Do guys really care if it's your first time?

[Anonymous]

what's the best way to tell them? is it bad not to say anything until afterwards?

[DaveJord]

Given your age 18 to 24, I do not see it as a bad thing, and it definitely something you should feel safe and good about speaking to him about. Honestly, if you do not feel safe or comfortable talking to him about it, then he is not the one you should give it away to. If he acts as if he does not care about it, then you will know all that you need to know in order to make the right decision.

Myself as a younger man in my 20's it is not something I ever actively sought out in a woman, and it is not something I really cared about either way. I mean if she was a virgin, I was sensitive to the matter with her, and put the extra effort into being gentle and caring with her. But it was not a turn off or turn on, to me.

At 46, yeah, I would seriously care about the fact if she was a virgin or not and, yes it would be a turn off to me. But it all depends on the women, circumstances and situation I was in with her. I mean I am not so naive to turn away from an amazing woman just because she is a virgin. But that would all depend on the reasons and circumstances of her life that got her into her late 30's or earlier 40's without having sex.

I say that because at 46 I do not ever see myself seriously interested in a 20 something virgin, or a 20 something virgin being interested in me. Again, as a young man I had sex with two virgins in my 20's... but at that age sex was all the motivation I needed, and how good or bad it was didn't matter as much to me as the women herself did. At 46 the women really do matter the most to me, but I have different expectations when it comes to sex. I just don't have sex to have sex with someone anymore, I really seek to put the time into the relationship first and foremost. But I seek out people that I feel are highly compatible with me on all levels, and I do not think I could achieve that with a virgin.

[LiamSawyer]

Some guys would not care but myself I would want hereto feel safe and secure knowing I'd be as gentle as possible with her and be open to as much communication as she wants which is important. Foreplay would be very important to get her relaxed, excited and ready for penetration. Feel free to dm me if you have any further questions.

[PinkRose24]

I'm a virgin. I'm pretty sure it depends on the guy you choose to marry. I'm saving myself for marriage. I know that my husband will be gentle with me.

[laraWM]

No, you don't have to tell anything if don't want to

Otherwise, just tell him when you feel you're ready to do it with him

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I would care. Because I would want her to feel safe and secure knowing that she hasn’t done it before and likely has fears. Would want her to tell me and that we can do it together rather than her feeling alone and just bearing any pain and feeling tense.


Does that make sense?

[AmyHew1tt]

Kind of want to know the answer to this too. I've never had a relationship before, let alone a sexual one, but this question causes me a lot of anxiety.

[BarryLiverstone]

Before I had sex I also had lots of questions and fears. I can understand why you would feel the way you feel

[LiamSawyer]

@AmyHew1tt you can read my response to the anonymous asker and reply if you want or feel free to dm me if you have any further questions.

[Anonymous]

Probably a good idea to mention beforehand. Your first time can be a little painful. He needs to know to take things slow.

[harrison102]

It’s got to be somewhat good I guess lol I wish my first time was better then it was and where took place

[Anonymous]

Some guys have a very creepy obsession with virgins.

[PinkRose24]

Yeah and they're not virgins themselves which makes it even creepier