Is a guy trying to get sexual favours after you established before hanging out that you weren’t in the mood for it. A red flag?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

[FilmGuy93]

I guess it depends on how forceful he is about it, but generally, that sounds like a red flag.

[spartan55]

You said you weren't in the mood and then you were all over him wanting sex. You JUST posted that yesterday.

[spartan55]

Do you think everyone just forgets your posts. The whole trainer saga and all that drama?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

The trainer saga is old news. I haven’t posted or mentioned him in a while now. What the hell does any of that have to do with any of this?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Because he was all over me and suggesting sex we had a couple drinks I had a change of heart

[spartan55]

I brought up the trainer deal because you post here like this community is stupid and don't remember what was posted. That's why it has to do with this, because you misled, double talked and lied throughout that whole deal. You didn't become a different person since then, that's my point.
So, because he was all over you and you had a change of heart you think all is good. No guy is ever going to take you seriously when you talk out of both sides of your mouth. You knew what he was after, and went over there anyway.

[spartan55]

Now, you have this thread believing you are a victim here when you haven't told the whole story... such bullshit.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I did tell the entire story I told him before I even got there that I didn’t want sex.
He said that’s fine.
When I got there he tried to get it.
I said no.
We spoken, hours passed we had some drinks. He suggested it again and I decided to try.
You just dislike woman don’t you? I was at least taken advantage of and honestly why would I want an addict to take me seriously anyway

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

How the fuck did I know what he was after if he told me he didn’t care about sex and it wasn’t necessary he literally told me he just wanted to spend time with me

[spartan55]

Nice attempt at deflecting everything back onto me but I like women just fine. That doesn't even make sense considering I'd be calling out a dude in the same circumstance. So just stop.
I was referring to telling the whole story in your post so the community can give an informed opinion. I was also referring to this community taking you seriously. You are going to sit there and say you were taken advantage of? See, this is what I'm talking about with you. You are ALWAYS the victim and never take any responsibility for what happens to you. Do you ever wonder how you end up in these car crashes with guys? You don't think you have ANYTHING to do with it? You knew what he wanted and went out with him anyway. How are you taken advantage of when you were all over him for sex too?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Look I don’t have to justify myself he had no right to expect sex when I told him straight up no. I was responsible enough to tell him I didn’t want sex before I got there. I was not all over him until after he tried and tried and I turned him down. It’s just weird

[spartan55]

You hooked up the first night you were with him... and you didn't know what he was after the next time? "he wanted to spend time with me" He said that because he knew you would buy it.

[spartan55]

Where am I asking you to justify anything? Missed that. Now you are starting to make shit up... I seem to remember this from before.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

How am I playing the victim I said it was a red flag? Holy shit if he wasn’t trying and trying to get it I would’ve have tried anything. And honestly I left half way through his attempt at getting what I wanted I just walked out then blocked him I was tired of it with him

[spartan55]

But what the part where you jumped him? You left in the middle of that?
"I was at least taken advantage of" that's not playing the victim. Keep talking.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

Well he did he made sexual moves on me within 15 mins of me getting there after me warning him hours prior. He kept offering me drinks and trying to hook up then eventually I caved whilst tipsy. Maybe I shouldn’t have left him with blue balls. He did try to calm me down and scope out the situation to see if everything was okay between us but I already had made my mind up that this one isn’t for me

[spartan55]

So, it's all on him then, is that what I'm understanding?

[MrCommodore]

I'd say yes, but it depends on the situation really.

[BJP21]

That's a sexual predator, run.

[Keishio]

Pm me about it then

[Guardian45]

YUP!

[TallAnon]

Yes.