Why would a guy be cold and distant towards you but still be friends on facebook?

[Anonymous]

So he is single But for whatever reason he doesn't want to be with me. I accept that and I'm OK with that. my question being is why would he continue to be friends with me on Facebook and not wanna carry on a conversation? I thought that being friends on Facebook meant that it was OK to message each other at least. We used to talk to each other every day sometimes all day. He does have A personality disorder so I can understand where he's coming from he's coming from but logically wouldn't you unfriend a person to send a message that Hey I don't want to talk to you or be associated with you? But he could easily block me I just don't understand Cause if he wanted To stop talking to me or associate with me that would be an easy way out for him but he continues to be my friend on There. To state the obvious I know that I have the power as well to unfriend or block him but I'm just wondering where his reservation could be to do that.

[ohsheeT]

Sometimes you will have a friend that you might fall in love with.. and this friend really likes you but knows his heart and he likes you so much but he knows down deep for a lover type relationship that in time he would hurt you, And that's the last thing in the world he wants to do

So he has to make choices he can make the choice of becoming your lover your boyfriend and then one day losing all that friendship

Or he can stay true to you and himself and be your friend forever knowing that he's not going to break your heart

[Pleaznhim4me]

So the only answer here is to listen to what he said. He is not interested in you. Any other behaviors he is engaging in such as not de friending you is to manipulate you because it makes him feel important. He likes attention and stringing in girls because it makes him feel wanted. He also keeps you on the back burner to use you if he is desperate. I know it sounds harsh. But if a guy tells you something about how he feels. Believe it. Anything he does on his social media is only for him to benefit at others expense. It has nothing to do with any feelings for you. My advice is that you block him and never think of him again. I’m sorry it’s so hard to understand why some people behave the way they do. Sometimes we don’t want to except the truth because it hurts. But there is nothing in this situation for you but a huge waste of your time and you living in denial and hurt. Good luck.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Because it's Facebook & no one really unfriends people unless they're very actively on & don't want to see your shit.

[FilmGuy93]

Most people view social media connections as extremely casual.

[Bethany22]

Yeah I have the same issue with people who are perfectly fine accepting friend requests on Facebook, yet once they're friends, even the person that sent the friend request doesn't want to talk. They just want you as a number place holder so that they can say, look, I have 200 friends, without having to put the work in to maintain that friend list.

[eightyeighthgender]

"So he is single But for whatever reason he doesn't want to be with me. I accept that and I'm OK with that"

I might invite you to flip that... actually, I might suggest you take a break from social media for a month.

Facebook is the most dangerous and destructive drug this society has ever known, if for no other reason than the fact that we don't recognise it as such.

if you don't believe me, try to stop.

there's your answer.

[melanieeeB]

Who cares? In my eyes it doesn't mean anything, if he wanted you, you wouldn't be sitting there and trying to grab straws... a Facebook follow doesn't mean shit

[BLP11520]

Right

[Anonymous]

Maybe it just means he doesn't care at all that you’re friends on facebook? Or like it doesn't matter to him. Im friends on facebook with guys im not interested in talking to. I just leave them on there.

[Anonymous]

Eye candy, lack of friends, loyalty factor, doesn't want to turn his back on people unless absolutely necessary

[BLP11520]

FB is dying so...

[ZenJen444]

He doesn't like u

[In_Trance]

you're a backup plan