We are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend but we have made it clear we do NOT want to share each other. This morning I woke up to a girl commenting on his post and in return he said “thanks beautiful”. Am I in the wrong for feeling like this? Is this a red flag? And how do I talk to him about this? I’m trying to be sensitive because he is dealing with a lot of deaths in the family.
Yes. You are wrong to be heartbroken about this. For several reasons.
First, factually, there will always be people who are more [fill in the blank] than us. Including beautiful/handsome.
Second, because he says that doesn't mean he doesn't think you are. I have said this about other women -- my wife understands. But it takes openness and committed intimacy and TRUST.
Third, frankly, I'm skeptical of whatever this is between you two. It sounds... something. You're not "officially" boyfriend and girlfriend and yet you've talked about not "sharing" each other? Is this tiramisu? A casserole at a potluck?
I don't think this is a red flag. BUT, I do validate that this is important to you. If it's important to you then, yes, you should talk to him about it. Don't be judgmental. Don't be accusatory. Just tell him that that sort of thing bothers you. He'll either respect that or not. If he doesn't you have additional choices to make.
The point here is that relationships are, first and foremost, about communication. And secondly about trust. But if you can't communicate you don't have a relationship, regardless of what you're doing or what you call it.
I’m confused about why you aren’t boyfriend/girlfriend yet exclusive. That doesn’t make much sense.
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You need to talk to him and ask him out, because technically he isn’t wrong in any way.
Dude he's not even your boyfriend and you started your insecurities...
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