I’d say it’s case by case.
Different people may form strong attachments at a faster or slower pace. The timing isn’t always the exact same. If these are his genuine feelings, then I don’t see complimenting you as a problem.
If those aren’t his genuine feelings and he’s just love-bombing you as a manipulative tactic, then you should be wary.
But again, if it’s genuine, I don’t see a problem.
The thing that’s concerning is that he’s being persistent about you coming over to see him.
If you’ve already expressed that you want to take things slow, he shouldn’t pressure you to do what you aren’t comfortable doing yet.
If he’s disrespecting your boundaries and not honoring your requests to take things slow, that’s a red flag.
He can love you as much or as little as he wants to. That’s HIS choice.
But, returning the compliments or coming over to his place is entirely YOUR choice, and he shouldn’t be putting any pressure on you, especially if you already voiced that you want to take things slow.
Otherwise, you’ll end up being with a guy that can’t take no for an answer. Which isn’t good because that means he doesn’t care about how you think and feel, it would mean he only cares about his own selfish desires.
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It sure is, unless you are both on the exact same page in terms of wanting things to be moving that fast. There's even a name for it. It's called "love-bombing." And it's never a good thing. It's often the prelude to really really really messed-up relationships. Many horrible (sometimes scary) relationships start off with love-bombing. It... is worth a google search of "love-bombing" to see both how well your situation is described by what you find... but also to learn a bit more about some of the reasons that this IS a red flag. Because it is. 🙂
Yes. That’s called love bombing. In short, this is a trick manipulators use.
Yes, he probably recently broke up and wants to continue where he left off
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Not necessarily. After my divorce, I started dating a woman who I liked a lot. I took things slow... not wanting to pressure her or scare her away. After 3 dates, she enforced her 3-dates-with-no-chemistry rule and broke it off. I was devastated.
After that, I didn't hesitate to let the woman I was dating know that I was interested in her, both physically and emotionally. I had some very nice relationships, and eventually met my SO. After a passionate kiss at the end of our first date, we've been together for 7 years now.
It is… what’s the rush? Hold on
It can be. But hey, if a guy doesn't come at you aggressively enough your gender concludes he's just not really interested. A guy cannot win.
This is pretty simple, if you like him, if you want this to continue then reciprocate at least enough to show that you're interested but you're a good girl (assuming you're a good girl). But if he's coming at you too strongly then level with him. Tell him you like him. You appreciate his effort. But he needs to slow his roll. Because he's in the door. Any DECENT guy will wait. And if he doesn't want to wait and goes full steam ahead on you then that tells you he ain't listening to you. It's all about what he's trying to achieve with you.
Maybe he wants to spend time with you. Get to know you, that’s all. If it’s isolation to only you, that’s unhealthy. Just give it a chance when you feel it’s unhealthy, talk to him and give him some sort of boundary.
Bro make up your mind. Either you want a guy who is interested in you or you want a guy who is flakey about it. If you dont want my love and attention then its obvious you are not interested in me
Depends on how long you've known each other
I've known a girl 10 years, and we've never actually hung out together
Yes, I get it, so how have I known her 10 years. Well, it's difficult to explainMaybe he doesn't have much experience with women. I was a late bloomer who didn't have my first girlfriend until 21 and looking back I probably seemed overbearing. I wasn't trying to manipulate or play any mind games with her. I was just so excited to have a girlfriend and wanted to spend every second I could with her.
Sounds like he is desperate and/or he is on the rebound.
Why would it be a red flag. Sleeping with you it is cuz you know if that's the only thing he wants. But if it's only dates then you should be fine
Yes, if any girl did exactly what you said in your question, it would bother me for sure yes it sure is a red flag and scary for sure.
Hell yeah he just wants to fuck, so he's telling you want you want to hear. That's in like page one of things to watch out for
I feel that complimenting every day is way to much, that is classed as love bombing. Also wanting to see you every day is a bit much. Complimenting a little is ok.
Definitely too fast... Ask him what the hell's the rush.
ah. you're the rebound and he is lovebombing you. very scary and unhealthy stuff. i'd seriously back away from him.
I don't think so. But you can tell if him if you don't like the pace that he is going.
Love bombing is dangerous. Mostly toxic men do that.
not necessarily, maybe he just really wants company
He's just super into you and probably wants to have sex.
No he’s showing he’s interested. Damned if you do damned if you don’t
Nope. Being a hopeless romantic is cool.
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