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+1 yWe do compete (in games), we just don't compete for an SO by trying to be more attractive, because it's agreed all men are ugly.
That guy you thought was hot af? Yeah, we think he's ugly too.
Men simply are all ugly because we're straight, and straight men do not find other men attractive looking.
Women often have at least a small amount of "that other woman is pretty", so they compare themselves to other women a lot, and that can spur competition.
Most men want to date a woman they get along with.
We compare women with other women, based on which woman is our ideal partner, and we expect you to do the same with men.
But we don't compare ourselves to other men if we want a genuine relationship, because the minimal expectation that "husband material men" have, is that as a woman, you must love us, not our money, not our success, not our social status, not our current situation, not our utility, but us as people, as nerds, or jocks, or artists, you need to love how we think, what we like, our opinions, etc, so any hardship, preference, or luxury choice we make or problem we face, is met with complete empathy.
That means if our lives are going absolutely horribly, we still expect to be viewed as priceless. We want a woman who will stick around in the absolute worst of times. Who loves us for our personality, common interests, and looks, none of which we see as better or worse than any other guy, just different. And woman who can't do that are deemed not wife material.
We want a woman who craves cock like its an addiction, but is loyal (won't cheat), and thinks the same fun hobbies are why we wake up each morning.
We want to never argue, never compromise, we want a likeminded woman, the key hole to our key, and we are so specific, that the odds of another guy being your key, well we think thats 1 in a million, and that you don't have the surplus of choice to pick anyone else because of how unique each man is (because we try to be ourselves instead of competing).219 Reply- +1 y
We also want/need women to be themselves and not compete with eachother, and failing to do so is a huge red flag.
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My boyfriend is definitely not ugly. Most girls i showed him to thought he was hot even my boss
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Those are women's opinions.
You asked why guys don't compete with other guys in the dating world, and it's because most men think all men are ugly and some women are hot. - +1 y
Why compete with men that we don't feel are even competition?
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This is super delusional
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Actually you men find MOST women attractive. You literary go with the most average looking or ugly girls ever.
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And men aren't all "ugly"
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it's not delusional, again you are merely trying to force your opinion, which coincides with my point that while women find both men and other women attractive, men only find some women attractive.
As far as my taste in women's looks goes, cosplay idol model looks are definitely not average lol. Now who is being super delusional? 😂
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I don't know your preferences and some guys don't find them attractive anyway. I know such guys
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Most straight men prefer very feminine looking women with large chests, cute faces, and hourglass figures. Exceptions exist, but the farrher away from classically male features, the more in demand they are. Which is my point. masculine FEATURES are unattractive to straight men.
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farther*
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Cute faces? Like the Japanese cosplayers? Hahahhaa sorry i prefer VS angels looks over them any day
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You're a woman, so that does not nullify my point.
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In fact your entire opinionated rebuttle is pointless because you are just confirming you like the looks of other women and the looks of men, proving my point.
I answered your question accurately, you simply don't like the answer. - +1 y
I never said I don't like your answer
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Then what is the point of arguing with it? it's blatent fact that you only compete with your own gender if you think their looks are competition against yours, and to think that, you have to first find your own gender attractive, and we don't.
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Also japanese are not the only race with cute faces, they exist in pretty much every race.
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Yeah i know hahaha but I don't like most Japanese cosplayers
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I do, at least in looks for a decent amount of the busty ones.
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+1 yWhat do you think we're doing when we put in longer hours in the office? What about when we're lifting heavier weights? How about when we take risks, invent things, etc? Do you honestly not see that almost everything a man does is in competition with other guys to obtain a position of prestige- which will lead them to be desired by women.
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+1 yUgh me definitely do compete with each other, just take a look at history and how they where going to war with one another for more land and resources. I may not be as bad today but Men are still competing with each other, just in different ways. Anyway to answer your question is simple cause people are competitive, they want to outshine and be noticed for their efforts. It all cones down to wanting validation, sonetine it can be over the top if a person never recieved much attention or got too much attention resulting in an oversized ego.
