Can a guy be genuinely interested in 2 girls at once?

[Eakash]

is it possible for a guy to be interested in DATING, not just having a fling with, but seriously dating, 2 girls at once?

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I feel like I need to add that he isn't dating either of the girls... I'm just wondering if his feelings are genuine if he's trying to start a relationship with two girls (not 2 relationships, just one... like whichever goes for it, he'll go for)

[sa230e]

Sure, why not? There's nothing about us that makes us physically or mentally incapable of doing it . If two girls come along that really are the real deal it can really cause a guy to be torn in two. Or three, or four... To me this just seems obvious.

And honestly, I think girls are probably just as capable of it too. But I think things like TV, movies, books and what-not have drilled into our brains an idea of what love should be like. In our culture we're almost trained to think that you can only be interested in ONE person and ONE time. If there's more than one we're inclined to feel that our feelings are "not valid" or "wrong".

I think that's especially true for women who were constantly fed a "Disney-fied" narrative of romance as little girls where boy loves girl, comes in and sweeps her off her feet and they live happily ever after. They're not exposed to the fact that emotion isn't, and isn't supposed to be, that black and white. So when they find they have feelings for two different guys they say they're "confused" when really, they won't allow themselves to admit what they really feel.

Of, course, I'm a guy so the above paragraph shouldn't be taken as gospel. It's just me speculating and thinking out loud.

[madman1234]

yeah no impossible.

he can be interested in one, and just want to have sex with the other.

no guy can seriously be interested in two girls at once, its just not how our minds work, no matter what any one tells you :3

[Eakash]

That was my original thought... would he be more likely to be touchy-feely with the one he just wants to have sex with or the one he wants to date?

[madman1234]

Depends

if its very fast and intense, then prob the one he just wants to have sex with.

if he doesn't immediatly start as soon as the relationship begins then prob the one he is interested in.

[kassyp88]

Okay so what do you have to say about this...

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/Flirting-Questions/277262-does-he-like-me-more-than-just-a-friend.html

[Vee72]

I think it's possible. Obviously it's wrong to do so but I do believe that things like this happen.

A guy can pursue as many relationships as he wants. It's the respect thing to keep only one relationship going.

A guy can love this one girl to death and could die for her. She has so much to offer but is missing some qualities that he's seeking. He then meets another girl that he loves, wouldn't necessarily die for her but couldn't be without her. She meets all his criteria that the 1st woman was lacking. So he starts 2 live two different lives.

I guess that also explains how a man can be married to the woman of his dreams, and then goes off on a business trip and meets another woman in a different country and marries them too.

[Anonymous]

Yes it possible... My boyfriend was doing that with me and his ex... He was dating his ex first though, than me. Truly, though it's a bad decision to say yes to. You may think it's a good idea because you 'get him' and get to be with him but months later it will hurt.. In the end, he'll have to come down to a decision on who to keep and who to leave. Some relationships it may be easy to. In my boyfriend's case it was easy because he was only with his ex to make sure that she wouldn't kill herself. Other relationships it's going to be upsetting and nerve wreaking.

[the_cheshire_cat]

Sure he can. Everyone is wired differently, with their own beleifs and stuff like that.

It's when the wiring of one isn't understood by another that it can be perceived as 'wrong'. There is no right or wrong... there must however be understanding and acceptance. If there is not, then there is no relationship/s.

Besides... we're talking about dating here. It's possible he just really can't decide yet. Dating is the grace time when people find out who suits them the best.

[Romanv123]

I think that its possible outside american culture... many people here are brought up to exist in a totally monogamous relationship while countries like U.A.E. or many other Muslims dominate nations have it part of there religion and life to keep a harem and it is not weird or out of the ordinary, it is all just culture based.

we see how it flows over to here with Mormons or even shows like Big Love on HBO. It is possible just with a slight stigma that if it is so then the man is a pig and the women are dumb. Accept them all and let them work. because everyone does everything in there own convenience anyway

[GakieBarks009]

yeah he can . If he's a nice honest guy he's just stuck and can't decide because both of them seem like equals to him.One of the girls should show him that she loves him more and make it easy for him to make a decision.

BUT unless he's that nice honest guy he is a player .thats why he's interested in 2 girls

[Anonymous]

That's what dating is, dating multiple people in the beginning. You can definitely be interested in more than one person at a time. You date them and get to know them and when you finally decide on which one you like the best, then you date them exclusively.

[stercor]

Yes. Each fills a need that the other doesn't.

But --- on the other --- hand, he's kind of a jerk for doing this.

[KERMlT]

A guy can be in love with two women at the same time.

[Anonymous]

I had a threesome and it was awesome

[madman1234]

Lol see proof more than one girl, is usually a way to get sex