I was involved with a narcissist, and he told me that I was broke every day all day. One day he called me broke 152 times in a half an hour. When he met me he knew I wasn’t rich and he said he was OK with me then all of a sudden he started reminding me that I was broke every day. He said that God sent him to me to remind me that I am broke so I can repent and change my life. He said that when other girls are approached by a man and told that they are broke that they shut up, pay attention, and fall in line. I think he told me that I was broke every day because I refused to have a baby twice when we were together because I said that I was still in school and he would always deny me affection and he didn’t seem to have anything going to help support a baby. Why did he tell me that I was broke everyday?
He said that he doesn’t take me out on dates because he’s used to women that wear all designer clothes and he doesn’t want to be the only guy in the room with a broke girl.
He said that he doesn’t take me out on dates because he’s used to women that wear all designer clothes and he doesn’t want to be the only guy in the room with a broke girl.
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To be honest if my partner told me "God sent me to you to remind you that you are broke" I would burst out laughing because it sounds like doing satire or something... But apparently he was serious and you even "believed" him and felt bad about all of his ridiculous game.
Aside from being a narcissist he is also quite cheap if his only weapon is "broke", so he kept using that. And he even attempted to trap you with him through a baby, knowing that once you're a mother you're not going anywhere.
Anyway, the reason is that he wanted to make you feel so bad you had no resistance barriers anymore, gaining control over you and feeling better than you in comparison, because in fact he hated you and needed you there because addicted to his sadistic game. Pretty much expecting he will play the victim role and guilt trap you to come back once he will understand you are actually completely over him and minding your business. Do NOT allow him back for any reason, even though you might hope so because you might be still manipulated but that's your current challenge to resist against that. And do not allow any future man to be a terrible parent of your children. People with narcissist parents grown up broke for real and plenty of psychological issues and challenges. Don't give this miserable destiny to any child, select carefully the father of your children.
I'm very glad you talk in the past, you "were" involved and not anymore.
For the future, remember what you want from a relationship, which is probably not humiliation but a connection with your partner, the ability to trust him, feeling cared, supported, encouraged, loved in general, and that doesn't cause you any anxiety. Don't lower this standard because it's not so "uncommon" to find a proper boyfriend, and don't let this narcissist make you think you deserve nothing and have to accept what you get. It's part of his game, don't let it in.
No that is rude.
Tell him give me money mf lol tf