I shouldn’t check the text or reply, yea?

[Anonymous]

hi all,

there is a guy I met he knows that I like him and we’ve been in the same place with our separate group of friends and talk 3-4 times and added each other on instagram.. but then I had to leave for work for 5 months (I am in a whole different country right now) I texted him recently saying that we should meet and catch up when I comeback. He said ok sure maybe, let’s see. And then we didn’t talk for a week and recently he posted a story and I sent the laughing emoji as a reply to it as it was really funny. And a few minutes later he sent me this text: Fuck you.

:( I don’t understand why he did that why would anyone do that.. :(:(:( he still follows me and checks my story..

so, I left him on read as I think I shouldn’t read or reply to it..

2 of my friends said you should ask him why he did that or just laugh it off but we are not even that close.. what should I do? Why did he send that? :(

[OlderAndWiser]

This is a great illustration of why texting sucks when trying to comunicate in a relationship. He probably misunderstood your intention in sending an emoji and he thinks you mean somthing critical or hostile, so he responded in a defensive manner. But you don't really know what he is thinking because you aren't actually talking; you're just exchanging ambiguous messages.

[Asker]

I agree :(

[summiter]

I would ask him why he did that. Hopefully he just messed up. If he does not reply or has something nasty to say block/dump him

[HollyK21]

On one hand I would definitely want to know, but honestly that’s such a rude and unwarranted response I wouldn’t even want to talk to him ever again. To me, deleting him would be best, you don’t want someone so disrespectful.

[Asker]

I think same but one of my friend just now said it’s a thing some guys do (he is south Asian.. between close friends they do that he said but this guy and I are not that close to call it we’re friends friends..) :/

[HollyK21]

I have friend’s from various cultural and racial backgrounds, and I definitely wouldn’t stereotype that behavior as being specific to south Asian men. This is just what jackass men do, doesn’t matter where they’re from or what they are. Regardless, it doesn’t make his behavior excusable and I wouldn’t even want to be associated with such a rude man. Like you said, you two are hardly friends so you don’t owe him a single thing, not loyalty or kindness, nothing. You should really cut delete him but it’s your choice.

[spartan55]

How the fuck would we know. You should have replied "excuse me fuckhead?"

[Asker]

That’s way too aggressive and direct I could never

[spartan55]

Even though he just said 'fuck you'? Okaay

[Asker]

I’d prefer to leave him on read then say anything like that that’s what I meant

[spartan55]

Suit yourself. You are sending a message that you can be bullied, know that.

[Guy13]

Please, look and reply ‼️

[Asker]

What should I say? lol but it’s funny? Or? Ask him why he sent it?

[Anonymous]

Leave him read n move on...