How to fix this situation or is it too late? ?

[Latham142]

So this guy and I have been talking for a bit. Last Thursday he came to visit me from a different city and he made it official. He also said he planned n coming back early this week. Everything was normal the day after but on Saturday he texted good morning and I asked if he could call me. He read the text and didn’t respond. I spent the rest of that day, Sunday and Monday blowing up his phone. He hasn’t respond but also hasn’t blocked me on anything. I talked to my older brother and he said I likely irritated him because I was blowing up his phone and kept demanding he call me. Friday after we talked I did text him asking to call, and on Saturday when he texted me god morning I continued to blow up his and that’s when he stopped. He hasn’t said anything to me and just declined when I repeatedly tried to FaceTime him. I realized my mistake, completely own up to it. I have anxiety and sometimes especially with talking with him it can get the best of me. However seeing this is a man I truly like, I am willing to change and not repeat that behavior with him. But I’d like to first get another chance with him. He hasn’t read any of the texts (his read receipt stays on), which makes me think he muted my notifications. (He did recently block someone he didn’t know who tried to call/text him and changed his phone settings to where any number he doesn’t know is automatically blocked) but He hasn’t blocked me and still has me on his socials but just been silent. I now just stopped contacting him or blowing up his stuff anymore now (last night). My brother and male friends said I should just stop pestering him and eventually he’ll respond. They don’t think I permanently ruined anything with him, he’s just likely irritated and that’s why he’s ignoring me. His close friend said he’ll talk to him about it and try to help patch it. Any advice? I hoping after 2-4 days of me giving him space he reaches back out and we’ll talk about it and go from there.

[SueShe]

I have a bit of a hard time understanding some of your expressions. If you blow up the guy's phone, not only will you infuriate him but on the long run, it will start to be really costly for him to get a new phone every time. Also, how can you have access to his phone to demolish and destroy it?

Anyway, apart from this detail, you should refrain from destroying other people's belongings because you would certainly not like it if others did it to you, right?

Now, if you have the feeling that you go on someone's nerves, best is to give that person the distance and time he needs. It is certainly not to your advantage to go on people's case. Everyone needs some alone time and having the need to be available 24/7 for others is something that many people (including me) absolutely abhor.

Give him a 7 days break and see if it changes anything. Good luck.

[Stevefiveo]

Hmm, well you definitely have to right to ask for a phone call and he definitely should have responded. It is on him, that you had to blow up his phone because he didn't reassure you and that is his job. I would not bother to fix it. I would say move on and find a guy that will respond to you. He could have at least text back. Hey , I got busy I will talk to you when I get a chance. But to ignore you is rude.

[Latham142]

Surprising though, this is the first time he’s ever done something like this. He’s been consistent for three years. He made it official on Thursday, but I just know after he texted me good morning, I responded saying I was going to call him he left it on read. That was the last time he said anything to me. He’s never done anything like the before. I’m completely caught off guard

[Stevefiveo]

Oh I'm sorry. That is a real dick move on his part.

[Guy13]

You should go for it especially if you have determined to both control and not repeat bad behaviors.

[Latham142]

I don’t want to lose him or sabotage what we were building. I’m willing to change and fix. Whatever it takes.

[Iron_Man]

Try to get a long go with the flow be positive be happy

[In_Trance]

Too late

[Latham142]

I hope not. But I think when his friend talks to him, I think that’s definitely gonna help. His values his family and friends opinions highly. His friend likes me and understands exactly what transpired. He said he’ll talk with him. He’s been friends with him for years. He hasn’t blocked me or unadded me either. He does have a tendency to block people when he cuts them off.