Does he not want to hangout out with me❓?

[Anonymous]

I just need advice I might be overthinking. But me and this guy have been out a few times and he’s always asked me. So I figured why not ask him to hang out this weekend. He said that he has work Saturday but wasn’t sure if he has work Sunday. So is that true or does he not want to hang out with me? Or is it that he doesn’t want to be rude and say no so he makes excuses?

[Guy13]

From your post, I can not tell how long you have been dating. What is clear is that you are feeling neglected or ignored. Sometimes we guys sort go with the flow oblivious about how what we are doing is affecting another.

If this is new and you're just starting to date then acting and feeling too needy can be interpreted as a negative. If you guys have been dating 6 months or so then there should be room for straightforward conversation. Try not to overthink it and get to nosy because he may think you do not trust him for no reason.

Good luck with it... Hope approaching Valentine's Day works out. This weekend ought to be a little different as you should get all his time.

[Asker]

We just started seeing each other but I told him I was free this weekend and if he wanted to hang out or if he didn’t then it’s fine but he said he would “let me know”. I didn’t want to seem clingy or anything. I just figured since he asked a few times, maybe I should be the one to?

[WaterIsland]

Overthinking for sure. Sometimes people are just busy. Keep working to coordinate your schedules to find a time that works for both of you.

[Wise4myage]

Classic over thinking. Does he work on Sunday a lot?