I’m pretty sure my friend of 7 years is in love with me, and it makes me so uncomfortable? And even when I try to avoid him we run into each other?

[Anonymous]

I have this friend of 7 years. He’s had a crush on every girl he’s ever been friends with. When we were in high school I was cringe worthy teenager so he thought I was lame. We ended up going to the same University (where I had a glow up and now guys were starting to pay attention to me). Suddenly his behaviour changed. Now this guy is a huge introvert and he struggles to make conversation, so I came up with 20 questions basically so he had a backup when he felt too awkward to start a conversation. But he only ever usually asks me sexual questions. And he went through something horrible recently and when I was consoling him over the phone, he said we should get together and platonically cuddle (which made me uncomfortable- didn’t do it) He often touches me randomly without permission and when I tell him that he can’t do that he acts like I’m making a big deal. The last time I saw him was with another friend but he kept excluding me from the conversation and only turned to me when the topic was gossip or rating guys (which I kept saying I don’t do, wtf rates anyone anymore) - I found that quite insulting and now I feel nauseous every time I even think of him or see him. Everyone says he’s such a sweet, harmless, good guy and they keep asking me to give him a chance but I feel like crying every time people do this. I really want to cut him out of my life and never look back but everyone would make me feel bad about it because he’s such a passive person.

[Anonymous]

You should have lay down the law the first time he touched you. There's no need to stop being his friend unless you simply don't want to be his friend now given what's transpired. But you do need to tell him you consider him a friend and THAT'S ALL! Now considering where things are at don't be surprised if he stops talking to you. And doesn't want to be your friend anymore. Don't take it personal either. He can't help the way he feels and neither can you. For future reference don't put this off hoping it'll go away. You only prolong the inevitable.

[JPresidente]

Unfortunately it seems you are the only one that sees this somewhat gross side of him and the others don't. You could continue to avoid him or you could cue your friends in on his behavior and let them know but that might backfire on you and who wants to spread gossip. I would just avoid him and block him on social media and hopefully he picks up the hint.

[Avicenna]

You should set boundaries for him and suggest how he can get a girlfriend

[HateyouxD]

Gross he sounds like a honest pig

[Iron_Man]

You need to talk to him

[Anonymous]

I don't know.