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+1 yNever understood that, I have always been a women's woman but one thing I learned, women just express everything more loudly and men do it in silence.
Women are just more passive aggressive and it's annoying as hell.11 Reply- +1 y
Two men working will try and out do the other without saying a word. End of the day shake hands and say good job. Two women working will complain and whine yet compete and when it's done one will give the other a look and the other will say a remark that's almost a compliment but it's not. Then one will complain to the boss while the other tells all her friends she works with a fat cow.
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+1 yDon't compete? Have you never seen a playground fistfight or a bar brawl? We DO compete, and it's often brutal. But it's ritualized, formalized, quick- and when it's over, it's over. What sets us apart (not just from women, but even from the other apes) is that we (human adult males) cooperate.
The reasons for this are evolutionary: we don't have the individual power of a chimp, or even a Neanderthal, which means that we NEEDED to cooperate to survive. It also means that when times get harsh and food gets scarce, not only do we have greater social cohesion, but our lower caloric needs mean it's easier for us to survive (natural selection isn't about being stronger or smarter; it's about being a better fit for your environment).
Meanwhile, human women bore a different set of risks. They weren't sitting on their butts eating paleolithic bonbons, as SOME would have you believe- they were watching the children, maintaining the homestead, weaving the nets (and using them; you don't need huge muscles to flush out a rabbit and club it to death), and gathering other foodstuffs. This is why women tend to have better color perception than men; the difference between "a berry that's tasty and nutritious" and "a berry that's poisonous and will kill/incapacitate you" is often very small.
Socially, women had much more incentive to compete, since they almost always outnumbered adult men- if you go back eight thousand years, the number of your ancestors who were female outnumbers those who were male by almost four to one (assuming you only count each person once, obviously). So not only were the numbers against you, but the much higher selection pressure meant that there was a specific set of traits you were looking for. This is when sexual selection kicked in, and saved our species' butt. If you and I are both paleolithic cavewomen, competing for the affections of Grugh, son of Klunk, chieftain of the tribe, there's little reason for us NOT to go all-out on each other- but if you're into the hunky, muscular Grugh, and I like the brooding, mysterious Ooch, we have less reason to fight, less anger between us, and we'll probably get along fine, until your imaginary caveman boyfriend shoves mine into a prehistoric locker. (Sidenote: "Imaginary Caveman Boyfriend" totally sounds like the title of an anime series. If it isn't already, get on it, Japan!). This is why women have "types" to a much, MUCH stronger degree than men do; those who did outcompeted those who didn't.
20 Reply1.7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. What do you mean? you women make men compete when you compare us to other men and make us feel like we aren’t good enough for you , Making excuses for your selfish actions , Listening to your toxic girlfriends that are filling your head that your man isn’t good enough for you , But the reality of it those toxic girlfriends wish they had what you had , why girls should never prioritize friends over their partner , same
Goes for a man, us men compete every day trying to keep the girl we gave our heart to to stand by our side and love us the way we want to be loved , It doesn’t take much to keep us men happy but takes a whole list of shit to keep a girl happy , cuz nothing is ever good enough a guy will mainly only cheat on a girl or walk away from a girl when she starts nagging at him all the time , using sex and affection as a bargaining agreement , denying him constantly because she isn’t getting her way , she will compare her man to other men making him feel worthless and unwanted , When he did everything he could to provide for her , Gave her a house a car , food on her mouth clothes on her back but it’s never good enough , she will find some flaw in him You girls constantly compete with each other , and you girls constantly back stab each other , When you girls finally realize how to Remove selfishness and prioritize your partner and stop comparing him you will see love grow , When you make your man feel like you only have eyes for him you will see love grow , when you realize confidence from a man or status is just his way of trying to get a girl to like him and boost his ego and you resist those temptations for your man you will
