Is he really out options or what?

[tonamimargaux]

This guy I met on tinder keeps texting me calling me face timing me with clear intentions of hooking up. Whereas I have always declined his sexual leads. Yet he keeps trying again and again. I’m tired of his behaviour and I just want to block him everywhere even if it would be rude of me. Because we were friends otherwise and he used to be a good one and also helpful at times. But his attitude has changed for the worst towards me he just wants to sleep with me after he got out of his situation-ship with a divorcee. No matter how many times I tell him off saying I am looking for a stable relationship nothing less he just ignores my stand. Crazy guy!! Is he butt hurt coz it's he who got dumped this time? I don't understand how the male brain works after a break-up at all.

[FilmGuy93]

It has nothing to do with his options; you just haven't been clear enough. If you use the words "[his name], I do not want to have sex with you. I don't find you physically attractive," he will get the hint.

[tonamimargaux]

He is physically attractive but is a fuck boy who doesn't know how to differentiate between a friend and a basic slut.

[spartan55]

It has nothing to do with just getting out of a relationship or being out of options. He is a turd who doesn't respect you or your boundaries. Perhaps you haven't set those boundaries with Mr Turd?

[tonamimargaux]

I have told him not to talk about hooking up ever again or ill block him.

[spartan55]

Okay... did you make good on that consequence?

[tonamimargaux]

Yeah, I made it as crystal clear as I could.

[spartan55]

That's not what a boundary consequence is. Blocking him is the consequence, did you do that?

[tonamimargaux]

Yeah I did.

[spartan55]

Okay... so what's the problem then?

[spartan55]

Funny you didn't mention that in your OP

[tonamimargaux]

I blocked him now. After your comment. Wasn’t really considering that but I think it’s for the best

[spartan55]

I understand you were a bit conflicted about doing that, but that sounds unstable.

[tonamimargaux]

Because we were friends and during the pandemic he had helped me a lot.

[spartan55]

Everyone has a bank of goodwill that can be used up. He was being nice to try to get you in bed. Planting the 'good guy' seed in your head. Then once your relationship ended he showed you who he really is.

[Alex8736]

if you have Netflix you might want to check out the newly released documentary "I AM A STALKER" and see if those patterns match the ones he is directing towards you

[tonamimargaux]

Sure I'll thank you

[WildCard42]

He isn't seeing how valuable you are.

I guess Tinder is the place to go for sex so he figures he should keep trying to sleep with you.

[tonamimargaux]

Thank you for your kind words

[WildCard42]

You're welcome.

[AndersLars]

Are you really 38? You are like 24-25 yo