I don't usually pull in my school and when I did, it happened to be a senior. We called, talked, every time he'd see me in school, he'd be shy and smile turning away. He would attempt to come over to my table but showed signs of anxiety. He stated many times that he wanted me, liked me, and wanted to even marry me. We opened about depression and things in the past that happened. He comforted me. We never were official but he expressed his crush towards me. He even stated once, "I was thinking about you earlier and thought damn I think I'm in love."
Two days ago, he came up to me and got my number. These girls kept giving me dirty looks after he did this. I made a post about it (petty ik) saying "Death glares over a dude is crazy, if you want it, take it." For the past week, we barely talked and he was just distant but he'd still smile at me like he was in love. He had always left me on opened for silly reasons, such as a good morning or a response to his story. I felt petty and did that, just that once.
(If you read the post before, this has more background info but reading that will come up.)
I got no back text or anything. Yesterday, he was smiling once again and I felt he wanted to come up to me. Today he posted a picture of himself kissing another girl :/ and he also unadded me. The image was 17 hours from camera roll which meant it was on the day I left him on opened. I have major attachment issues and I happened to be attached, still am but I am not sure what to really do anymore. I want to be able to find someone even if it doesn't last. My family issues relate into my attachment and abandonment issues as well which causes me to be this way.
I know most people are going to say is move on, focus in school but I can't help but hate the lack of love in my life.
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Sorry this is happening. What's your question?
why'd he do that after everything that happened
Honestly? I think it was your post about if you want it take it. I get what you were trying to say. But look at it from his perspective: that post made it look like you wouldn't care if they took it. The kiss and the picture sound like anger and passive aggressive lashing out.
Maybe, just maybe, find him in person and try to explain. Possibly he'll listen.
But thinking about it, for a person who wanted me first, called me cute, and just moved on fast, it makes no sense. The kiss was an image of him smiling and kissing with a love song. What if they are officially dating and he just used me? His cousin told me today how he's on the weird side, I ignored so many icks but at the end of the day, I got played? I don't know it doesn't add up yk?
You're not wrong... there's so much there. Yeah, possible you got played or, more specifically, that he's just a player.
and whats funny is that there is more to the story :0, he's mid looking but I don't know i still can't help but feel something yk. He opened up about something I can relate to (self harm) and he said he's there for me if I ever thought about it. It's just hard to believe that a guy tells you about his ex and he just disappears. Men confuse me so much.
Men are confusing and women are confusing. I agree that he sounds sus but I stand behind what I wrote first that your post is a big part of this... all the previous stuff notwithstanding
but he'd post shady stuff all the time and if you want someone, you dont just give up especially if you reassured yk. told him i liked him today once again, he was smiling like it was ok yesterday so why sudden change
Those are great questions. Back to player lol
yeah, ill think about it ig
Actually, you need to talk to him. No judgement. No accusations. More of a "what happened? One day it was like this and now it's like this?" Gauge his response from that.
i know but is it really worth it?
I sense you want closure so from that perspective, yeah.
:( I don't know how to just go to him yk, plus what if he screams at me
Is he a screamer type? Based on what you've written so far, that doesn't seem likely but...
I do know what you mean about just going to him. Message maybe?
I don't know he's been the shy type but anger can get to the head, he unadded me :0
That sucks about unadded. Blah.
And, you're right about anger, but my gut is telling me you wouldn't get yelled at.
But to you're question about whether it's worth it, I think you have to answer inside yourself whether you want the closure, the "why" (or any other answers). If you do, then you figure out how to crack his shell.
he's always with someone, plus what if he just thinks im obsessed with him or sum
Equally a legit question. But, again, it's up to whether you want answers.
But, irrelevant if he thinks you're obsessed, I think.
thank you for listening, ill let you know any updates 🥹🙏🏽
You're very welcome. Happy to hash through this and I really do wish you the best.
I know it sucks. 😥