See love grow , A guy that loves a girl isn’t going to cheat on her if she does her part as well , He isn’t asking for much but you girls act like he is just an asshole and insecure when really he knows what other guys are thinking , and just wants your respect , when you girls realize a relationship is a team effort and that it isn’t always going to be perfect you will see love grow , if not you are just a selfish person10 Reply- 2.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
m +1 ylol... we do not compete at all? maybe you just have not noticed it
but, whether is the small or the great things, we always compete
it can be as simple as the times in which I walk into a room, and then, many other men will automatically adjust their posture and position, might change the tone or volume of their voices, especially if there are other women around... as the new presence in the room, I automatically draw the attention, so many guys in the room will want to capture that focus back, and the will do it in response to the a competitive instinct
and then you have all the other greater aspects in which men have always tried to dominate and control others that could never be achieved if is not true competition... sports, wars, capitalism... building and creating bigger, faster, longer and better in general, lmao
and I wasn't there but... I assure you that the first who ever tried to take down a MAMMOTH were males... and after the first groups attempted to it, many other parties of males wanted to do it as well... and the one group that actually succeeded at it first, did so because of that competitive drive than runs through every cell in our flesh, lol, but much more so in men10 Reply 665 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. men do compete with other men though. masculinity thrives on competition. men simply compete in different ways to women. women would be overly flirtatious, use as much makeup as possible, dress as sexy as possible, slut shame one another, call each bitches as a way to qualify herself and disqualify others to a high value man. this is largely subjective and women know this so they appear to try even harder.
for men, it's a lot more objective in terms of their attractive factors. a 6'3 dude is clearly taller than a 5'7 dude and therefore clearly more attractive in that factor alone. then you throw money into the equation which is also objective, arm size, body fat percentage, neck thickness, shoulder width etc.
either way it's a lot easier for women to achieve their goals with a mate than it is for men though a lot of women go for the same mate and therefore get stuck in the sex zone repeatedly until they lose all relationship desirability whereas it's a lot harder for men to achieve their goals for a mate but when they pass into the sex only zone, the relationship zone isn't far behind.
10 Reply885 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Oh, men definitely do compete. Usually not the mentally sound ones, but you can look through this website and find all kinds of men who are angry at other men because they are taller, or more successful, or just generally better human beings than them.
30 ReplyBut don't they? Just not necessarily in the same ways? Through their masculinity and actions and maybe even clothes and stuff but I don't thinks it's as direct or calculated as much as it is "I'm going to get the girl" and so whatever he does becomes competition with the next guy just not specifically thought of as that.
10 ReplyReally? likely because of female hypergamy, women want only the top men, so they compete.
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Interesting
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Inaccurate.
Both men and women are picky. it's just that "gold digger basic bitch" type women (ie lazy women with no hobbies), are more often picky about social status and income level, and most men are not super rich or popular. So THOSE women do hypergamy, the rest don't
5.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Men compete. In fact we compete for just about everything. From jobs to fantasy sports. But men generally accept thier place in the pecking order I guess you could say. Then work to improve ourselves and our standing. Because you can't spend your entire life openly fighting everyone.🤣 Guys generally stick to battles they know they can win, or at least have good odds of winning.
10 ReplyI thought it was the other way around, men are very competitive while women don’t give a f
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Well women compete in terms of looks and other stuff a lot
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Hahaha brainwashed by media
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+1 yWe do compete against each other all the time. Our methods and what we compete against each other for varies, though. Usually physical feats are a big one, but we compete in terms of work, leadership, the women we manage to attract, etc.
10 Reply guys compete against guys too lol just in a different way
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+1 yMen compete with other men all the time. They want to be the strongest, the funniest, the most charming etc. It's annoying especially when they try to impress you when there's another guy in the room.
