I asked him if he likes me but he didn't answer?

[Anonymous]

This friend of mine had been flirting with me. He would sometimes comment that he's on the dating market and one time I called a child "baby" he commented "It's good for him he got called baby". Eventually he got me confused. I just want to know where to stand so I wanted to directly asked him if he likes me. I was hesitant.

Me: I have a question.

Him: What is it? Is it something I'd get hurt?

Me: No... Actually nevermind.

Him: *joking* my sexual history? My coitarch? Go ask.

Me: Hmmm... I hope you won't think I'm a feeling person (a humbug or someone with high self esteem and imaginative) when I ask you this. But... Do you like me?

Him: ... What made you ask that?

Me: Because you're making me confused.

Him: You're really direct.

Me: Yes. And you know that even before.

At the end didn't answer my question so I just shifted the topic. It actually made me a bit hurt and uncomfortable. But it's okay. Maybe it's all in my head. But... It still hurts a bit. Anyway back to the question... Why didn't he answer me or does it mean he denied he likes me?

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We haven't really talked about it since after I asked him that question today. Though he messaged me tonight and asked if where I am and told me he's eating somewhere but told him I'm already done eating (which is true lol).

When I saw him, his aura is kinda off. He seemed uncomfortable or something. But... Lol. I really need a bit of space for myself. I'm sorry for making him uncomfortable but it's not really what I want. I just want to know where to stand. It can't be helped.

[Anonymous]

Of course that would hurt. I felt the hurt reading this right along with you. If he didn’t follow up via text that he likes you too once you two parted ways, then I’d say it means he doesn’t like you. The only reason I say the follow-up text is if you confessed and he was just taken by surprise in a public area and didn’t want other people to hear him confessing too. But if it were the case, he definitely would have sent you a text saying something like “hey just so you know, I like you too” afterwards.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your answer. It hurts but better than being blind.

[Opinion Owner]

yes exactly the relief it’s off your chest and you know is everything. now it’s just a matter of whether you want continue the friendship.. i know when i’d confess in the past if i was rejected i just couldn’t.. too awkward and too much tension for me

[Asker]

Yeah. I still want to be his friend. My feelings getting hurt isn't exactly his own fault. Maybe if I didn't let it affect me, then I wouldn't have gotten hurt. I'm not saying he wasn't at fault either. But I think the responsibility is heavier on me who keeps on taking assumptions. 😂

[Opinion Owner]

ok! yeah do what works for you ✌️if you can keep it awesome

[Asker]

Yes! Lol! But I think I need a bit of space to compose myself. Lol. But it'll be alright. Haha!

[Opinion Owner]

yes just take the time you need and do what feels right and you can’t go wrong!

[Asker]

So true! Lol

[dustybiker]

He might like you, but not want to lose you as a friend.

[JPresidente]

Sounds like he's not willing to put any feelings out there. If he likes you, he would do that to protect his heart and joke around. If he doesn't like you, he may still want to pursue you so he's gonna keep his cards close to his chest just in case.

[DribbleGodCurt]

He likes you but can't admit his feelings bc that takes the most balls in the world i admitted my feelings to this girl and she started replying 100x faster bc she is interested in me but i don't rush relationships anymore learned the hard way.

[spartan55]

He didn't answer because he doesn't feel that way about you

[Asker]

Thanks! I really appreciate your answer. It's sad but it's okay. Lol

[Anonymous]

Because just because you ask the question does NOT mean he owes you answer.