I'm really curious about this.. We've been talking for 2 months and suddenly he blocked and ghosted me :( What could be the exact reason here? Why do guys ghost?
Why Do Guys Ghost?
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We can't tell you the exact reason with so few details, but usually people (male and females) ghost because they want to avoid any responsibility to deal with their own decisions. If they don't want to talk with you, or face an argument you started, or give you explanations about something, or got another date, they could get irresponsible and ghost you because it's easier. This however causes most often an emotional abuse and it's much harder to endure for the ghosted person, than facing the issue for the ghoster. So you can pretty much label him as an immature coward and you have all the right to feel angry at any emotional abuse you get. Maybe no need to express the anger to him, but at least you can totally feel validated in feeling angry inside because that is just normal and he won't give you the missing respect he left you with, so being angry might actually give you the energy back.
Also, if this is the way he deals with problems, well you pretty much dodged a bullet, imagine how bad he would be to face problems in a relationship, maybe he would give you the silent treatment or throw faults at you to avoid carrying them on his shoulders, who knows.
Now the reason he wasn't interested anymore in talking is surely obscure to us, but I think the reasons could be: you became very needy and clingy and he needed freedom from all the "duty" and indirect guilt this implied; you were exaggerately negative and he had enough of absorbing all bad news from you and spending emotive energies in supporting you; he got interested in another woman, or an ex came back, and he was too coward to give you an explanation so he secured himself behind a block; he played with you until now for his own ego and realized he was leading you on because you were serious instead, and felt ashamed; he is married and was cheating on his wife, then proceeded to delete your contacts and block you when he risked to be caught.
Of course there could be more reasons but these are all assumptions, it's up to you to understand which scenario might fit better with your case.
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People ghost because they're afraid of confrontation and the repercussions of their actions.
Rather than say they're no longer interested in you or found someone else.. you know, being honest, they rather block or ghost you. No fighting, no telling the truth or being accountable for your actions: they assume you will "get the hint" and move on.
Is that right? Absolutely not. But the minute a guy ghosts me, I take the hint and block him back as well: don't ask questions or look for closure because you're not gonna get it.
That’s a good question. An even broader question is why does anyone ghost? I think it’s very immature and shows the lack of respect that people have for one another nowadays. If two people start texting, first of all there’s a good reason nowadays to be suspicious if the person is even legitimate. Once they have proven themselves, things can become more trusting. But still, even at that, people who are legitimate and know each other ghost too. It’s a sign that people can’t just be responsible and honest with each other. It’s easier to act irresponsible by just ignoring and acting like they didn’t get the message, or they act too busy. That’s obviously bullshit because no one is that busy! Especially when the whole damn world sat at home without a job and many still do, using Covid as an excuse. I can see not answering someone for a full day due to work or being away from their devices, but beyond that, if you are actually an honest person and have any level of maturity, as a common courtesy you just make a way to respond back to someone and give them the common human decency of acknowledging the other person.
I really hate texting to be honest. I think electronic devices, apps, and texting in general has really removed the humanity and natural communication traits of most people. Especially in the younger generations. It’s actually very scary to see what the future holds with so many people who have almost no natural communication skills! For the ability to be mature and responsible about their communication!
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It's because you haven't earned the position where you're close enough to deserve a meaningful explanation. Also you're not at the point where a meaningful explanation even exists.
What's a dude gonna say? "Sorry, I met someone and the way I feel about her quickly made me feel like all the possibility I saw with you was just delusion."
"Sorry, I'm bored of you." ?
Basically there's a discrepancy between the two of you in terms of how "serious" you you think of your situationship.
I'd say that if "you've been talking for two months" and you're getting ghosted, then you're probably fake to a certain extent and you're not actually putting yourself out there and developing a deeper intimacy.
If after two months he still thinks of you as just a "girl he knows" and hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend or had sex with you (maybe you're being ghosted after sex, so maybe not) or made SOME form of commitment, then you're probably doing it all wrong.
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They just don't like the vibe of the relationship, but don't feel like going through the discomfort of trying to explain themselves.
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If you are talking to a guy online and he blocks/ghosts you, more than likely he's been speaking to someone else the same time, and they got to him first.
So, instead of letting you know it is just easier to step away.
