How can I make myself more interesting/attractive when interacting with a man?

[Anonymous]

I'm really shy. My voice is soft and people say it's hard to hear me but it's hard to speak up as it will destroy my voice lol. I don't come off like super confident. I'm like super nice though, polite, I have good manners. I am really respectful and kind when I interact with someone. Maybe someone looking at me might say I seem insecure. I don't act cocky or full of myself. I know that I may not be every guy's type but I think I am attractive/cute. I'm small and tiny/skinny a strong wind could honestly overpower me lol just to paint a picture about me. When I interact with a guy I always make sure to smile and seem interested in the conversation and enjoying it, ask him questions and laugh. But nothing usually turns out of it and I sometimes notice the guy doesn't try to interact with me again after talking once. Makes me think I am unappealing. But I just want to know what I'm doing wrong.

[Summeroflove]

I tell people this a lot. I think that you should worry about who makes you happy and who you are compatible with. You can never please everyone of the other sex since every person is not the same.

Besides in the end I assume that you are looking for one person in the end anyways. By what you are saying at least you seem like a good person.


Some people just aren't going to be into you no matter who you are. Some guys are in relationships and frankly some people won't find you attractive even if you are a gorgeous person... Even if you're a good person on the inside.

Plus some guys want sex and if you don't seem like the kind to give it... Well.


But when you like a guy. Just ask him out and see what he says.

[HighValue]

I think it is cool that you are tiny and skinny. Wimpy girls are my most favorite. If you got in a fight, do you think a 6th grader could legitimately beat you up?

What are your hobbies? Maybe wear a shirt or clothing that shows your hobbies to get someone more interested. If you had a shirt or hat with Catan, D&D, Mario, Skyrim, or something like that on it would make me more interested.

[Asker]

Oh yeah a 6th grader could easily kick my ass lol wimpy? Aren't all women wimpy? Since we aren't as strong as a man to begin with lol. I usually dress girly. I like pastel colors. Dresses and clothing that are flattering but not slutty. Things that make me look good and make my body look good. I do like playing video games but I wouldn't wear a cyberpunk t-shirt just that it's too tomboy for me. But I would faster have a cyberpunk keychain.

[HighValue]

Themed keychains are cool. I have one of a NES original Nintendo controller.
Yeah, but a woman that is extra wimpy and most other women could easily beat her up, that makes her extra attractive to me. That is so cool. How tall are you?

[Asker]

I remember the nintendo consoles! I grew up playing those games. What is your favorite game to play on the nintendo? 😅 that's funny. Honestly yeah I think any woman could beat me up. I'm not that strong... I'm 5'4 or 162 if you're European.

[HighValue]

Have you actually played the Nintendo from the 1980s?
Favorite games:
NES: The Legend of Zelda, Mario 3, Ice Hockey, Castlevania 2 Simon's Quest, Jackal.
SNES: Mario World, Mortal Kombat 2, Crusin the World, Weaponlord, Final Fantasy 3 (really it was Final Fantasy 6)
N64: Perfect Dark, Goldeneye, Wrestlemania 2000.

I'm American, how about you? Where are you from?
Have you ever been in a fight and got beat up? Or got slapped?

[HighValue]

Have you played any of those games?
You can follow me if you want to talk about old games or something.

[Asker]

Hey sorry for the late reply. I've played all those games except for ff 3 and ff 6. I've played ff 7 and all the recent ff games including the remake of ff7 on the PS4.

Have you played Sega Genesis games? I really liked playing mickey mania and all the Sonic games. I am American too. No, I have never been in a fight thankfully. Probably could have in high school but I walked away.

I took self defense classes and lost sparring matches if that counts but we weren't going all out lol it was a safe environment. It's amazing how hard it is to keep your guard up when you are tired.

My older brother slapped me once when I was a kid. We had a argument and i was being all sassy with him. My parents taught him to never lay a hand on a girl. I was using that to my advantage. I wasn't hitting him or anything I was just egging him on saying things like "Yeah you can't hit me haha." And then he straight up slapped me across the face and I was so speechless. And he laughed at me like bitch you got what you deserved. But that was the only time I think.

[Asker]

I'm actually not comfortable to talk through messages. I've had bad experiences with creepy guys. Especially guys trying to hit on me. Im not looking to date anyone online, I just like having conversations if that makes sense. So I prefer not to message.

[HighValue]

Yeah, I have a Genesis and 48 games on it. I liked the Shining Force RPGs, Streets of Rage, Golden Axe, Greatest Heavyweights, Rampart, the WWF Royal Rumble and Raw games, Dungeons & Dragons Warriors of the Eternal Sun, Shadowrun, and some others. Those are the ones I played the most on the Genesis.

[Bethany22]

You shouldn't pretend to be interested and enjoying the conversation if you find it boring. You create mystery when you don't show as much emotion and approval seeking behavior

[Monalisa77]

Try flirting /teasing. Im hoping this tactic has worked for me. And im not even pretty lol but sometimes u may need to take initiative and ask them out

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Just be friendly and engaging. If the chemistry is there everything will flow naturally.

[Monalisa77]

How can u tell if there's chemistry? I think i have some with my crush as i feel there's tension everytime we speak

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

@Monalisa77: The conversation feels natural and unforced and you both feel like you know each other for years.

[Monalisa77]

See we did like that when we talked but lately he comes across shy

[peedy]

Either wear less an/orr more reveling clothes
Or give him more alcohol

[Ukrainianbuddafly]

Work on exuding confidence.

[BJP21]

Be friendly, engaging and confident.