Is it possible for a guy to talk/date one female but become attracted to another?

[Anonymous]

What makes a guy decide which one he likes or goes for? Or is he just entertains one for fun

[watercolor_lions]

"Perfection isn't what makes him stay. Happiness is."

No matter how pretty a girl is, if he loves you and is happy with you, he'll stay.

Happiness is what makes a man stay.

God explained this to me. It helped eliminate my jealousy. And now I'm happily married and very secure.

[Asker]

Yeah , I’m glad you pointed that out… I’m the girl he was just “attracted” to but he’s now happy with the girl he chose.

They seem to have fun together and do look genuinely happy together. She’s now met his family..

I don’t have the right to be jealous (I am a bit) but I couldn’t have made him happy bc I’m not happy with myself.

And I kind of avoided him so he would just focus on her entirely in which he did… he started to avoid me soon enough.

[Hermitess]

That’s baloney. When a hotter woman comes along, it won’t matter how allegedly happy he is with his current partner. Looks always win

[Asker]

@Hermitess she is a hot model lol 😭

[Asker]

But I do think she’s in the lead for more reasons than just looks.

I also am not ready for any type of relationship … I’m also awkward lol she has a lot more to offer than me

[Asker]

And she’s white so her” value” goes up lol

[slatyb]

Of course. What makes him decide? Who knows? I'm happily married but I still find other women attractive.

[Asker]

I’m the girl he was just “attracted” to but he’s now happy with the girl he chose. She’s really into him.. maybe he didn’t have any serious intent with me to begin with

They seem to have fun together and do look genuinely happy together. She’s now met his family..

I don’t have the right to be jealous (I am a bit) but I couldn’t have made him happy bc I’m not happy with myself.

And I kind of avoided him so he would just focus on her entirely in which he did… he started to avoid me soon enough.

[Berethor]

It can happen, he would likely pick the one that is more pretty and not a ho.

[Asker]

Yep

She’s a model

[Anonymous]

Generally when the woman starts showing interest in him beyond friendship.

[Asker]

But if was always talking to a female who shows obvious signs that she really likes him… they were already in the talking and hanging out stage.

But the girl he was showing attraction towards wasn’t really showing signs

[Opinion Owner]

Ah key words "obvious signs". They were obvious to you. That doesn't mean they were obvious to him. So many women THINK they're being obvious and they're really not.

[Asker]

No I’m saying the other girl he was talking to really showed signs of interest in him. She really likes him

I didn’t show signs that much

[Opinion Owner]

Oh sorry I misread. So you're saying she was trying to get his attention and he gave attention to you?

[Asker]

No. He was already in the talking and hanging out stage with someone else. And she was really really into him. I’m sure it was mutual but I could tell she really likes him. She post and tags him a lot

I was just saying that I’m the one he showed some attraction towards. But in the end he chose her

[Opinion Owner]

Wel just because you saw it doesn't mean he did. Some people are more expressive better at conveying thier feelings than others and misunderstandings happen all the time. I worked with this one woman that took a liking to me and I had no idea. Snother woman one day told and said "she lights up like a firefly everytime you're around". I never noticed, at least not anything beyond friendship.

[Asker]

You’re not getting what I’m saying

Nvm

[Opinion Owner]

Fair nuff. 🙂

[Asker]

If I’m telling you that they are ALREADY talking what are you talking about

[sheikalana]

Of course.

[Asker]

How does he choose? Or is the second girl not someone he wants seriously

ESP. If he’s in the talking/dating stage with another and she’s really into him

[sheikalana]

I don't know how he's going to choose. That's something only him can answer.

[msc545]

Sure it is.

[Asker]

I’m the girl he was just “attracted” to but he’s now happy with the girl he chose.

They seem to have fun together and do look genuinely happy together. She’s now met his family..

I don’t have the right to be jealous (I am a bit) but I couldn’t have made him happy bc I’m not happy with myself.

And I kind of avoided him so he would just focus on her entirely in which he did… he started to avoid me soon enough.

[msc545]

This is very sad...

[Asker]

How lol? He picked the hot one which is her

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Asker]

How does he determine who he picks

[In_Trance]

No idea, you'd have to ask him that