Do guys play it cool when they like a girl or will they show it?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It really depends with my boyfriend for example when I first started meeting him he was acting cool he gave me the “ I don’t care attitude “so each time we met and I went home I felt confused if does he even like me? because he didn’t even try to hold my hand nothing. So after 5 weeks of us getting to know each other that day after we ate dinner I told him I like him and I feel like he doesn’t and that my wings are cut lol I said something stupid like this lol ~ at that moment his reaction changed from 0% I don’t care to 100% I care he hugged me said he likes me too and we kissed.

That day I realized he was shy but it was so hard to tell.. some man know how to appear strong and give the idc attitude !

So based on my experience if you know a guy that you are hanging out often it’s ok if you say it first the -I like you or that you are a kind person I really like - and see where it goes. This is better than dragging it and dragging it. Don’t fall into the lies as “ if you say this to a guy he will run away etc “ no he won’t run away most you will get is a “ no” but at least you will know.
If you don’t hang out with him then yeah ofc first step is to start meeting him she then progress to step 2 etc

itsalyssaagain · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on the guy.

Some guys will chase and shower you with attention to show that they like you.

Others will act nonchalant around you.

It’s dependent on the type of guy they are and how they feel around you - whether they feel secure with themselves or not.

My experiences have shown that it’s best to stay away from the second nonchalant kind because they are selfish and will hurt you when push comes to shove.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I would say that a sincere honest and good man would not hide it and would show it. A confident and accomplished man would not be scared to let be known... I for one would not hide it but I am not really scared of getting hurt or taken advantage of. But most people are not like that honestly, they have some deep-rooted insecurities.

With that said most guys and women, are not as confident as they pretend, and they will not let it be known. They think it gives a power or opportunity to the other person to take advantage of them. That allowing themselve to seem vulnerable in this way weakens their standing in the relationship.

Me personally, I have no problem letting myself seem vulnerable or being honest with my feelings and letting it be known... because we you are not honest, lets be honest hiding it means you are playing games, and nobody likes to play games or being played.

Zbrody1997 · Accepted Answer

It goes without saying, every guy is different some will show it more than others me personally I try to drop hints because I can be a shy guy when I like someone however I’ve met guys who’ve showed zero interest and as soon as the woman was gone admit to wanting to date her so it’s hard to say for sure

Labokachulaa · Answer

I've experienced them both, but I feel like this, someone who sure about you and themselves, will never leave room to guess.

catiecatie · Answer

The guy I have a crush was giving me mixed signals. So I asked him out and he said he was talking to someone. Since I left I have seen him 3 times on dating apps. Not to mention friend suggestion on Facebook. I haven’t looked at his profile in a couple months but it showed up again. I know I’ll see his account again so I’ll probably just ask him again and if nothing still then his loss. Wish me luck though!

lbigtonyl · Answer

It depends on what type of girl I think they are.

[If I think they are any of these, I'll play it cool]: possibly out of my league, they get a lot of attention, successful, or stuck up.

[If I think they are any of these then I'll show I like them outright]:

we are evenly matched in looks/personality, they are shy, or they talk to (me) first. (aka they make the first interaction)

Finchie40 · Answer

If I really like a girl , I will be straight forward with her , but if I am unsure if she likes me back the same I will just be myself, I have the take it or leave it attitude I will hint to her that I am interested but I won’t chase her , I will just look her in the eyes and say come here

sheenagwapa · Answer

this can mean potential rigjt? they will follow you. i didn't know that he liked me (as a potential) i thought i was beinh bullied. i had suspicions of him likinh me but for the most part i thought i was being bullied and played

my soulmate came and it took many months for me to reqlized that i'm beinh helped by all of them.

i am truly grateful for everyone! thank yoy Lord Jesus for not abandoning me.

Makeushiver · Answer

I'll definitely make it clear that I'm attracted. I think desire is what really turns both men and women on. Feeling desirable & desired so I would want her to be aware of that. I'd also try to imply despite my desire, I'm not going to drive off of a bridge if she's not interested. I'd try to be confident but do let he know that I want her.

RingOfFire · Answer

I usually don't play anything. I don't allow my feelings to get ahead of the relationship. The best relationships I've had developed gradually so I start off without an opinion and form it as I get to know her better. So initially I don't show anything because there isn't anything to show. If I get to like her more, she will feel the same. It isn't going to get to that point unless the feeling is mutual.

Gibbons44 · Answer

The time of girls being interesting unless they make effort to be direct, approach, and ask, are behind us. No one wants to buy a cost centre, nor a girl that earns by prostituting. And if you want to be purchased, do not complain later about having decided to become a slave of whoever would pay you.

Guy2809 · Answer

Honestly, some do, some don't. And it depends on what you mean with "playing it cool". In any case, some men are just shy and act indiferent simply because they dont dear speak to a girl. But this is not a rule, you can also evaluate thorugh the lense of personality.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I was never one for playing it cool. Why play the games and keep her guessing? Just start talking to her and see where she is at. No point in playing cool when she's already seeing someone. Kind of defeats the purpose.

LovingJo · Answer

I think it can go either way, some can be lame with their effort, and some can go over board. Both being equally annoying.

