Is my boyfriend controlling or caring?

[Gloree]

I'm away for one week field work. After a tiring day, he called me at 9:00pm.

Him: "How was your day?"

Me :Exhausting. I'm lying on the bed already.

Him: Sorry about that. Rest okay? I'll give you a treat when you're back.

Me: Yay. I can't wait.

Him:Love u. Sweet dreams.

Me:Love u. Oh my God, I hear music from the bar. My colleagues are sitting out. I hear their voices.

Him:So?

Me: I'll join them for a few minutes before bed.

Him:That's a great idea babe, except I'll be calling you soon.

Me:I'm not going with my phone.

Him:I advice you do. Because you need to rest. So I will be calling in about five minutes And when I do, I want to hear that you're on your bed, ready to fall asleep. Are we clear?"

Me: But...

He ends call. I ended up not stepping out and rested.

Was he being caring or controlling?

Controlling

Caring

[Blackcosmo]

A mix of both. He wanted you to sleep because he knows you're exhausted and not sleeping isn't good for you. But he also didn't have to say it that way and it makes him sound controlling. He could have said "Ok make sure it's quick so you can sleep since you're very tired."

[Blackcosmo]

Thanks for the MHO!

[EmmaMary]

Personally I would have told him precisely what he could go and do... Take a hike off the the top of a very high cliff... Controlling and most definitely a huge RED FLAG.

[jengeorge26]

@EmmaMary Glad you can stand up to guys like that

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[Theabcking]

As long as you keep his dick happy he will be caring.

[exitseven]

He is insecure and worries you will cheat on him.

[sheikalana]

It's a little bit of both but I'd say he cares a lot about you.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Definitely controlling that had nothing to do with you resting

[jengeorge26]

It’s in their nature to be controlling

[Gloree]

Might be true

[jengeorge26]

@Gloree Guys are controlling and like rough sex

[Gloree]

Can't be all guys?

[Xtendable]

Controlling, but out of fear of losing you

[Andres77]

Controlling

[Andres77]

So what happened?

[Gloree]

I didn't go. And when he called 5mins later I told him I was in bed and he said that's good. He was just looking out for me since I had told him the next day, I and my crew would be going out early for the day's work. He wanted to ensure I was well rested.

[jengeorge26]

@Gloree are you usually submissive?

[Gloree]

@jengeorge26 Not really. Why?

[jengeorge26]

I am, easily controlled

[Gloree]

@jengeorge26 that cannot be a good thing

[jengeorge26]

@Gloree Tried to PM you but blocked, I guess you have to follow me?

[Gloree]

@jengeorge26 blocked? I'm not sure. Ok. will do that

[Fryday_Knight]

Controlling.