if thats what you’re referring to. But I am absolutely referring to average joes who play the nice guy role. And I dont mean unattractive when I say average joe. I just mean not Brad Pitt material but still attractive enough to score a handful of girls

[TruthBringer]

@DizzyDesii Woops, my bad. Missed that part. Anyway, the average Joe doesn't have the luxury stringing women he doesn't like. Because your average Joe has no to very little dating prospects. And by "like" I mean in a romantic way. There are bunch of guys who spend time with girls for the sake of friendship. It's your word against much information out there contradicting you. Not saying you're lying, but perhaps your assessment to these guys may be flawed. As no average Joe I have ever met was stringing a girl along he didn't like. It's usually the more "alpha"/"bad boy"/"player" (whatever you want to call them) types who DO it.

I think you'll find this video interesting:
https://youtu.be/5u13_Bdw5eY

[DizzyDesii]

Average joes still have options. They might not be able to score a Barbie but they can still snag a chelsea. A lot of them will string alongn the girl they COULD get until they have the confidence and extreme gym body to get the girl they ALWAYS wanted. I’m just saying its happened. But you’re not into men so i dont expect you to experience it for yourself enough to see.

[TruthBringer]

@DizzyDesii The majority don't have options or don't have much. Like the video mentioned. This reflects my own observation. The majority of average Joes I know don't have a relationship or never even got in one. In fact, most average Joes I know and grew up with beyond puberty happened to be virgins (and many whom I still are in contact with still are).

[TruthBringer]

@DizzyDesii No I don't have that experience. However, I'm very much in contact with men and average Joes. And like Is said, the majority of them don't string girls a long. They would be incredibly happy to have a girl, in the first place. We are talking about scarcity here. Sounds like the average Joes you are talking about aren't actual average Joes.

[DizzyDesii]

I guess its like how some ppl’s 4’s would be a 6 to someone else. An average joe to me is still an attractive 6-8 but he's just not like the typical gymfreak, popular guy, bad boy, etc. He comes across as sweet and rare but has horrible intentions

[TruthBringer]

@DizzyDesii A 6-8 is not an average Joe. That's above average. I'm talking about actual average Joes on the scale of 5 and below. Because like as the video mentioned, those guys happen to be the majority who get rejected. Your average Joe doesn't even hit the gym. And often the ones who do give up soon. It's the dude who goes to school or work and comes back to play video games, hang out with friends or chills with some series. The average Joe is often non-ambitious. Why do you think ambitious guys stick out among the crowd? Especially the ones who hit the gym regularly? This is why guys are often adviced to hit the gym seriously. because it helps them significantly in their dating prospects. I am living proof of that.

[DizzyDesii]

Then maybe i’m using the term incorrectly. As i mentioned earlier, i’m not going by the actual definition of average joe. I refer to myself as plain jane yet i get men. I’m just trying to describe someone who doesn't go all out to impress others but still had appeal and options

[TruthBringer]

@DizzyDesii I get your point and I truly do believe you're using the term wrong. The guys you describe happen to have options. When the average Joe is known to have either none or very little. Guys who still get girls are above the majority of guys out there. Why do you think so many of them can't help but act like nice guys or simp for girls (even online like on OnlyFans)? Because they cannot get a girl.

The most average girl, and often even below average girls still have far more dating prospects than average Joes. Because a plain Jane has many options to pick from the average Joes who desire her out of desperation. Only it depends on the plain Jane if she chooses to persue them or aiming for a higher tier man as often plain Janes get their egos pumped up from all the simping they receive from average Joes, and therefore think they can score themselves a higher tier man.

[Anonymous]

It’s interesting you mentioned that because I’ve been talking to a girl who I don’t share any real things with. All she does is talk about her life, her problems and other stuff and doesn’t provide any real feedback or connection in return. I don’t want to talk to this person because I am not attracted to them emotionally, spiritually, academically, religiously, physically or mentally and I think it’s just best I just stop talking to her as of today.

[Asker]

Yeah forget about her. It sounds like you dont like each other too

[Snsl153]

I would never waste my time talking to someone I didn't like or at least have something in common with. For me, conversations need to be interesting and have a point, otherwise it serves no purpose.

[Tim103]

What she said. I don't waste my time talking to anyone (male or female) that I do not feel some kind of connection to.

However it can sometimes be deemed inappropriate to have deeply intimate, soul-exposing conversations with the opposite sex. Quite frankly, those are the only conversations I enjoy.

[Snsl153]

@Tim103 Inappropriate? No it's not.

[Slartybartfast]

I used to talk to everyone , being a friendly and outgoing guy. The exception was always women I was interested in, I usually avoided them lol Now I pretty much avoid women entirely except for some friends I've know for many years.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Slartybartfast How did you meet your ex? Just curious.

[Slartybartfast]

@Jamie05rhs in highschool.

[PJH359]

Depends on the setting. I certainly wouldn’t inconvenience myself to speak to someone I wasn’t into. However if you’re sitting next to someone on a flight for example it’s a nice way to occupy the time.

[TommyMountainFigure]

When you say don't 'like' are you talking about the modern definition of like or the old?

If I didn't fancy her yes I would still talk to her, because it is rude not to. If however 'don't like' meant hated, then no, no chance!

[RavVid]

I don't bother to talk to people if I don't like them or find their conversation interesting or amusing.

In full disclosure with a woman I might like and talk because she has great breasts. But that is only to be expected.

[Thatbaldguy]

I don’t waste time with ANYONE I don’t like. Time is too important and once you spend it you can’t get it back. Spend it with purpose. Spend it with those you care about.