Nominal · Answer

I do sometimes love to show į do likę her, usually its be older women 😚🥰 k dont play cool, except keep my head up, being very or trying as much as i can to be clean, and dont behave in very poor manners, im not gentleman, i may likę it in future, but how to say? Hmm, let's say "I don't spit on the ground near women." XD metaphor.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

I got confidence in talking to girls, because you’re only human. But being direct and showing interest is hard. Rejection doesn’t scare me, but nowadays looking at a woman in a way she don’t like is “rape.”

summiter · Answer

I think it varies from guy to guy and how the girl reacts. It also depends on the sexual tension and level of horniness of both of them if that makes any sense.

LittleSally · Answer

Can be either, but I'd stay away from those that pretend they don't like you. They have some issues to resolve before they're stable enough to be in any kind of a relationship.

Genegenehh · Answer

For me, im very shy.
If im in my element and “safe zone” it’s easy to do what I already do and I guess play it “cool” (I was talking to a coworker)
Last girl I tried with, I was a wreck, there was no cool acting I could put on.
I wish I asked her while we were at work, but I asked when we ran into each other.

Hinaaaaa · Answer

But but but the thing is don't go on just showing it he should say it to you cause sometimes people are just being played!

Wade12345 · Answer

I'm too shy when I like a girl. I need to just tell her about as honestly and bluntly as possible, but I have a hard time getting the words out.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I believe the right guy actually prefers to show it to show off and make other guys know of you being possibly involved more. Or maybe I'm just old fashioned lol

SnowedIn · Answer

I'm not going to drool and stage a Broadway musical but, yes, show it to some extent. Otherwise it's a guessing game and no fun.

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

Iam so good to keep it cool. If I remember, I never took any step approaching a girl even if I liked her so much. After my first love never went well, everything changed. But everything got it's time at a right time.

dustybiker · Answer

Most usually try but end up looking awkward. 😁

Fireguy17 · Answer

I show it. Why not let someone know that you are interested in them, it sure takes the guess work out of the process, and it can help speed things up.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think many guys will play it cool while guys that have a high confidence show it off in a rather obvious way.

Avicenna · Answer

It depends on his personality, confidence and experience. I don't see a need to hide interest.

Ecologygirl76 · Answer

It really depends on the guy. Both of those extremes show inexperience in my opinion. The experienced guy will know exactly how much interest to show but won't be over the top about it.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Depends. Like anyone, we would like for the person we're interested in to know we like them. Most people will play it cool, while some will let it be known

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

That really depends on the guy. Some are cool, some play it cool, some are nervous and some just avoid you.

elizamichale1 · Answer

I think initially they just play it cool but then they just jump right into it

AdithyaR · Answer

Depends on the guy, some show it, some okay it cool, then there's ones like me who run away from there.

MysticDevice · Answer

Oh I show it. But the way I show it is by turning into a nervous dweeb and can barely string a sentence together.

Nigjt · Answer

If I like the way ur wiggling that ASS back their then ain't nothing going to stop me from showing if u are showing me the same thing HELL I'LL scream it from the Damn rooftop. God Bless

Shy_Steve · Answer

Usually we try to play it cool, But usually it makes us look like we are not interested when we are. We don't show it because we don't want to be considered Creepy or Weird by you.

randomcitizen · Answer

It will actually depend on the man, if he's really extroverted he might want to tell you or try to act cool, I don't know. But if he's introvert he might want to tell you but his shyness will not let that happen.

clampfan101 · Answer

This absolutely depends on the guy. We’re individuals with different personalities, not a hive mind. lol

EaterPeter · Answer

It varies. I tend to say something. I asked two women that you come here often? And said I was trying to find what are the chances of us running into each other again.

es20490446e · Answer

For most of my life I played it friendly. Today I would poke your leg.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

That's always the plan, but I just end up being awkward... lol

LiamJHayden · Answer

I'm straight up. Why waste my time and hers?

Anonymous · Answer

I give a woman what she gives me. I don't "play it cool". But I do have self respect. If I get nothing from her, she gets NOTHING from me.

NurseKN · Answer

It kind depends on how comfortable I am with the other person. If I feel like she is a stranger I would be more reserved. If I know her and trust her I would be a little more outgoing.

Pleebody21 · Answer

guys would always like to play it cool but sometimes the hormones control him

loveslongnails · Answer

Depends on the girl, but generally speaking, "less is more".

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Well, we've been taught not to show it. So most won't.

Likes2drive · Answer

Some do and some don’t it really depends on the guy

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Depends on the guy. I always tried to show it or just say it as soon as I liked them.

Dav1dTh0ma389 · Answer

Different guys do different things. Can't generalize

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I personally show it then let her decide if she's interested back.

dinojames22 · Answer

I normally end up sticking my foot in my mouth trying to "play cool". So I stopped trying and it's more successful

krin_m · Answer

It is better if they show it. For both of them.

Jaylenn · Answer

play it cool i think

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

Just tell me but play it coy

Hassan_8 · Answer

Guys aren’t all the same

SphynxUK · Answer

Depends on his personality.

serious · Answer

Depends on the guy, both type of guys are there.

samuluaa · Answer

Some guys yes but not all

Orion76 · Answer

I play it cool but they still know.

talka20 · Answer

Id show n give hints n signals a bit

LegendaryDater · Answer

yep cool as a cucumber lol

Luopio27 · Answer

Im a walking catastrophy.

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