Why do men call you "beautiful" and then walk off?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes, I get men giving me compliments before passing by.

They don't make any attempts at getting my number. They just walk away! Why do men do this?

[Anonymous]

“Ugh omg this creep harassed me on the street! Men are such pigs bothering people when they are out! I was just walking to my car and this guy started bothering me!”

That’s what many women say when men approach them, complaining bitterly about how they should just be able to go grocery shopping, or visit a coffee shop, or go to a class, without a man asking them out.

Add in years of the media complaining about toxic masculinity and male entitlement, educational programs about sexual harassment, most men have just decided it’s better not to ask out women.

🤷‍♂️

These men obviously aren’t afraid or nervous, otherwise they wouldn’t have complimented a total stranger. But asking you out opens up the risk of making you uncomfortable, putting you on the spot, the worry that we’re harassing you, not to mention the possibility of rejection.

Besides, a lot of women are weirded out by a stranger asking them out cold, like it’s some unthinkable offense. You see someone attractive you’ve got to act—you’ll probably never see them again.

Only now more and more guys aren’t. We’ve listened to all the complaints.

[DoctorSex]

Depends

He could just feel good that day, had a pleasant thought that moment.. and you happened to be the first person he saw when In that state.

It could also be self affirmation that as a man you have personal power to walk away and need nothing from the other person. The jesus syndrome.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Asker]

This makes a lot of sense!

[Bethany22]

Maybe they are hoping you will say something encouraging back to them, and then they will ask for your number

[FilmGuy93]

Do you have any idea how many times we're told that we're complete assholes for trying to do anything more than pay the compliment?

Gotta blame the sisterhood on that one. It always amazes me how few women realize how unpleasant women are to deal with.

[Asker]

So essentially it's out of fear of rejection?

[FilmGuy93]

No, it’s just a desire to avoid headaches. There’s getting rejected, and then there’s the degree of rejection. Women will attack us for this shit. It’s not like they only say “no.” So the question I have when I think about approaching a woman isn’t “what if she says no,” it’s “do I feel like being berated and abused for expressing interest in this person?” And usually the answer is that I’m not up for it.

[Loveisgirthy]

See there was a Drake and Josh episode where Josh gets his mom to teach him how to get a woman's attention , so she shows him that giving a compliment and then walking off makes th come to you. It worked and I've heard it's a common tactic. I blame the show

[Asker]

As someone who grew up on drake and josh, this flew right over my head!

[Loveisgirthy]

Hahaha I mean you know the episode I'm talking about then right?

[Asker]

Yes!
I feel a bit nostalgic now. I might bingewatch some episodes right now lol

[Loveisgirthy]

I did that last year and honestly could do it again soon. It's like my personal favorite thing Nick ever did. iCarly a close second.

[MrOracle]

Some men just want to brighten your day a bit. Other men may have interest, but are looking for some signs of interest in return - but are also aware of the MeToo movement and some women who believe that this is sexual assault and will report it as such, these guys will walk away if the response is not overly positive.

[NathanDavis]

as soon as you see them say beau... interrupt them, and give them your number

555-I-AM-BEAUTIFUL

repeat the number if necessary, that's 555-I-AM-BEAUTIFUL

[misogynistic_pig]

Most men call any woman "beautiful", regardless of whether she is pretty or ugly.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Would you rather some say you were UGLY & after walk away?

[Asker]

Um no.. and I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion. Who would want to be called ugly.
I just don't know why men drop compliments and then leave.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

We all love complements & the next time someone complements you say thank you, introduce yourself & talk simply to them. Guys are walking away because you let them walk away. On the other hand keep in mind if someone says you are beautiful doesn’t always mean they are interested in you.

[Asker]

So your telling me there are people who just give strangers compliments for the sake of it? Whilst expecting nothing in return?

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Absofuckinglutely & there are nice people out there that complement & expect nothing in return.

[MysticDevice]

In this social climate anything more than a compliment runs the risk of accusations of stalking and harrassment. Especially with strangers.

[TroyDT2]

Because thinking someone is beautiful does not automatically make me want to date her.

[Asker]

Yes but I get that. But why SAY it out loud? Or is that just your intrusive thoughts pouring out

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

To dodge your harassment accusation so it instead hits the guy behind him.

Staying on top of it. 🧠🧠🧠

[moosesixty]

It's called leaving on a high note that's literally going to be the best part of the conversation so we might as well leave before we f*** it up

[Asker]

So what can i say back to be "encouraging" If I do find the man attractive?

[AngryCarl]

The power of Christ compels them.

Okay, if you didn't see The Exorcist you won't get it.

[Anonymous]

two reasons 1. shy 2. already seeing someone and not interested to a guy you could just be eye candy

[Summeroflove]

It's just a complement.

[Jackblue]

They feel unworthy of you.

[Calenderagressive]

Because they're just complimenting you...

[Asker]

I just find the idea that the man would compliment you and want nothing in return a bit unusual
But maybe I'm looking into it too much

[Calenderagressive]

Probably are

[jamartheg]

Because they want to speak

[Anonymous]

Maybe because they don't want your number.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

They do?

[Asker]

In my case, they do. And it's happened numerous times.

The other men may use a compliment to get my number..
But some men drop a compliment almost like they have to get it off their chest