I think my friend is in love with me?

[Anonymous]

I have a work friend who sometimes flirts but says she's flirted with friends. We play argue a lot and we’ve also drunkenly made out 4 times. I initiated because I was celebrating something but she said she didn’t think I meant anything and it was platonic. She’s casually touched me and she’ll also linger over her shift over 35 minutes just to talk to me. I’ve had this long term interest in this lesbian and think she could be interested and I always talk about her around my friend. My friend and i are both bisexual girls. whenever I bring up this lesbian crush I feel like it gets weird. Last week we were talking about a trip she took where she hooked up with some people and then I was talking about how hot the lesbian was and lesbians in general because the convo segued into it and my friend was like “I’m going to a music festival in 3 months with friends”. My friend reconnected with a guy from out of town and has been sleeping with him and was telling me how she wanted to spend Saturday with him. It’s weird though because she cut him off initially because she told me he gave her the “ick”. I brought up how excited I was to be invited to a classmates birthday and that I was hoping the lesbian girl would be there. My friend right after was like “that’s so cute it’s a tea party” then I said how my old classmate was going to help set me up with the lesbian and my friend was like “is she really?” Then I said I was hoping she would and immediately after my friend was like “oh I have to tell you some tea. My ex texted me”. I posted videos of the party and the day after my friend posted videos of the guy which she hasn’t done. At work I told her I had tea about the party and she said so did she but she let me go first and said she’d tell me hers tomorrow. I told her how I was getting close to the lesbian girl and asked my friend if she was happy for me and she said yeah enthusiastically then said “oh I might be cuffed now. Not officially but it’s heading there”.

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg girl, it really seems like your friend has feelings for you! The signs are all there:

- Making out drunkenly multiple times? Def not just platonic.

- Lingering at work just to talk to you and casually touching you is so not friendly behavior.

- Getting weird and defensive anytime you bring up your crush on the lesbian girl. Major jealousy vibes.

- Cutting things off with that one guy and rushing into something with another dude right after you talked about your crush. Seems desperate to distract herself.

- Posting all those videos right after you to one-up you. Super competitive and insecure.

I think deep down she's had a thing for you this whole time. All that flirting wasn't just friendly, duh! Even if she says it was. And now she's stressing cuz she senses you might actually like somebody else.

You gotta have a serious talk with her girl. Make her admit her feelings and decide what you both really want - just friends or something more? This shit ain't healthy dragging out like this. Put her on the spot!

I'm here if you need to vent more after. But sounds like you got an admirer who's scared to commit, ugh boys are so messy with feelings! Good luck sis 💖