What does a scenario like this infer?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say you have a woman who is your best friend, you start dating someone who isn’t fond of the bond you have (you’ve been friends for the longest and deeply connected, you feel like you’re not good enough for her because in your book she’ll always be perfect regardless). You’re hesitating but do so for the sake of seeing if the relationship can work. The person you date is still threatened by this woman despite communication not being present. You get butterflies around your best friend and can’t help but smile and be happy, but around the woman you date you don’t feel that way but you try to build up cutesy moments only to be brushed off since this woman doesn’t want attachment to you. Your best friend stood by your side in thick and thin and is the reason you were able to do so many great things since she supported you with so much love and support.

it’s a poorly made decision but the sight of your best friend can evoke feelings that you had to push away for some time much to the dismay of the woman you’re dating. What are the thoughts on this scenario? Serious thoughts!

[LazerBean]

Well I'm not gay, but my best friend is a logical, mentally sound, extremely high quality woman. The person being dated on the other hand sounds like a game playing idiot. But if I was too blinded by hormones to see that, I would still rather trust the judgment of my best friend who I have known for years and no has good judgement and taste in men. Anyone that doesn't like her, I'm not going to like or give a chance.

[Asker]

that's how I felt, I will say this that this best friend did have a very huge connection and closeness for nearly 5 plus years. The problem is he is a push over, and has always had a deeper connection with this friend. but rather than speaking about it, it seems like this girl that is being dated basically tried to manipulate the show I suppose by saying "oh how would you feel if I had a man as a best friend?" etc kinda connecting back to this guy's abandonment and attachment issues. The issue is too he worked so hard throughout college and lost his identity as most people ditched him, this best friend helped keep him afloat by being his friend and developed a close connection for years. Though they never were able to hang out much due to certain issues and the intense level of shyness this guy had. But when together prior they had their emotional and physical connection in terms of being there and all, he responds well to hugs and just keeping his company, but when he tried to replicate this with this person he's dating all she would do is basically hit him (play fighting, but not exactly what he was looking for he was just wanting to hold her hands, hug her, and lean on her shoulder). all of these things he pulled away from and didn't even bother keeping up with due to her attitude of "no attachments".

[helva]

This has never happened to me.
I think I would feel the same as you.

[Asker]

@helva Do share your input in a comment post, I would like to hear your POV!

[Chris_78456]

Your question reminds me of a show I used to watch when I was a teenager.

Dawson and Joey had a friendship that was complicated with feelings for each other.

I don't remember how it worked out but the answer may be in that series. Good luck.

[Asker]

Going to need to watch this show, my mom loved this show. Appreciate your input!

[Chris_78456]

Sure, hope you enjoy it, lol.

[boggboss]

That hebeither needs to cut his friend off or confess feelings for her and see where that goes

[Asker]

Very true. Asking this because even with the cut off there’s still genuine asking friends of his to check in on this friend, and the entire relationship that’s taking place seems highly undeveloped

[boggboss]

If he is looking to date and has feelings like this its pointless because he clearly is crushing or infatuated with the friend