Why are so many guys like this?

[Anonymous]

I know this isn’t true of all guys but most of the ones I’ve gotten involved with are. This guy I went on several good dates with and who sent me a cute gif this week saying “you’re mine” just posted a picture of him and another girl right behind him in a dark room yesterday on Thanksgiving. I don’t think she’s family bc his immediate family lives far away so he didn’t get to go home. And he shares his location with me and he’d stayed the night. But then he texts me happy Thanksgiving and I just don’t understand how he could forget about me like this. Unless anyone thinks it’s just a misunderstanding.

[SamK20]

He didn't forget about you, if he posted a picture of him with another girl and sent you his live location, he wanted you to know he was there, with her.

[Fanfare690]

Exactly. Dude is playing games. This isn't cute or attractive. Leave. Let him learn his lesson. Dont play into his game

[Asker]

So do you think he’s like trying to tell me to forget about him or make me jealous?

[Asker]

Okay yeah I think I’m just gonna ask what he had wanted from me and tell him that clearly there was some misunderstanding because he treated me as if I was the only one

[SamK20]

I don't exactly know what he's trying to tell you, but this appears to be a situation where he's being what I call, "indirectly direct", and it's something I detest. He didn't directly straight up tell you where he was and what he was doing, yet he did through his little game from what you described.

He could have been trying to spark jealousy in you, (and he could've tried the same thing with her RE you), in a pathetic attempt to get 2 girls to chase him, (and possibly even start, at the minimum, directly competing against one another for him), thus inflating his ego and satisfying his narcissistic need.

I've personally witnessed this type of behavior where they will calculatedly pit ladies against each other over themselves just to sit back and laugh as they struggle, then say that the gals are just crazy and gaslight them.

Now what I've just described could be a little farfetched given the limited amount of information, and I understand that, all I'm saying is that it's simply a possibility, I've seen it before and I'll warn people if I identity specific signs. It might not be that complex.

I agree with both you and Fanfare690, something is up, so step back a bit and be direct, unlike him. I'll still be here if you wish to talk about anything further, best wishes :)

[Anonymous]

So there's a non exclusive phase and an exclusive phase. Which are you ok n?