10 ReplyL. Men do compete, and I've seen it with my own eyes
20 ReplyPride. and a lot of times men see it as not worth it.
Woman: "I want you to want me." "I want to get inside your head; experience a loving relationship; to be your entire focus and top priority..."
Man: "I just want to make love to you." "What good is a beautiful woman, if she doesn't turn you on?"
"I did it for the nookie... the nookie! So you can take that cookie..."
"Well, there's more fish in the sea."00 Reply- 2.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
+1 yone would think its obvious.. Its the same reason that the most slut shaming comes from women.. Not men.. the most sexist hateful remarks come from women.. Not men.. Women are WAY more territorial than men are.
10 Reply You say that as if there aren’t really competitive men lol, in my experience they tend to be a dime a dozen in rarity.
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+1 yBecause they're idiots and don't realize their full capacity to change the world.. If only they used this energy for good causes
10 Reply8.8K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Men do it's just in different ways and is never seen as serious as how women take it
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+1 yThe number of women in the world are way more than men so two women can be attracted to one man and the two all want attention so hence the competing and fighting
10 ReplyMen compete with other men all the time , it's just non vocal and hidden in plain sight or they don't bitch about it with others. Men compete in terms of jobs, money , education, company positions, promotions
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+1 yThe only men that are not competing with other men are the top 10% of men that the 90% of women consider perfect. The other 90% of men are competing, and women are definitely not competing for them.
10 ReplyThey do compete in terms of strength and brawn.
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Can I ask you a question?
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Would you dump a great man just because he has a average size penis?
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I’m 6.5 inches long and 4.75 inches girth. Would you cheat on a guy with that size?
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So your just a cheater regardless?
569 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Of course they do! Everyone is competitive within their gender.
10 Reply350 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Men compete with each other ALL THE TIME. Even when we're in diapers we'll still go at it. So I don't know where you're getting this from.
10 ReplyMen compete with other men 100% of the time. That's why I hate these questions that start off by making a conclusion that may or may not even be true.
10 Reply😂😂men don't compete. History is literally full of pissing contests!
10 Reply4.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Men compete all the time, just differently. Rewatch the restaurant scene in Good Will Hunting.
10 Reply951 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Us Guys definitely compete with each other but we just don't interact as much with each other like you Girls do so the more you interact the more obvious the competition gets.
10 Reply446 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Men do compete but are also more willing to close ranks when push comes to shove because the men who did or do were/are more likely to prevail over those who didn't/don't.
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+1 yYou'd be surprised by how much us men compete with each other, and sometimes over ridiculous things.
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Ηahaha like one?
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Well, like over girls.
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Interesting hahahha
+1 yI know I had to compete with other men, when trying to get a date with a girl. Maybe men jist do it differently, and more hidden.
10 ReplyWe compete all the time aswell, especially when lifting heavier weights and doing martial arts.
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+1 yWomen are more attacked by propaganda, hence making them more insecure.
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+1 yWe do, it's just not really in how we look
It's in how much we make
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+1 yThis is the creation. Men and women are always different creatures
10 Reply1.5K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. We don't compete in the same way because our value systems are different.
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+1 yI can tell you as a man we definitely compete with each other
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+1 yI don't know i do think women are more competitive with each other when it comes to looks and the men they can attract though. men’s competition is usually more like sports or business.
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+1 yMen compete with themselves and try to become a better person than we were the day before.
00 ReplyCompete or complete?
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Compete
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Oh interesting
If you think we don't compete with each other, then you haven't been to earth.
00 ReplyMen compete, women are just more de
21 ReplyMen compete with each other big time.
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+1 yThat is a good question.
00 Reply809 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. Men compete all the time.
10 ReplyGuys compete it’s just in a different way
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+1 ymen DO compete… hahaha
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+1 yBecause men are smarter than women.
10 Reply did you think before you asked this question
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+1 yJealousy 🥺
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+1 ywhat does this supposed to mean?
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What i asked is... Why men don't compete with other men
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