Why my ex boyfriend makes me jealous and hurt me so bad?

[Hhhs2910]

We had a big fight with my ex boyfriend before giving flowers to another woman behind my back and he told me I am too jealous, he only gave flowers to another person because he is compassionate and the woman is suicidal. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because of this. Also with conflict that were never resolved because he doesn’t know how to communicate but instead keeps on blocking me for a month or more.

One month ago, I made up my mind not talking to my ex and just focus to my career. I got a promotion at work but then deep inside I still miss and love my ex boyfriend. I reached out to him again, but then I was shocked when he just told me I dont love you anymore. And then lashed out to me all his anger and accused me of dating and having sex with other man. And worse, suddenly share me a picture of another woman who he gave flower into. He said, he is much more sexier bitch than you! He said, he already proposed to her and get married on December.

My world was shaking upside down because we had a promise with my ex to be together and propose to me next year. I reachout out to his email and plead and begged. But then, he just blame me because I broke up with him and he found someone already. He also say bad things or bad words or compares me to other women to make me feel so down about myself. I got disappointed at him that he just replaced me for a month! It seems he finds relief of me seeing in so much pain. After few days, he contacted me telling me that the picture he shown to me was his ex 5 years ago who cheated on him for another man. I got confused if the marriage is saying is a lie OR if he is guilty of hurting me

He asks me to be Friends with him? Why my ex boyfriend makes me jealous and hurt me so bad?

[caring__1]

I'm not saying this is a healthy relationship, but focus only on what is within your control. You say he makes you jealous, yet no one can make another person jealous. Jealousy is a statement about the person feeling jealous. It's saying, I feel inadequate to offer you what you want or need, or I feel inadequate to give you what you deserve, or I feel inadequate to acquire what this other person has. It has nothing to do with the other person, yet our focus is totally on that other person rather than ourselves. You can push a person out of your life by being jealous, but someone will replace them, and you'll still be jealous. If you don't want to be jealous, identify what you expect of yourself. Is it realistic? If not, get rid of it. If it is realistic, establish a plan to get from where you are to where you want to be, and then follow through on it.

You say he doesn't know how to communicate, yet I'm sensing your communication skills are lacking, also. Communication requires a true effort to understand the other person's perspective, whereas you seem to be more focused on being heard by the other person. Assuming your perspective is the only factual perspective minimizes the other person's perspective, yet that person's perspective makes just as much sense to that person as yours does to you.

This seems to be all about you and what you feel entitled to. Take time to see things through the other person's eyes if you want a healthy relationship.

[boggboss]

U thought u would get married next year but broke up with him so how did u thing u would stay together meh just move on clearly he dont wanna be with u

[Blackcupcake]

why would you be jealous if he’s your ex…? I’m confused

[Avicenna]

Why are you still in contact with this guy? Makes no sense.

[In_Trance]

He's not your Ex.

you're interacting with him just as much, if not more now