The only other reason, is his current girlfriend or wife hacked into his account, found out he was speaking to you, and he is currently staked to the ground over a series of fire ant hills with his balls dipped in honey.
If I were you, I would hope for the latter.🤠
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Wow, very sorry that happened to you. That is utterly low down and disgusting. I've had the same experience with women in the past. I imagine he probably did it for the same reasons those women do: because he met someone else and didn't want to say it, so he cut you off to avoid the conversation.
But personally I believe women ghost people way more often than men do, and women will try to justify their reasons much more as well. Saying things like "I don't owe anybody any explanation for my decision," "I don't have to tell anyone why I don't want to talk to them anymore," or "They'll get the message." They create these self-justifying excuses because deep down they feel guilty about it, and excuses are always a guilty conscience's best friend.
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Because, having been themselves ghosted in the past, they learned it and apply it to their oresent relationships as a defemse mexhanism. Or he met someone and is a fucking loser and you are better off without them. It has become normalized unfortunately for all orientations. I blame dating apps. Try Meetup. com, I met a real fun lady at adult tag and dodgeball night. You could imagine that was fun to get into. We quickly get addicted to our partemrs pheremones, once you body gets over that, you will he fine.
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Because for me, the reason I ghost is would want sex. We should meet up. If it doesn't happen within a reasonable amount of time. One would wonder if she was even interested in me as a person vice versa. I'm sure the thought is the same as well. I mean after awhile you do start wondering where things are progressing... Not sure about you, but I don't like being let on nor do I think it's right to deny someone sex because of some injustice that happens or a power play. You shouldn't keep score like that.
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Women do the same thing. I was at a birthday party at a bowling alley for a buddy of mine. This 1 girl was on my team and she was just flirting with me to no end. Once the game was over and we celebrated his birthday,... she encouraged me to look her up and connect with her. It did take me a while to find her, but I finally found her. As soon as I sent her a friend request and connected with her,... BAM! she automatically blocks me. I was quite confused, pissed and VERY unimpressed by that.
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Sometimes a person ghosting another is because they expect the other person to fill a gap they feel in their life. When they realise that gap isn't being filled and they don't have the drive to pursue the other, they ghost. The feelings then they had for the other suddenly disappears when they realise nothing's gonna be different.
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There could be various factors that come into play here. Have you guys met in person? A few factors to consider (no intention to offend, I'm just stating possible factors):
* You don't look like your photos (using filters, excessive make up etc)
* He is getting attention from another girl in turn she's getting his now too
* He is in a relationship possibly looking to cheat or test the waters in this territory and his partner has found his history with you
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In life we’re all looking for something & if we don’t fine what we are looking for we look elsewhere & simply move on. As for talking you said you two have been talking for two months & he suddenly blocked you. In the two months did you two really talk face to face or over the phone or did you two JUST text & message each other?
I have to be honest here if texting & messaging after two months is the only thing that was happening I would probably ghost your ass too.
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There are numerous reasons, but it's not an appropriate thing to do. I've had it happen to me several times. It's better to just tell the person that you're not interested in having a romantic relationship or any type of relationship with them.
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Women ghost too.
That said, the answer is, I think, people don't like confrontation and awkward encounters or talking maturely or a host of other reasons. I think some believe that ghosting is better or nicer than whatever the real reason is. -
As soon female bring drama specially ex or ex's.
Also when females believe sending funny videos and not going out to get to know each other they believe text is sufficient to date. 😑. Dumbest idea. -
Because even though he's not interested in you, he likes keeping his options open and so any thought of closing things officially just stresses him out.
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Either because he isn't getting sex, or because he got the sex and didn't have to do much
2 months of talking is friend zone.
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Could be a bunch of reasons, you annoyed him and pushed his buttons, he found someone else, he was just using you and got what he wanted.
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Women piss us off with emotional bombardment especially text 💣💣💣
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Unfortunately, you’re never gonna find out. Is it the right thing to do? Of course not. I don’t know the reason why he went Danny Phantom on you, but there’s not much you can do at this point.
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These kind of guys aren't relationship kind. Better to stay away from them. They are most possibly into for hook ups or one night stands which a good woman doesn't want to be in
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Because women do.
Because women have done it to us and it wouldn't be fair if we didn't do it too -
He may do it because he find a deal breaker on you, but he's a coward for doing that.
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